- In this video
I'm gonna show you how you can finally trust again.
Even if every time you put yourself out there
or you begin to trust,
you feel like there's some form of betrayal,
there's some form of letdown
there's a constant reflection that says
that "I can't trust."
"What's the point?"
And then normally there's some form of attachment
to control or going inwards and secluding yourself off
from the rest of the world.
I'm gonna show you how to get to the core
of what this is really about.
I'm gonna show you how to transform that energy
from the inside out so that you can finally trust
not only other people
but trust yourself in a very powerful way.
Now let me first off just be vulnerable
and honest with this.
This last year, this is something that I have been
going through my own transformation with
where I look at how I trust myself
also just how I am in reality, just in general.
Because I think there's certain aspects in my life
where in the past something has happened
and I decided that it wasn't safe.
So, I resorted to trying to control my environment
to control my business, to control aspects of my life
because there's fear that came with being vulnerable
or fear that came from trusting the unknown even.
So I wanna share with you a little bit
of how that's played out
but also how to get to the deeper core
if you ever have been betrayed
or you ever had something that happened to you
that kind of like reaffirmed that belief that
it's not worth trusting,
it's not worth putting yourself out there in certain ways.
So first off, this is also inspired because
I was doing a live session yesterday
and somebody I was coaching somebody through this
and it was very interesting.
This person came on and was explaining how
when they were three years old
they remember being beat with a belt.
And from that moment on
she was like, "I can't trust...
"How can I trust when I don't know what love is?"
"How can I trust when
"the only masculine connection I've had in my life
"is somebody that would beat me
"when I was younger when I was growing up?"
And what was very interesting
to find out about this person was that
even though they had all of this painful
experience growing up
with that kind of trauma or that kind of abuse,
they had a very deep and rich spiritual connection
in their life with themselves.
They had a very deep spiritual connection
with something larger than themselves.
And one of the breakthroughs for this person was like
them realizing that
even though maybe in the past their parents
they didn't feel they could trust them
they found a connection to something greater
than what they experienced in their childhood
that allowed them to feel even more depth
and even more safe.
And that greater was this person was talking about
how they feel so connected to Mother Earth.
How grounding themselves
and how being in nature is so rewarding.
And how, one question I asked her was, you know
I could tell she had a connection to a higher power.
And I said, "Has God ever let you down?"
And she thought about it for a minute and she said "No."
So while sometimes we might have
very high expectations of other people,
we can realize that at the deeper core as kids, I believe
that a lot of times the way we relate to our parents
is we believe growing up in a way
that they are a representation of God, of the universe.
And because that's the initial relationship we have
when we're young.
And what happens is many people I believe that have
specifically maybe some form of masculine trauma
may have had a belief
or some type of
fear that says, "I can't trust."
And what ends up stemming from this belief
of I can't trust
or the doubt in being able to trust or to feel safe
is what happens there's a resort to this safety mechanism
of going inwards and not trusting anymore
of staying inside of the box.
And when you realize that there's some form of resentment
that there may be towards the masculine
or even towards the feminine as well
or towards the parents as well
I think a lot of times that keeps the energy
active inside of yourself,
which then attracts experiences to you
that reflect back that energy pattern.
So for example,
if you believe that all women or all men are manipulative
and that's the deeper core belief,
and even deep down you may say,
"Well this isn't good, I don't like this."
But deep down there may be a sense of safety
that comes with that familiar energy
because growing up maybe mom or dad was manipulative
and there's something about that that feels safe.
So then what happens is you attract people into your life
that are simply reflecting back that unconscious energy.
And even recently in my own life,
I've gone through a big transformation
over the last like six months
to a year because I had an experience in my life
where there was a feeling of betrayal.
There was a feeling of why did something happen?
There was a big amount of anger that evoked inside of me.
And what I got to look at was that
there was a story that I was in a way very tied to.
I was tied to a story
that this thing happened, it shouldn't have happened.
And that betrayal wound that came up
was also a form of an abandonment wound.
And the way that I healed through that
was actually an Eckhart Tolle video.
An Eckhart Tolle video where I was looking at forgiveness
and I realized, yes, this thing happened
but I need to forgive this person.
I need to also forgive myself.
I think there's a lot of blame that came
from this situation.
And what I had to look at
was realize that the forgiveness forgiving
is when you let go of the position,
you let go of the blame.
That's really what forgiveness is.
Forgiveness is when you stop blaming.
You stop blaming someone else
and you stop being tied to the story.
And the Eckhart Tolle video I watched
really clarified this for me in a very powerful way
because at the deepest core what he said
was that
forgiveness is really not so much
about like saying like, "I forgive you."
Because I forgive you means
you did something wrong to me,
it like reinforces that natural wrongdoing.
And the way...
And the thing that really helped me heal from this
was understanding that it was a reflection
of a certain level of unconsciousness.
So this is what Eckhart Tolle said in the video,
"It's unconsciousness
"and the lack of presence
"that evokes certain situations in our life."
So for example, if your mom and dad were abusive growing up
or were emotionally or physically abandoning you growing up
you can say, "Well they did this to me."
But from the level of consciousness they were at
that was just their natural state.
It may have not been intentional
or maybe it was intentional
but regardless it was an act of unconsciousness
because somebody that is consciously in their heart
or in their own energy would not harm somebody else.
People are always doing the best they can
with the level of consciousness they're at.
When I look at my past with my ex stepmom for example
and how angry and manipulative she was
I could say she did this to me.
I can't trust women
and then I would attract it into my life after
my ex stepmom left when I was 15
I attracted people that would reflect back
that form of manipulation.
I always had to fight for my own freedom.
I had managers that were like this.
There was always someone in my life
that reflected back this energy pattern until I forgave her.
And I realized the forgiveness came 'cause I realized
she was doing the best she could
with the level of consciousness she was at.
Her dad was abusive to her
and she was playing out that pattern.
Doesn't make it right
but it did help me understand it more.
Now, in a similar way, when I look at what happened
earlier this last year
where I went through a big transformation
when it came to this betrayal energy,
I realized that the person that this happened with,
it stemmed from a certain level of unconsciousness
of energy that may have been under the surface
that they weren't aware of.
Doesn't necessarily make it right,
but it does help me understand
and it does help me realize
that it was unconsciousness that did it
not necessarily her.
Because you see what Eckhart Tolle was talking about is
when you get into the identity of you did this to me
at the deepest core, we are the "I am presence."
The egos
many times can be at a certain level unconscious.
So we have egos that are unconscious
that are playing out certain patterns.
You can say, "Well I forgive you," but it's like this...
It's this play of energy of egos that like is
kind of just has a whole bunch of story tied to it.
So the deeper level of forgiveness
is realizing there's really nothing to forgive
because what you think you need to forgive
is really just looking at the meaning.
But looking at that it was unconsciousness that did it
not them that did it.
And I realize that
the person that this happened with me earlier in the year,
it was a deeper core thing than just their I am presence.
It wasn't them in their brilliance,
it was them in a certain level of
response and unconsciousness.
It makes and it helps it become a lot easier.
Now, the story was something
that I had to learn to shed because I was...
For months I was bitter about the situation.
There was a lot of anger,
I would wake up in the middle of the night
kind of like expressing lots of anger.
I had to come out of my body
and
I could have looked and said,
"Oh this comes from this experience."
"But really I think it...
"I believe that it came from even earlier than that."
Childhood, feeling abandoned as a kid
with the things that happened to my ex stepmom
and where it was kind of allowed to happen in certain ways
and not feeling protected.
There's a feeling there of abandonment,
a feeling of like not being good enough.
A feeling there that I had to like feel into
and even forgive them.
This isn't about forgiving what happened.
It's about even even deeper core things
that it helped me become aware of.
So in a way when you're talking about trust
and you say, "I can't trust,"
there's a belief there that says "I can't trust."
And on the other side of that trust
is some form of blame on somebody else,
maybe mom, maybe dad.
And the blame is what's keeping that energy active.
And on the other side of this, is forgiveness.
But really at the deeper core
there's really nothing to forgive
because it was an expression of unconsciousness.
Now that you are aware,
you then can have trust in yourself
and that you have a higher level of awareness now
and that you can let the divine masc
or the divine feminine be something higher than just people.
It can be an energy.
You could find more connection in Mother Earth
if you didn't have that deep of a connection
or that much trust with the feminine.
If it's with the masculine
you can feel stillness to the space, to God
to source energy to whatever you believe in.
And as you feel connected to that
and as you focus on that relationship
it's higher than just the human perspective.
'Cause remember the humans
can get caught up in the unconsciousness.
It helps you to begin to heal that trust
and to realize that you have within you
the connection to Mother Earth the connection to God.
And as you focus on that connection
it allows that energy to smooth out within you
and it allows you to then trust more.
'Cause it does take courage to trust.
It takes courage to put yourself out there.
It takes courage to lean into the unknown.
But...
And the more you become aware of these patterns
the more you're really able to heal.
So realize that a lot of this may just be a stemmed energy
from a past meaning
of something that happened that's just been on autopilot.
And a very powerful way to transform this
is to begin to question those thoughts.
Look at like the work of Byron Katie, for example.
Question those thoughts, is it true?
You look at the thought, "I can't trust people."
"Is it true?"
"Yes, it's true."
Second question, "Can I absolutely know that it's true?"
"Well, I guess I can't know exactly
"what other people's intentions are at all times."
"I guess I can look..."
You know, you start to see it from a different perspective.
And then the third question is,
"How do I respond when I believe that thought?"
"Oh, when I believe that thought I hold my energy in,
"I'm fearful of some of the people
"that might be being brought into my life."
"I tend to then act differently
"which then maybe has me attract people that I can't trust."
"I'm a little bit too guarded."
"I got my guard up all the time."
And then you'd see that and you go, "Wow."
That's a powerful thing that happens too
is you then separate yourself from the actual thought.
You think the thought is and the belief is
I can't trust this is built into reality,
this is the way reality works.
But then you see, how do I believe when I believe...
How do I feel when I think that thought
or when I believe that thought?
And you realize, "Wait,
"when I believe that thought this is how I react."
You then take yourself out of the situation
and see it from a different point of view.
And who would you be without that thought?
Who would you be without that belief that I can't trust?
You might be more free, you might be more loose
you might be less guarded, you might be more open-hearted.
You might feel more certain about yourself.
Maybe you feel more connected to Mother Earth or God.
Then you start to feel into this greater energy field of you
where you can trust.
And she has something else called the turnaround.
Turnaround is where you turn around
and you really you're able to kind of look at it
from the opposite point of view.
So for example, if it's like "Someone betrayed me,"
the turnaround to that is "I betrayed them
"or I betrayed myself."
So if it's, "I can't trust other people,"
it's, "Oh I can't trust myself."
You realize that that's what's been holding back.
That's what's been keeping that energy back.
So then you could focus on forgiving yourself
and you can focus on realizing
that this larger aspect of you
that does trust it is an option.
And you can begin to...
As you let go and you begin to forgive
you begin to open up your heart to a completely new level.
You begin to open up, you begin to trust yourself
and begin to feel like a completely new version of you.
Now, if you wanna learn more about vibration
and how to trust the universe
in a very powerful way,
there's a quiz that you can take called
whatsmyvibration.com.
I'll go ahead and link it below.
And you calibrate your vibe,
you see what level you're at
and it shows you how to get
to the higher level of consciousness
through a meditation that will help you to do that.
So if you wanna raise your vibe, check that out.
Also, if you want a video that's gonna help you go deeper
on trusting the universe, check this video out right here.
I used to feel like I had to do everything.
Like if things weren't happening the way I wanted them to
I would try to control them,
I would try to force them,
I would feel a ton of resistance,
and then people would say things like,
"Hey bro just trust the universe,"
and I'd be like, "What are you talking about, man?"