how porn traps you i'm dr trish leigh let me tell you how in this video we are going to
cover three things number one how porn hooks you when you're young and makes it almost
impossible for you to leave number two what's happening in your brain when you get hijacked
and then what makes it so difficult and keeps pulling you back into the screen and then of
course number three is your brain tip strategy because yes it's difficult to leave but it is not
impossible it totally can be done and i'm going to share with you how okay number one how porn traps
you so for most people they find pornography when they're young and it fills a void in their life
it is a self-soothing technique so I want you to think about it like that it is dopamine-producing
and it floods your brain with this bath of dopamine and when you were young it was the best
feeling that you ever had so not only is it pleasure-seeking seemingly pleasurable
it also has a pain reduction feature to it so you're young and maybe there's dysfunction in your
life or just the human condition in families is a challenging one in and of itself trust me i know i
grew up in a family of six kids uh so what happens is there's chaos in the family there's struggles
there's possible you know your parents aren't paying attention to you worse than that there may
be traumas physical verbal sexual abuse neglect so these things make it so that living is difficult
there's not a lot of dopamine there and then when you find the screen there's lots of dopamine there
so what happens is and this is leading into number two what happens is you get this flood of dopamine
in your brain and it felt better than it ever felt before it's a self-soothing technique we know that
pornography is a supernormal stimulus literally you can't get more dopamine anywhere else it's the
most dopamine-producing activity which make it highly addictive so now you're a young kid
you've found this stash of dopamine and you've internalized the need for it and we know
your brain calibrates and it needs more and more and more so this is the story so many people tell
me when i talk to them you know at first i just was casually watching here and there
just sometimes not all the time before i knew it i was watching more frequently i was watching longer
i was watching more intense scenes this is your brain basically needing more because
the dopamine levels have have built a tolerance and they've leveled off and your brain's going
dude i need more dopamine because i'm used to that i need some more if i'm still going to feel good
and then now you need more so over time the habit builds into a compulsion and i have a couple real
great takeaways from people that i spoke with where you know just putting it in terms that
i think is easy to understand from a brain perspective your brain needs the dopamine hit
but it makes your brain feel so good so a lot of people tell me like i can't imagine not being able
to go back to it to have my brain feel good when you create a life where you're getting dopamine
and serotonin for happiness not just pleasure and you're living a balanced life you won't need to
run into the screen to get that dopamine hit that is the way out you have to make those changes in
your life so that you don't need to go back to the screen and you know talking to people it's like i
i need it it just feels so good but you can learn to live with less of it and then you can learn
to live with none of it then you can change your life and make it so you don't even need it anymore
so it hooks you and it hijacks you and it traps you until your brain gets strong
enough to no longer be trapped before now going back to the notion of trapping it
doesn't feel good to be trapped in something to need to consume pornography or to need to
masturbate to feel okay is not a good feeling for people it produces guilt and shame
which this cycle is built on if you're trapped in it and this is what someone said to me is that i
don't want to do it but i also do want to do it at the same time that is the essence of a compulsion
the need to do it or the want to do it because of what it's doing for your brain it's self soothing
giving you pleasure pain reduction so number three brain tip strategy what's the way out
this is a complex issue it's built in dysfunction from childhood or from earlier in your life then
it is built on using those neural pathways over and over and over and over and over and over
and over honestly for years and years and years decades for many people so the solution isn't an
easy one i'm sorry to tell you it's a complex one but it doesn't have to be impossible the way out
is to begin to create the upward spiral of change right now whether you know it or not
you are stuck in the downward spiral if you don't make a change it will get worse for you
and what something i said accidentally this week is there is no horizontal spiral it doesn't work
that way things either get better or they get worse they don't stay the same when it comes to
pornography consumption or sexualization compulsive hypersexuality they get worse
unless you do something so here's the thing to do use my brain tips at the end of these videos
or go on over to drtrishly.com i created brain porn brain reboot it's a non-profit it has all the
tools that you need to succeed and i'm putting those tools here on youtube of course in the
program it's organized unwire rewire hardwire so that you have everything at your disposal so that
you can learn how to use all the tools and all the tools are there for you in an organized fashion
and then in that program if you want support from me personally it's there for you too and
you can go check that out but if you're not in a position to do that stay here on youtube subscribe
get the notifications actually watch the videos get a journal and at the end of the videos use
the brain tip strategies so for today the take away the brain tip strategy is it will
only get worse hopefully that motivates you it is a negative feedback loop negative feedback
loops add to themselves making things worse the downward spiral the proverbial upward spiral is
take the first step today to start using the tools they're here for you on youtube or get
into a program you have to start using tools to create the upward spiral you can't just do nothing
because that is a horizontal spiral and it doesn't exist okay hopefully that will help you out start
using some tools you have to change something and if you would like help in that journey i'm
here for you so reach out to me dr trishly.com and remember control your brain or it'll control you