Years ago, before making this channel, before becoming a dating coach, before my very first
podcast "Dudes Talking About Chicks" which is no longer on iTunes.
Comment below if you know what that podcast is, that's old school Tripp stuff.
Before that, before I moved to LA from Chicago, I was considered a pretty boring person.
Did I have fun?
Yes.
Did I have friends?
Yeah.
Was I fun with my friends?
Sure!
But to girls?
I wasn't very interesting, I was pretty boring.
I looked back, I realized what made me boring.
I've coached guys for many years now.
I look at them and I see what's boring.
I sit down and ponder and think about what is it that makes somebody boring?
When trying to dissect this and figure this out and make this video for you, the first
thing I thought of is what's the opposite of that?
Who's the person who’s not boring?
To give it away here, that person is the person who knows how to spark an emotion.
If you find that you're hearing this a lot on the channel, well good, that means that
you're watching these videos.
You’re following this journey of unfolding what it really means to build a spark and
emotion to a person that you talk to.
We're following this theme here with the same idea.
If you think you're boring, that means that someone isn't feeling anything when they're
around you.
Think about when you're bored.
It's pretty much a lack of feeling.
There's lack of stimulation, there's nothing going on.
Think about the idea of being bored.
You're sitting at home and you feel almost nothing, like apathy.
You might ask, Tripp, why should I even bother to learn how to not be boring?
Why can't I just be myself?
Why can't I just be me?
Why do I have to work so hard at being able to do all this work just so a girl likes me?
I'll answer your question.
What makes you attracted to a girl?
I'm not going to say the answer to that, you know what that is.
I can bet you that whatever a girl is doing to attract you, she's probably working at
it to.
My guess is that she's buying a lot of things to make herself look attractive.
She's maybe even working on personal development like you are, to make her more attractive
to guys.
She's working too.
You know what?
It doesn't matter what they're doing.
It's all about what do you want?
Do you want to be able to attract a girl?
Do you want an amazing girl?
Why wouldn't you put in the effort to do that?
Right now I'm not talking about changing you or having to be a whole different person.
It's about upgrading who you already are.
Why wouldn't you want to learn how to be the best version of yourself?
The most interesting version of yourself to be able to get what you want?
If you made it this far in the video, you're lucky because I'm about to give you 5 of the
best ways to never be boring ever again, practical tools that you could be working on.
We're going to be going over those right now.
The beautiful part about it is not going to be anything that's going to have to turn you
into someone who you're not.
These are just simple techniques that you can use as soon as you get into the next conversation.
What I'm going to be teaching you are ways to build a spark emotion in the girl that
you're talking to.
The first way to never be boring is to speak up on your opinions.
When someone has an opinion, they tend to be polarizing if their opinion is pretty strong,
even if it's just a little bit strong.
Whatever your opinion is, it's going to be interesting because you have a stance on something.
There is a possibility that the girl you're talking to either agrees with your opinion
or she disagrees.
Either way, she is now intrigued by the conversation and what's going on because you decided to
speak up on your opinion.
See, this is pretty easy stuff.
It's something you have to think about when you're in conversation.
Another one is being spontaneous, like I'm doing right now.
Here's the thing, if you want to be spontaneous, I have a whole video on that.
I want you to go to the description and there's a link below.
It’ll send you to that video on what it means to be spontaneous, but keep watching
and go to that video afterwards.
I'm going to tell you what that is.
It's all described in one word, which I'll tell you right now.
Another very underrated way to be less boring or more interesting in a conversation is sharing
knowledge or being able to teach something.
When you're in conversation with someone and some topic gets brought up, you can maybe
teach something or share some knowledge you know.
Great way to do this is keeping up on what's going on with current events, new books, reading
and learning stuff.
All the time, I'm digging in and trying to learn new stuff because I'm curious about
what's going on in the world and wanting to know about more topics.
Then it's easier for me to chime in a conversation, whenever any topics pretty much brought up.
Connected to this is the idea of being able to talk about the things that you're interested
in.
It's similar to what I said before.
The idea of like you can teach or share something.
If you're a person who has interest, who likes things, who's interested in whatever it is,
and you talk about it, this is an opportunity to be interesting.
You could be talking about something that nobody cares about, then hence be boring but
that’s kind of a gamble you have to take.
On the other end of things, if you're talking about something that you're interested in
and she is listening and interested in, now you are not boring.
If you've seen a pattern running to all these, ideally you got to speak up.
I know that there's a lot of shy guys who watch this stuff.
If you're one of those guys, I urge you, it's time to fix this.
It's time to be the guy who's going to speak up and say something.
Guys who are deemed as boring or the guys who was sitting in the corner, or sitting
in a conversation, quiet not saying anything, you gotta give girls and people the opportunity
to get to know you.
You got to open your mouth and you must say something.
This is the key to finally creating a connection and emotion within the girl that you're talking
to.
There's one more thing I want to add here is sharing your stories, being able to talk
about your life and the things you've done.
If you say, Tripp, I haven't done much, I haven't left my house much, I don't have many
interests, I don't live an interesting life.
Let me tell you something, there's no hack to this.
What I want you to do is start creating an interesting life, start getting out of the
house, start finding things that you like to do, start trying new things.
The more you become a cultured person, by experiencing things, you're automatically
going to be interesting and less boring because you're going to be able to talk about these
things.
That's what I want you to do.
I don't want you to lie and come up with some dumb routines or say something that's not
congruent with who you are.
I want you to have your own opinions, thoughts, stories and your own interesting things to
say.
Why don't you get out there and do something?
Of course, you can always check out “Chick Crack” that's going to give you the topics
that women are interested in.
It’s going to help out being less boring.
Get it down in the description below and watch the video that teaches you how to be spontaneous.
Take all these ideas and think about them.
Think about how it can help you think about what the next move you're going to do to be
interesting.
Down in the comments below, write it and I want to see a lot of comments.
What is the next step you're going to take to be a little bit more interesting person
and less boring and have more fun, exciting experiences?
Write it down below not only for you, but for everyone else who's watching this video
and looking in the comments.
There will be a lot of those people.
Let's all get ideas how we can become that person.
Sun is going down. I'm outta here. Talk to you later.