Hey there Adam LoDolce, from SexyConfidence.com, where I help the 21st Century woman create
a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
In this video, I'm going to be talking about five habits, that if you see these habits,
you want to make sure you never marry that guy.
Trust me.
Keep watching.
Ah, marriage, a beautiful ceremony where two people declare to love and cherish one another.
To spend the rest of their life dedicated to one another, until they die peacefully
in one another's arms.
Adam, are you ... serious?
Uh, what's going on here?
Did you know that 50% of marriages end up in divorce, and of the 50% that stay married,
40% of them classify themselves as unhappy.
I hate to admit it, but Bizarro Adam is right.
Marriage is a risky proposition.
So you want to be very, very smart about who you decide, and note that word, decide, to
spend your life with.
Remember the person you end up with is always a choice, and you have power over that decision.
So whatever you do, don't marry a guy who has any of these five habits:
Number 1: Pathological Lying.
In my experience, people lie for one of three reasons.
Ego, manipulation, or fear.
He lies for his ego because he wants people to think that he's a bigger deal than he really
is.
Or he lies to manipulate you to do something that's really in his own favor.
And the last one, which is less maniacal but just as bad, is he lies out of fear because
he's afraid of what other people will think of him if he's found out.
All of these are deal breakers.
Number 2: Gratuitous Financial Spending.
Now, you might like those lavish $400 dinners, and that $1,000 necklace that he bought you,
but you know what you won't like when you marry him?
Mounting debt.
Creditors calling you at 2:00 a.m. looking for their money.
Foreclosures on your home when you have two kids.
Now, let me be clear here, I'm not telling you that you want be a gold-digger.
I just want you to be more like a 401k miner.
Oh, and same goes for you, by the way.
If you have a spending problem, you're also going to want to get that in check.
Number 3: Defensiveness with any type of feedback you ever give him.
Now, when you're in a relationship, you're going to give and receive feedback from your
partner.
Some of it might be tolerable, some of it might seriously bother you, but assuming that
it's respectful, it's always important to listen.
If you're with a guy who is unable completely to receive any type of suggestions for improvement,
then there's likely to be some self-esteem issues going on there.
Communication will be absolutely impossible if he can't receive any type of feedback,
and as you approach the more difficult decisions in life, you're going to see the relationship
just fall to pieces.
Number 4: Emotional or even Physical Abuse.
If the mother ... ever touches you, don't even think about marrying him.
And if the asshole gets off on putting you down, don't even think about marrying him.
Relationship in America surveyed over 4000 divorced adults, ages 18 to 60 and they found
that the number one reason for women to want a divorce is due to emotion abuse from their
husband.
So, take it very seriously if you see it early on.
And finally ... Number 5: Heavy Drug or Alcohol Abuse.
Now, for those of you who don't know, my mother Ann LoDolce, is ironically a divorce lawyer.
She's handled over a thousand broken marriages over the years, so she kind of knows what
she's talking about.
And one time I sat her down and said, "Mom, what is the number one reason for failures
in a marriage?
Why do they end?"
And she said that the underlying reason is almost always related to alcohol or drugs.
There you have it.
Those are the five habits, that if a guy has it, you really don't want to marry him.
Now that you're sufficiently terrified of getting married, I should say this.
So long as you avoid men with these five habits, and you're a reasonably well educated person
with a decent income, and come from a good family, and marry after the age of 25, without
having a baby first, your chances of divorce are very, very low.
Way lower that 50%.
Be smart about who you marry.
Don't wing it.
It's the most important decision you'll ever make.
So, let me ask you, did you ever dated a guy with any of these five habits?
Let me know in the comments right there below.
Also, if you enjoyed this video, don't forget to head on over to SexyConfidence.com, we'll
put a link right there, where you can get a ton of amazing training that's going to
help you through every stage of dating and relationship.
Thank you so much for watching, and I'll speak to you, sexy lady, next week.
Bye-bye.