INFJs may seem composed and maybe even boring from the outside..
But the truth is, this rare personality type is far from being ordinary.
With a natural essence for complexity and understanding, not only does the INFJ have
a difficult time fitting in but they actually prefer to live a life avoiding indifference,
focusing on the more extraordinary things life has to offer.
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Today we’re going to be discussing why the INFJ just can’t settle for a mediocre life.
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Okay, let’s jump right into it starting with..
Number 1: They know they’re worth
Let’s just start by saying that we can’t speak for every INFJ here, but for the most
part, this introspective type knows what they have to bring to the table.
Even the most insecure INFJ innately knows that they have positive qualities and morals
that some people lack or refuse to utilize.
And so, when it comes to making decisions in life, they take into account how the situation
will benefit them in comparison to how they will benefit the situation.
If these two opposing aspects don’t line up, you can guarantee that the INFJ will begin
looking elsewhere.
The best example would be in a relationship or work-place setting.
This independent type won’t settle for something that doesn’t fit their anticipated narrative
because they know their unique qualities will be appreciated elsewhere.
Number 2: They don’t want to waste time
It’s not always easy gauging whether or not something is indifferent or ordinary,
but leaving a situation once that’s realized can be seriously challenging to do.
Especially for the INFJ who prefers to keep the peace wherever they go, cutting ties in
hopes of finding something ‘less average’ comes with a host of uncomfortable feelings
and second-guessing.
Luckily, INFJs often remind themselves that life is too short to waste their precious
time and energy on anything that doesn’t serve their highest good..and this serves
as the basis to find something better.
They believe that if they’re stuck doing something that feels dull and unfulfilling
for long enough, they will be missing out on the opportunities that could potentially
better align with who they are.
And so, most of the time, INFJs much prefer being on stand-by, researching new opportunities
than feeling captive in that stale energy.
Number 3: They hold seriously high expectations of themselves
They say we’re our own biggest critics, and nothing could be more true when talking
about the INFJ personality type.
By constantly thinking, planning and analyzing their next moves they set the bar extremely
high and then do all they can to achieve it.
They go into new endeavors with an all or nothing attitude that doesn’t allow for
half-hearted input or corner-cutting.
Not only is this attitude rooted in their perfectionism, but they genuinely want the
best for themselves and are willing to put in the work to get it.
Of course, these high expectations can backfire should they fail to reach them in the way
they initially expected, but for the most part these expectations act as the ultimate
motivation to ditch mediocrity and strive for something greater.
Number 4: They see far past societal expectations
Let’s just say, the life that is bestowed upon us by society's expectations is rather..
Mediocre.
Where's the adventure and zest in spending the majority of your waking hours working
on someone else’s clock?
Where’s the growth in staying in one place for too long?
These are all questions that haunt the INFJ and fuel their drive of marching to the beat
of their own drum in all aspects of life.
Most INFJs see past the facade of the American dream, exchanging it for a life that is more
realistically fulfilling.
They don’t rely on the happiness they’re supposed to feel when following mainstream
standards because they’ve seen it fail one too many times when observing other people.
For example, INFJs don’t feel obligated to rush into the highest paying career choice,
or the seemingly ideal relationship because they know there's always more to it than what
they see on the outside.
So, unless they have a genuine interest or intuitive hunch, there’s no convincing an
INFJ that it’s worth their while.
Which brings us to our next point..
Number 5: They’re innately guided by intuition
For the most part, INFJs wouldn’t be able to settle for a happy mediocre life if they
tried.
Of course there are INFJs that are in fact living a rather mundane lifestyle, but the
question of whether or not they’re actually happy is the key.
In fact, when an INFJ ignores their intuitive pull towards a certain decision, soon enough
they’ll begin to wonder why they feel so depressed, unfulfilled and dull in life.
Now we’re not saying that the opposite of mediocrity is this big extravagant lifestyle,
rather one that fits their morals and need for creativity, a life that’s lived on their
own terms.
And this is the exact life that the INFJ’s dominant introverted intuitive function attempts
to guide them in.
It’s like the inner compass or higher power that knows what’s best for the INFJ by taking
into account previous lessons, likes and dislikes, formed opinions and preferences of the people
they surround themselves with.
Sure, they may not have to follow it, but if they don’t, it’s much more difficult
for them to feel like they’re on the right path in life.
Number 6: They have a different view of what mediocrity is
Like we said..
It’s not as if every INFJ lives this epicly bold life filled with constant adventure and
change, but that’s not what they’re always striving for.
In fact, to most people with the INFJ personality type, mediocrity is simply living life with
little say as to how they want to live it.
It’s living life on someone else’s terms or through someone else’s expectations of
what a fulfilling life really means.
In the grand scheme of things, what one person considers mediocre may be the complete opposite
of how another person interprets it.
So, while staying in on weekends to research and explore their deepest life questions may
seem like absolute snooze-ville to some personality types, the thought of spending that time mindlessly
shopping or partying can seem rather repetitive and uninteresting to others.
One of those others being the INFJ themselves.
Number 7: They’re minds need to be stimulated
Repetitive schedules may seem safe to an INFJ, but if stagnancy goes on for long enough they’ll
find themselves craving new learning material and mental stimulation.
With their unique combination of intuition, feeling, thinking and judging, INFJs require
new things to observe, analyze and understand in order for their functions to work in harmony.
If they’re stuck solely in their own thoughts day in and day out, due to a rather predictable
lifestyle, they can begin nit-picking about the things that they’ve already concluded
in their minds.
For example, if an INFJ is stuck in a repetitive career position that requires no new skills,
learning or use of creativity, they will eventually begin to dive deeper in the tasks they already
do.
They can begin wondering what’s the point of it all or spend their time trying to think
of better or different ways of doing things, when in reality the simple task doesn’t
require any thought.
Yet, when they have new material to examine, these natural instincts and thought processes
benefit them as they’re supposed to.
Number 8: They want to serve as an example
While it’s not overly intentional, INFJs like to practise what they preach.
And since they’re so attune to noticing the potential in others, and encouraging them
to push themselves to greatness, INFJs use that same processing when self reflecting.
They don’t want to view themselves as average because then it’s as if they’re advice
is less meaningful or genuine to others they try to help.
And like we said, it’s not like they intend to seem better in order for people to listen
to them, but they genuinely want to utilize their own advice by following their passions,
strengths and values to live the life they know they deserve.
Yet, along the way they don’t mind being that glimmer of hope to the people in their
lives, demonstrating that you don’t need to be perfect by any means in order to live
the life you envision for yourself.
Alright, that’s it for today, PSYCH-Os..Before you go, let us know in the comments below
if you would consider your life mediocre, and what mediocracy really means in your opinion
as an INFJ.
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