Welcome, welcome….
I am Breakup Brad, and I’m about to explain how a little-known Jedi Mind Trick is the
key to reversing a breakup and starting over with your ex.
Yeah, well, I’m not Yoda, unfortunately…
but I am an Ex Back Jedi Master.
I’m also a breakup coach with over a decade of experience helping people like yourself
get back together with their ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend.
And over that time, I’ve seen first-hand what’s worked and what doesn’t work when
it comes to repairing things with an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend…
in fact, I’ve helped over 100,000 clients re-unite with their ex.
And in this video, I’ll be explaining a “Jedi Mind trick” that’s rarely talked
about… but that’s absolutely critical to winning back your ex.
This is actually a very very simple “trick”, so this won’t be a long video…
after all, Jedi don’t mince words.
But it’s also hugely important if you want to start over with your ex, so please don’t
discount what I’m about to say as “psychobabble” or “silly motivational talk”...
I promise this can actually really be helpful to winning your ex back.
Alright, are you ready, folks?
...And the secret jedi mind trick is……
To stop seeing “getting back together with your ex” as the only path to success and
happiness.
ACCEPT that you might fail….
And learn to be PERFECTLY OK with that outcome.
Look, folks, I know this is a bit more abstract than a lot of the other advice in my videos,
but it’s just as important.
Yoda is right…
fear -- in other words, your fear of losing your ex forever -- is not helpful.
It’s actually just making your path towards getting back together a lot more difficult.
Why?
Well, for starters, when your entire life is focused on getting back together with your
ex, you’re making yourself look desperate, needy, and often downright pathetic.
Frankly, we both know that’s not true….
Heartbreak affects everyone, whether they’re a supermodel, rock star, or James Bond.
There’s nothing weird about feeling like your life is over when you get dumped out
of the blue or feel like you’ve lost the love of your life.
However, just because this is a natural feeling that everyone goes through after a tough breakup
doesn’t mean it’s something you want your ex to see you experiencing.
Regardless of how bad your heartache might be right now, letting your ex see you in that
state… or showing them your hand by revealing the fact you want desperately to win them
back… yeah, that’s just not an attractive look.
Most of the time, this will only confirm for your ex that they made the right decision
in breaking up with you, and sometimes subconsciously suggest to them that they can find someone
better.
But there’s actually a second, more important reason a fear of losing your ex will hurt
your chances of winning them back… it’s because you’re putting a huge amount of
pressure on yourself and the outcome of this whole situation yo u’re currently facing.
For most of you watching, you’re probably thinking -- at least subconsciously -- that
any outcome other than getting back together with your ex means failure.
It means more days and weeks alone, feeling about as shitty and heartbroken as you might
feel right now.
In my experience, probably 90% of my coaching clients have this mindset when I start working
with them, and it’s a very dangerous and unhelpful way of thinking.
Fear of losing your ex, then, is basically like framing things in a “zero-sum” game….
Which basically means you’re seeing the situation with your ex as having only two
possible outcomes: returning to a happy, loving relationship with your ex, or spending the
rest of your life miserable and lonely.
For obvious reasons, when you think about things in this way, you’re going to really
fear the latter outcome.
Let’s bring in a Master Jedi here…
Yoda, what advice do you have for the viewers at this point?
Exactly!
Well said Master Yoda, thanks.
Look, here’s the truth: if you stop caring so much…
if you stop seeing the only path to a happy, successful future as the one where you’re
back together with your ex… you’ll stop putting so much pressure on yourself.
And that will actually, by itself, improve your chances of making that happen.
Think about it -- if two of the best boxers are about to step into the ring for a championship
fight, who is going to be more nervous and more likely to feel the pressure…
the undefeated fighter with a perfect 33-0 record, or his opponent who is equally skilled
but has a couple of losses to his name?
Right, of course the undefeated boxer is going to feel the pressure more, and often that
will have a negative impact on his performance in the ring….
At least, it would for most of us in that situation.
And quite frankly, after coaching people in situations like the one you’re facing right
now, I’ve seen first-hand how much easier the process of getting back together with
an ex can be if you’re willing to accept that there are a number of different ways
that you might end up happy and satisfied with life that DON’T involve your ex.
Clients who can successfully adopt a “zero fucks given” attitude are less likely to
overanalyze their ex’s words and behaviour, less prone to silly emotional outbursts or
breakdowns that will hurt their chances, and less nervous and more natural when they talk
with or meet with their ex in person.
I’ve seen this ring true hundreds of times over the years.
The coaching clients that are able to play it cool, and accept that they may fail in
their quest to get their ex back… and who understand that failing to get them back doesn’t
mean you’re doomed to live alone in a permanent state of depression and heartache….
Are usually the ones who tend to most often succeed in getting their ex back.
Hey Yoda, remind the viewers what they need to do again…?
Exactly.
A Jedi Master doesn’t fear losing… he accepts that losing is a possibility and that
it doesn’t mean certain death, or a lifetime of loneliness, or eternal heartbreak.
Instead, a Jedi understands that there are many paths to happiness, and that adopting
a “I don’t care what happens” attitude in general will be more productive and more
likely to get your ex back than focusing on what might happen if things don’t work out
the way you’re hoping.
A Jedi Master also knows that it’s critical to focus on the things within their control
-- the things that they can actually have an influence over and that will truly help
their cause -- and completely ignores everything else.
Stop, beautiful viewers…
it’s time for a paradigm shift, and it’s time to take Yoda’s advice.
If this is something you’re guilty of or that you’ve struggled with to this point,
then maybe you need my personal help… you know where to go for 1-on-1 coaching: www.BreakupBrad.com/coaching
And if you’ve got a quick question, some feedback, or some tips for aspiring Jedi Masters..
Share them in the comments below.
I read your comments, I always try to reply to each of you individually, and I sincerely
appreciate your support…
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more free advice on getting your ex back.
Thanks for watching, and I’ll see you in the next video!