Hey Its Barron Cruz from Charisma Matrix
And I cannot
over-emphasize how important social momentum
is. Moment in interaction and communication
truly has an amount of inertia in it that makes it, that makes it so
so much easier to come across socially well into and say the right things that
happen spontaneity is we all look for
once you've warmed up. For instance when I wake up in the morning
single out just woke up 15 minutes later
and i'm taking a cuppa coffee right my brain is firing in about 15 percent
when it comes to us by socialists maybe I'll stumble over my words may be a cane
thinking anything to say oh what size the coffee you want sir
Ave into medium coffee right
packs natural what happens on different scales to everybody
but we want to use that to our advantage to get that jumbo jet that Boeing
Business Jet
up in the air by the time we have important interactions
were cruising altitude thirty thousand be what's nicer
are you have and a double cup little room for cream right it comes off very
quickly
I got the coolest leary said I love its my example
but once you get that momentum going
everything is so much easier so I talked about this before
like within interview the last thing you want to do is go into stone dry having
not spoken to anyone in the 45-minute commute
sitting in the waiting room for 15 minutes not going it's supposed to be
this
gregarious outgoing happy person that's not how it works
I think you're trying to start a lawn mower had started the year
pollinated rumored mostar feels like it's rusted out
what we want to do is have that nice self-propelled mower going so we walk in
we're just
right like that so how do we do it
want to start by talking to people so what I would do if I have an important
phone call
I will never go into a call all call three my body started 20 minutes before
just a shootaround to say hey what's going on which this weekend yeah
just talking get that and social mental going I'm so you have a big presentation
will talk to people don't go back in a room by yourself
and start giving the presentation because there's no social pressures
like a really warming up for something that's going to be totally different
who are you presenting really because all you're fighting is a social pressure
anyone could present a room by themselves in Premiere
but not everyone can when there's four hundred businessman staring down
to do something similar get on the phone start talking to people
go out there maybe start talking to people in the audience people you don't
know you know certain mingle in a little bit
get that competence get back to get the inertia going behind you
so when you stop up there you were just talking a minute ago
CIA spirit cruise intended to talk to you about social momentum
it easy as opposed to sometimes been set back in a chair
and now a job Amerigroup hello everybody
today I'm going to talk to you about social madame it is very hard to go from
zero to 60
as opposed to going from zero to fifteen now you're talking your body
now are you talking to the bodywork your thirty you know you stop the restaurant
we quickly
strike up a small conversation with a stranger dire 45
you get one more call for sure sixty you walk in there and you've got back
it's very I guess it's not counter-intuitive
but most people don't realize how important that is your I did for years
I didn't realize or sometimes just feel like you're gonna and sometimes if you
like your of
but when you look back at look back at it you know
you'll realize that most the time when you really felt on my kids got into that
rhythm
very nice easily it's because you have social a man behind you from something
that happened previously
so how we apply this well worse with the most important social our actions we
have
interview phone call you going to a party was pretty clear what you're gonna
do
you going to a party you're talking to people the entire that time there
shot by yourself we're on the phone talking your body is your body's going
on Chicago you call him but we're just over night
our going to American junkie home nice to get the route back on their
you're talking to get out to talk to the ballet a man what's going on I'm at work
here
what's it like in there has the crowd cool going just got that momentum so now
it's nice easy to more natural
to continue talking to someone so use the bar example
let's say you comment about madam you check the valley has a chrome it's nice
to actually it's a
there's a group enough from Tech Crunch and they're gonna be either be alright a
good crowd
call an see you later take care that we are particular 4
step up to the bar it's gonna be more natural
to say hey to the person next to you than it is to be quiet because you've
got that momentum it feels natural
many from the tech press convention no oh yeah I heard there in saudi do around
here
nice just natural flow you get too much momentum to slow down right it's gonna
take a lot to stifle you at that point
as opposed to use it wasn't a Frank Sinatra actually
witness a Mozart sure park the car de carava
go to the bar now how hard is it was gonna say to that guy
a has your night much much more difficult
some people can snap from zero socialist 200
but even those people perform much better when they have that momentum
behind him
should understand this and thinking how you can apply in your life never show up
to an important event reporting interaction her presentation dry
get that sixty miles an hour set that cruise control
and you just gonna roll smoothly the social interaction
you to feel very natural and stifled it's really gonna improve the way you
perceive in the way your communication goes that night