Allah (swt) says, (وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا) and with your parents you should do good.
With your parents you should do Ihsaan. Ihsaan is to perfect your
conduct. Ihsaan is the perfect anything and everything you do in
life. So when Allah (swt) gives us the commandment, to perfect our
conduct with Allah (swt) he uses the term Ihsaan, which has this
connotation of goodness and beautification. So not only do we
have to do good to them, we also have to beautify that good towards
them. Sometimes you can do good things to people but you know the
way you do it, it's not that good. So not only do you do the good like
let's say for example, you owe somebody some money, you return the
money to them, but you do it late, along with the fact that you're
doing it late you end up you know, taking some of the money and then
you return half of it later on and so on and so forth. All of that
because sometimes people are of this nature, they don't want to
return back what they've taken. Inshallah you're not that way
Inshallah anyone you know is not that way. But the point is that
that is there within society when we're dealing with our parents. Not
only do we do good to them, but we also perfect that good so it comes
out beautiful, it comes out with Husn, it comes out with beauty.
That's the way we're supposed to be with our parents. Now notice that
Allah (swt) says, Ihsaan. Ahsana Yuhsinu the verb in the Arabic
language has two different ways for us to use it. We can say Ahsana bee
shay wa ahsana ila shay, we can say Ahsana bee shay or ahsana ila
shay he ended up doing good towards that person. He ended up doing good
with that person or with concept. When Allah (swt) speaks about the
parents in the Quran, and in multiple places. Allah (swt) uses
the term "bee" Ahsanabee. Allah (swt) says (وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا) and with your
parents do the good, what's the difference between the two? See,
when you see a person on the street, just walking around, you
know, you don't know him too well, but the person is poor. And you can
see he's got a problem. You can see he needs some help there. You take
some money, you hand it over to him, even if you're going through a
tough time you've done good, but you've done goodness towards him.
That's it after that, your relationship with him is no longer
there anymore. You're not going to meet him, you're not going to greet
him, you're not going to talk to him ever again. That's it, you guys
have you know, unless you see him another spot, likely than not, you
will not be able to meet him again to do that good. But with the
parents, Allah (swt) says that goodness is not supposed to be
occurring once and that's where you stop. You know, when you have a
goal. Whenever you have a goal, you get to that goal and you stop,
right. And that's why you use the term ila. (وصل الى مكان). Right,
he ended up reaching to the spot, Allah (swt) says (وَسَارِعُوا إِلَىٰ مَغْفِرَةٍ) so your
end goal is the Maghfirah of Allah that's what you're trying to reach,
right? When you end up doing good to somebody, you do that good. If
Allah uses the term ILA, or you use a term, ILA, it's, you've done it
and that's your goal you finished, but the type of ihsaan that Allah
wants from you, towards your parents, for me, towards my
parents, from our parents, towards their parents and from their
parents, towards their parents and from our children towards us and so
on and so forth, is a type of good that sort of envelops the
individual. (وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا), and with your parents do the good. So whenever
your parents are there, that goodness has to remain there is no
end goal, so long as your parents are available. The goodness remains
and even after the parents are there that goodness remains as
well. I ask Allah (swt) to give us the Tawfeeq to practice to convey.
Notice Allah (swt) puts the concept of parents second to nothing but
Allah (swt) Himself and He does that in many places in the Quran,
(verse) and Allah (swt) has decreed that you worship no one but Allah
(swt) himself and that you do goodness to your parents. So next
to no one is the rights of the parents except Allah (swt) that's
it. That's the only person that after whom the rights of rights of
the parents come before them is Allah (swt) after Allah is the
parents. And this also shows us something else. And that is that
Allah (swt) is trying to tell you that if you are not able to do good
to your parents, then likely you're not going to be able to do good to
Allah (swt) as well. Why is that? Because Allah (swt) did create you
Allah (swt) did blow the soul into you, Allah (swt) did command for
your creation to occur as well. Allah did command for your your
existence to happen and he created your existence as well. But when
you came out, you came out through the means of your parents. You came
out to this world through the means of your parents. So if you're not
even able to do good to the means, how are you going to do good to the
origin. So Allah says do good to Me, be monotheistic in your
interactions with me do not associate partners with me. And
then you remember your parents as well because that is the Rasool
that is the means. And that's why when we're talking to dealing with
warfare, though we're war far away from it. What happens when we want
to do good to the origin we want when we want to do good to the
country that is dealing with us we do good to what the ambassador of
that country, Allah (swt) made your appearance the means for you to
come to the world. If you do good to your parents, then and only then
will you be able to do goodness to Allah (swt) and this is captured in
the Hadith of the Messenger (pbuh), where he says whoever is not
thankful and grateful to the people, he will not be thankful and
grateful to Allah (swt). So your action points over here, are number
one go right now, right after this video finishes and if you've never
done in your life, I know it's gonna be difficult, but going kiss
your parents on their forehead right now. And if your parents are
not with you, at least call them and tell them I love you. Even if
those words are difficult, even if it feels like a mountain is about
to fall on you. It's not gonna fall nothing's gonna happen you're gonna
be perfectly fine but what's gonna happen is your scale of good deeds
are gonna go higher and higher. I ask Allah (swt) to give us the
Tawfeeq to practice to convey. Jazakallah Khair for listening
(وصلى الله وسلم على سيدنا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين)