Allah Says In The Next Verse; From
The Signs Of Allah Is That He
Created For You From You Your Spouse,
Your Spouses To Do What? Why Do I Need A Wife?
Why Does A Wife Need A Husband?
If You Are Genuine And You Are
Truthful
Allah Will Create Between The Two Of You
Two Things
Mahada And Rama That Means Love And
Mercy, You Love Your Spouse And You Are
Merciful Towards Your Spouse And Your
Family Members That Was Created By Allah.
It'S A Sign Of Allah Subhanahu Wata'Ala.
You Are Married. They Should Be A Sense
Of Possessiveness. If You Lack That
Possessiveness It Is A Sickness. Some
People Come And Said You Know My Husband
Is A Little Bit Too Possessive, Well
That'S A Good Sign But Let That
Possessiveness Not Become A Burden,
Because Then It Might Become A Problem.
However It Is Good To Be Possessive. We
Are All Possessive Over Our Things; Your
Children, Your Family Members,
Alhamdulillah. It'S A Sign Of Allah. He
Wanted To Create A Connection Between
You ... So That You Can
Achieve Peace, Comfort And Solace With
One Another Or From One Another.
Subhanallah, What A Great Sign Of Allah
Subhanahu Wata'Ala! Brothers And Sisters,
Let'S Save Ourselves From The Disasters
That Are Occurring Within Marriage By
Going Back To Our Homes And Resolving
Our Disputes, Our Matters, Clearing Our
Record. The More We Involve In Haram The
Less Sweet The Halal Will Be. If You Want
Halal To Be Sweet You Need To Stay
Away From Haram And I Promise You, You
Will Appreciate Halal But The More You
Involve In That Which Is Prohibited
Outside Of Marriage Or Fornication
Adultery, Etc, The Less You Will
Appreciate What Allah Has Bestowed Upon
You And When You Involve In Haram You
Will Not Be Able To Save Yourself From
The Bad Thoughts From
Lack Of Appreciation Of The Goldmine
That You Have, Subhanallah.
Some People Have A Spouse That
Subhanallah Is Amazing But They Don'T
See The Light In The Spouse Because They
Are Busy Doing Something Else Somewhere
Else They. Don'T Realize And When They
Lose The Spouse Then They Hit Their
Heads To Say You Know What I Lost
Someone Great. Well, You Were Fooling
Around. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'Ala
Save Us. May Allah Help Us To Actually Go
Back Home And To Understand Your Spouse
Is One Of The Signs From The Signs Of
Allah (Swt) And Allah Azzawajal Says About Marriage
It'S A Beautiful Words Of Quran. You Will Find These Words Applicable In All Of Your Married Lives, Those Of You That Are
Married. Allah Says He Put Between You;
Between The Husband And Wife; Love
It'S Passionate Love Allah Says
Mawaddah And Rama / Mercy Because In The
Beginning Of Marriage Is Very Passionate
You'Re Obsessed With Your Wife. You Can'T
Think About Anything Else, Your Friends
Call You They Go Straight To Voicemail,
Right? Because You Just Got Married, For
You Know For Six Months You'Re Out Of
You Know Out Of Sight, Nobody Sees You
But Then As Marriage Goes Further What
Keeps Marriage Alive? Isn'T That Anymore
Because Other Obligations Come In
There'S Kids, There'S Work, It'S Not Honey
Anymore, How Do You Keep The Marriage Sustained?
Mercy Towards Your Wife Mercy, Towards
The Husband, Courtesy Between You, You
Know, This Man Comes To Umar (Ra) He Says I Want To Divorce My
Wife And He Says Why Do You Want To Divorce Your Wife? Now, I Don'T Love Her
Anymore. I Don'T Find Her Attractive
Anymore And Umar (Ra) Asked Him; What About Courtesy? What About The
Courtesy You Owe To Your Wife? She Doesn'T
Take Care Of Your Kids? She Hasn'T Put Up
With You All This Time? You Know And You Know We Have Word, Difficult Creatures
To Put Up With Men, Right? We'Re Very
Difficult Creatures To Put Up With And
Our Wives Put Up With Us Even If They
Share You Know Say A Couple Of Words Here And There, In The End They Still Put
Up With Us, Right? So They Do Quite A Bit
For Us But We Can'T Just Say Oh Well She
Doesn'T Look Like What I Was Imagining The ...You Know Back In The Day When I
Didn'T Use To Lower My Gaze, I Saw
Some Things On Tv And I Was Expecting That
You Know, This Is You Know Really ...It'S
It'S Not The Healthy Attitude. You Have
To.... If The Believer Watches Their Gaze And They Control Their Temptations
And Then They Do The Best With Their
Wives, They Will Be The Most Satisfied
And They Won'T Have Any Temptations
Outside But At The Same Time And I'M
Ranting On The Brothers But At The Same
Time The Sisters Have To Understand This.
Allah Subhana Wa Ta'Ala Created Men And
Women Very Differently. Men, Their Biggest
Weakness Is Women. They Could Be Richer,
They Could Be Poor, They Could Be You
Know Healthy And Not Very Healthy,
You Know, Skinny And Fat Or Tall Doesn'T
Matter What Culture, What Language, All Of
Them Have The Same Weakness: Women And
Women, Allah Azzawajal, Many In Majority
Cases He Made Them Oblivious To This
Weakness Of Men. They Don'T Realize How
Bad It Is. So When The Ayah Comes And A
Woman Reads It Lower Their Gaze, Oh Yeah
I Could Do That And They'Re Like What'S
The Big Deal, Why Can'T Men Just Lower
Their Gaze? And You You Don'T Understand,
What Don'T I Understand? You Have Eyes, I
Have As Their You Have Retina You Know,
It Processes The Same Information. So
What'S The Problem? You See, They'Re Not...
They Don'T Understand The Power Of This
Desire That Allah (Swt)
Put Inside Of Us And Mentioned As Number One...
Number One Of The Desires That
Were Beautified For Men Were Desires For
Women, Right? The Number One Fitna The
Prophet (Saw) Fears For The Men Of This Ummah Is What? Women
Because It'S A Serious Problem. So If Wives Understand That Then
Instead Of Condemning Their Husband: Why Are You So Weak? How Come You Can'T Control
Your Eyes Instead Of Knowing That They
Would Accept This Is The Creation Of Allah Subhana Wa Ta'Ala. You Have To... The
Wife Has A Role Of Supporting Her Husband And Becoming Strong And She Can
Do That By Warding Temptations Off From Him Not By Lecturing Him You Know And
And This Is The Other Thing That'S Very Important For Wives To Understand; The
Husband He Goes To The Office Or He Goes To The Train And There Are Women
Horribly Dressed, They'Re Sitting There, Smiling At Everybody Trying To You Know,
Basically This Is All These Women Have In Terms Of Their Dignity, They'Re Not
Respected For Their Intellect, They'Re Not Respected For Their Opinions. So All
They Think Is, We'Re Going To Be Respected If Men See More Of Our You Know Our Shame. So They Dress In In Decent Fashion
Because When Men Look At Them They Feel
Kind Of You Know Self-Respect That I'M Worth Something. People Are Looking At Me.
That'S Basically What It Is. It'S Really
Horrible. It'S Sad But Then They Go To
The Office And The Secretary Is Smiling
At You Saying How Are You, How Was Your
Day? You Know What Are You Getting For Lunch, Oh You'Re Fasting All That'S Nice.
You Know And They'Re Smiling At You And
Then You Go You Know, And Every Ad Women Are Smiling At You And Then You Get Home
And You Open The Door And I Said Where Were You, Oh Look The Train The Train Was
Late, Oh Everyday The Train Is Late, Oh I Understand You Know And There'S A Frown Every Day.
And The First Day It'S Okay. The Second It'S Okay, Ten Years Of This, Twelve Years
Of This What'S Gonna Happen? The Husband Has Resentment Towards The Wife Even If
He Doesn'T Say Anything. He'S Building Resentment Inside And The Simple Simple
Solution Of The Messenger (Saw): A Smile Of The Wife When The Husband Comes Home, You Know How Big A
Deal This Is. This Is Not A Small Thing. It Stabs The Husband When The Husband
Comes Home And The Wife Doesn'T Care And You Know He'S Very Disturbed By That. He
May Not Say Something But It Really
Really Hurts Husbands And It Hurts The Relationship And It Comes Out In Weird Ways. Now That They'Re Hurt.
They'Re Kind Of Upset As They'Re Having Dinner, Oh It'S Not Enough Salt In Here,
You Know There'S Something Wrong And They'Re Extra Angry At The Kids, They Are
Frustrated But The Same Scenario The Wife Opens The Door And She Greets The
Husband With A Smile, Just A Smile.. It'S
Not Expensive But What Happens The Rest Of The Night Goes Smoothly. The Husband Is
In A Good Mood, He'S Talking To Her, When He'S Talking To I Don'T Want To Talk
Right, Now I Have A Headache..It'S Not Gonna Happen, All Started From Where Just
One Little Act Of The Wife. These Are Simple Solutions But They'Re
Powerful Solutions. And You Don'T Take Care Of These Solutions And Things.. This Baggage Just Keeps Adding Up And Adding
Up And Adding Up And That'S Where You Get Those Statistics Because The Husband Doesn'T Want To Look At The Wife. She'S
Just Annoying You Know, She Says This ... That, Right?
So Both Sides Have To Understand They Have To Take Care Of The Other Side.
Instead Of Expecting From The Other Side
Just Make A Goal For Yourself To Take Care Of The Other Side.
The Only Time They Don'T Guard Their Privates Is With Their
Spouses And This Relationship Is Very Strong. I Don'T Even Want To Quote The
Hadith Even Though You Know Quoting A Hadith Is A Good Thing But I Know The
Repercussions It Can Have In Our Community, Unfortunately, I Don'T
Personally, Allah Know, I Don'T
Personally Feel That Muslim Families Are Mature Enough To Take A Hadith And Take
It In A Mature Way, Usually They End Up Using Islamic Texts As A Weapon,
You Know What The Prophet (Saw) Said About The Wife, Who Doesn'T Take Care Of Her
Husband'S Need At Night He Said This This.... You Should Be Ashamed Of
Yourself... You Know She'S Really Gonna Be Nice To You... Now, It'S Not It'S Not A
Contest You Know, You Should Be More Like Be The Sahabia And She Was Like.. You Are Not
Sahaba.. Yourself, You Know...
That'S How It'S Gonna Be. So If You Want To Make It A Competition, We Will Never
Defeat Women, Not Not Your Mother, Not Your Sister, Not Your Wife, You Will Never
Defeat Them In Argument Because What They Can Come Up With You Didn'T Even
Think Of On The Back Of Your Head, Right? Allah Put This In Them You Know, They
Have, They Have The Power Of Speech Psychological Speech. So Logically
Effective Speech. So You Have To Learn To Deal With That. The Other Thing Another
Piece Of Advice Just In Terms Of Harmony Between Husband And Wife Is That You
Know Argumentation; Men Seem To Think Everything Can Be Solved By Reasoning
And Logical Evidences, Right? And They Forget That Allah Subhana Wa Ta'Ala
Didn'T Create Women In This Simple Black-And-White Fashion. Women Are
Complicated Creatures, When You Get Married Many Of You Will Testify Your
Wife Is Crying One Day And You Ask Her Why Are You Crying? She'Ll Say I Don'T
Know I-I'Ll Talk To You Later About It And You Say No Really....This Is Something
I Did, No Leave Me Alone, I Don'T Know And They Really Don'T Know
Sometimes And If They Do It'S Too Complicated For You To Understand. So
They Say You'Re Not Gonna Get It, Right? So They'Re Complex Creatures And So You
Will Learn This. When You'Re Not Married You'Ll Learn This With Your Mother And
You Will Learn This With Your Sister, You Try To Reason With Them. You Give Them
Reasons For Why You Did Something, That Disappointed Them. I Will Say Oh
You Know So Much Better, Fine.. Next Time I Shouldn'T Argue With You Because You'Re
So Smart And Their Feelings Will Be Hurt, Who Just Lost That Argument. You Did
Because You Tried To Reason, The Way You Argue Or You Want To Make Your Point
With Women What'S The Best Way To Make Your Point With Women, It'S Not By
Argument, The Best, The Best Way To Make A Point With Your Wife, To Make A Point
With Your Mother Is Actually The Sunnah Of The Messenger (Saw) One Mercy, Second Silence. Silence
You Know Effective Silence Is For Good Believing Lives? If The Husband Is Silent
Then She Will Say What'S The Matter Is There Something I Did, But If The Husband
Talks Back Man She Will Talk Back Way Better Than You Can, Right? She Will Come
Back With A Better Rebound Than You Ever Thought Impossible. But If You'Re Silent
And If There'S An Ounce Of Good, In Her Goodness In Her, She Will Come And Say
Maybe Even If I Don'T Think It Was My
Fault It Was My Fault, I'M Sorry But The
Husband Has To Learn This Technique Of Silence, And Not Silence With A Frown And
Pushing Her Away... Just A Little Extra Sad Puppy Face Here And There, You Know Try
It With Your Mom See If It Works And It Will Work With Your Wive'S Also...
Inshallah Right But This Is Important.... These Are The Etiquette Of Marriage, The
Messenger (Saw) He Could Yell At His Spouses, He Could Say A Harsh
Thing ...So He Doesn'T Because You Know The Relationship Is So Fragile, This
Relationship And Shaitaan Wants Every Opportunity To Destroy It And As Soon As
He Destroys It What'S Gonna Happen?
Corruption In The Muslim Community Is Gonna Happen. That'S What'S Gonna Happen.
Men Are Gonna Be Not Guarding Their Eyes Anymore And Other Things Are Gonna
Happen, Scandals Are Gonna Spread. This Is How They Spread From Bad Marriages. All
The Great Tragedies That Happen In The Muslim Community That People Don'T Even
Want To Talk About Because They Sound So Disgusting. Where Did They Start? They
Start From A Husband Not Taking Care Of
The Wife And A Wife Not Taking Care Of
The Husband. So This Is This Is At The
Heart Of Being A Believer In Sustaining Our Faith Taking Care Of The Wife And
Taking Care Of The Husband. May Allah Subhana Wa Ta'Ala Make Us The Best
Husbands And Grant Us The Best Wives .