Are you seeing changes in your relationship that are troubling you?
Do you have that nagging concern that your partner doesn’t feel the way he used to?
Or, Are you worried because you fear that your partner is ready to end your relationship?
Well keep watching because I’m going to share 10 signs that your relationship is over..
or about to be over.
So don’t go anywhere because we’re starting in 4 seconds.
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Ok on to our topic… the top ten signs that your relationship is over.
Have you heard the saying…love is blind… or that someone is blinded by love…
It’s a real thing… and can make it difficult to recognize when things are going bad…
or the signs of trouble in your relationship.
one day everything is fine, and the next it's over and you don’t even know why.
That’s because when you’re in love it’s difficult to recognize and accept the warning
signs that your relationship has serious problems.
Call it denial maybe.. but Sometimes the answer is right in front of you, and you just need
it to be pointed out.
So I’m going to share the top 10 things to look out for… but first a word of caution…
seeing any one of these alone doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed, but if you are
seeing more than a few signs or a progressive pattern developing….
It’s time to have a conversation with your partner.
Oh.. and there is one sign that could mean one of two things--- it could be a sign your
relationship is over or it could be a sign that things are growing and a sign of healthy
adjustment.
.. make sure you watch the whole video because that one is super important.
So without further ado….
Here are the top ten signs your relationship is over.
10 Failure to Communicate Communication is essential to all relationships.
Think about how you communicated in the beginning.
You engaged in endless text conversations about what you're up to, you make late night
phone calls to see how their day went.
You find any excuse to communicate with that person.
But Has this stopped happening?
Does your partner no longer ask about your day, or does he appear to be disinterested
or even annoyed by these conversations?
Or Are either of you no longer talking about issues or communicating about things that
bother you?
Those are huge red flags.
And That’s because a lack of communication or a significant decrease in the quality and
quantity of your communications can be a sign that the relationship is on its way out or
that one of you has checked out.
Failing to communicate will leave a big void in your relationship and cause minor problems
to spiral into unnecessary issues.
So you need to know for sure?
Try going for an afternoon walk or to your favorite restaurant, with no phones or distractions
and see how the conversation goes.
If it proves to be difficult or if you feel like you have to pull on your partner’s
teeth to get him to agree to a conversation with no distractions..
well… that’s certainly not a good sign.
9 You’re Always Bored.
Does your partner always complain of being bored or that his life isn’t exciting like
it once was?
And I’m not just talking about the relationship feeling boring… the boredom spills out to
other parts of life.
Many individuals report boredom as a telltale sign that a relationship is in trouble.
If you or your partner feel bored not only with the relationship, but with life in general,
it might mean that you’re no longer in the right situation.
Think about this….
The opposite of love is not hate… the opposite of love is indifference…
not caring at all.
If he doesn’t care what you do, where you go or even if he sees you, then he’s indifferent
about you and bored with the relationship.
And yeah that’s a sign that it’s time to move on.
8.
Changes in Your Sex Life Sex is an important foundation for a loving
relationship.
And in the beginning when two people are falling in love…
it happens very frequently…
but For obvious reasons, many couples are unable to keep up that pace and that isn’t
necessarily a warning sign.
I mean The absence of a sex life may seem inevitable when two people have been together
for so long, but it shouldn’t be.. sporatic or occasional sex is one thing… going months
or years without sex is quite another.
So Changes in the bedroom aren’t always a relationship death sentence, but in combination
with other factors, they can mean something isn’t right.
sex is much more than just physical intercourse.
It allows partners to be vulnerable and emotionally open with each other, its part of the glue
that keep couples together.
What am I saying… if you noticed a significant decrease in your sex life… or motivations
toward sexual relations, This signifies disconnection.
It may just be a temporary reaction to stress, but if it's been going on for some time, it
could indicate a relationship decline.
Pay attention.. if you go away on a romantic weekend and are still not having sex.. or
If sex has become a chore Yeah.. that’s a serious problem.
7 They notice and complain about your Flaws When you’re in love with someone, you tend
to see the good in them more readily than the bad.
If you lose sight of all of the positive qualities that made you interested in your partner in
the first place, it could be a sign that things are heading south.
Or if the things that irritate you… your pet peeve about that person are becoming more
and more obvious and getting on your nerves.. be ware.
When they start complaining about the way you do things…
even though you’ve always done them the same way, that’s the beginning.
This increased sensitivity to trivial or small stuff is your brain trying to tell you something..
It has to do with cognitive dissonance..
you or your partner is starting to feel disconnected and maybe that the relationship isn’t right…
so you stack up evidence to support and justify your feeling of disconnection… and if you
Get enough of those little problems and all the dots connect that gives you (or your partner)
the justification to make the break.
One more thing…
IF your talk to your partner about this and he denies it or gets defensive, there is a
tell-tale sign that will prove its happening..
And that involves how your partner speaks about you to friends and family.
If they never have anything positive to say or they are constantly speaking poorly of
you or bad mouthing you…
You’re relationship is in trouble.
6 You don't get affectionate or kiss like before.
Every couple has their own way of expressing their affection towards one another.
Some couples are touchy feely..
other whisper sweet nothings to each other or write each other love notes…
couples do cute romantic things to let their partner know they feel close.
It’s the romance that makes you feel like a couple.
When you’re no longer touching affectionately or focusing on making the other person happy,
then the relationship needs an emotional overhaul.
If the feelings and impulses aren’t there anymore for you or the other, it’s definitely
time to have a proper conversation.
The next five might seem more obvious, but Keep watching because they are the most important
ones… if any of these are happening in your relationship, you really must find out why.
5.
You’re not talking about the future or your goals don’t align.
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you and your partner are constantly thinking about
building a future together.
If this was an active part of your dialogue before and now the conversation sounds more
and more short term, this is a major indicator that your minds are in different places.
Or If you find yourself in a relationship where your goals and dreams don’t really
align… then your relationship has an expiration date.. for example, Let’s say you’ve always
wanted children but now your partner is not so sure, well, this is a deal breaker..
You could wait for years on end, and maybe it will work out, but if your partner is crystal
clear that they are not having children, don’t fool yourself into thinking that they are
going to change.
4.
You’re avoiding going home..
If you and your partner live together, and yet, you find yourself looking for excuses
to stay out, or if your partner is looking for excuses to get away… your relationship
is in jeopardy.
Let me give you some crazy examples…
Someone taking the extra long way home….
Or driving around the block a few extra times to listen to more music… or making excuses
to leave the house to run errans without you… again.. if this is happening in isolation,
it’s probably not a big deal…
but If your partner is purposefully staying out later than usual, you’ve got to consider
the meaning behind this behavior.
It might mean that your relationship has soured and you just don’t want to be around each
other at all.
3 One or Both of You Refuses to Go to Couples Therapy
If things are not going well in your relationship and you or your partner refuses to get help
to fix things, this is a major indicator that things probably aren’t going to work out.
Let’s say you’ve been having some problems and In disagreement for a long time or you
have tried to work things out on your own but find you are both stuck in your corner….
Well, Couples therapy can be helpful.
― perhaps you’ve even suggested counseling ― and your partner does nothing or refuses
to go, You’ve got to question why.. have they already checked out and have no desire
to reconcile?
You might hope that things will change on their own, but your partner’s lack of interest
is a clear sign that they don’t care.
Before I get to the last two, I have a question…
I know there are way more than 10 signs that a your relationship is over.
So, I’d love to hear your thoughts about the ones I should include in another video..
please take a moment and leave a comment and let me know some important signs that I missed.
I promise to read and answer all of them.
Ok… on to the last two.
2.
They’re Suddenly Spending More Time With Their Friends.
One of the biggest red flags that your partner is about to check out is when You notice that
they are spending less time with you and dedicating more time to friends.
They are putting more energy and time into other relationships.
And besides spending more time with their friends and family…
They have become reluctant to hang out with people who are important to you.
And they are no longer trying to impress them.
If someone is no longer trying to make a good impression on the people who love you, it’s
a sure sign they are not in it for the long-run.
But I have one caveat that I alluded to in the beginning of this video.
spending more time with friends and family could also be a good sign.
see often times when people fall in love and develop new relationships, they spend every
waking and sleeping moment with their new partner.
So much so that they are neglecting other important relationships and responsibilities.
Eventually…
after some time they get more comfortable with the relationship and recognize that they
need some balance and thus start spending more time with friends and family…
This is not a bad thing.. in fact, it’s a sign of adjustment.
Spending more time with family and friend becomes a red flag only when it becomes imbalanced
and your relationship is now being neglected.
So, if you’ve been together for some time and now suddenly they are going out with friends
every weekend and not making time for the relationship, Yeah… that’s a problem.
And number 1 is Your Intuition Is Telling You Something Is
Wrong You know that voice inside your head that
tries to tell you when something’s wrong, you know… it’s the one you ignore when
you don’t like what it’s saying?
Well Listen to it.
If your inner voice is telling you something’s not right or telling you that your partner’s
head or heart is somewhere else, –follow your intuition.
If you don’t confront it, it will only get worse.
Are you always the one reaching out, making plans, making an effort, and showing up.
Ask yourself this question— if you stopped doing these things, if you stopped initiating,
what would happen to the relationship?
would it be over… sometimes Your body can pick up on changes in another persons feeling
long before your brain acknowledges it.
You can sense it in the other person’s mood or body language, even though nothing has
occurred and they haven’t said anything.
And if you’ve had trust issues before and can’t rely on your gut instinct…
At the very least, use this as a starting point to look out for the other 9 signs that
I’ve just mentioned.
So there you have it… the top ten signs that a relationship is about to be over.
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