what are the pivotal moments of your life today I'm going to explore whether
or not we create these pivotal moments or we have to wait until they just
happen keep watching
this is Life Mastery Gym. I'm Damon Cart and I teach people just like you
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of pivotal moments as those moments that shape our lives and shape who we are
what if you could create these pivotal moments what if I told you we could
create a pivotal moment together right now by the end of this video I've been
doing this for myself and I've been doing this with clients for years so if
you want to know how to create pivotal moments in your life that's exactly what
I'm going to show you by the end of this video and make sure you stick around to
the end of this video because I'm going to show you how to get some free
training that's going to help you take this to the next level now before we
dive deep into this I'm curious about you do you even think it's possible to
create these pivotal moments in your life let me know yes or no in the
comment section below creating pivotal moments starts with
deciding on a direction for your life but for a lot of people this elephant is
too big to digest and unfortunately a lot of people stop right here but hold
on a minute now if you're a big picture person this question probably doesn't
scare you at all because you're used to seeing things in big broad general terms
however you probably have not thought about this question you probably haven't
really asked that question to yourself what is the direction that I want to
take my life there is never a better time than right now to ask yourself this
question what direction do I want for my life and you don't need to come up with
an immediate answer because this question will create a gap and there's a
sort of a knee-jerk reaction that we feel like we have to fill in these gaps
but you don't have to it's more important that you sit with this
question and let the answer come up for you for those of you who find this
question overwhelming you may need to chunk this down too particular or more
specific context in your life so you can ask yourself what direction
would I like to take my career what direction what I'd like to take my
social life or my relationships what direction would I like to take my health
take it down to a smaller context and it'll make this question less
overwhelming so that you can focus more and again sit with that question you
don't need to come up with an immediate answer your mind is going to try to fill
that gap in that the question creates automatically you don't want to do that
just sit with the question and let the answer come up the second part of this
is once you have that answer once you know the direction you want to take
either your entire life or a particular context in your life now it's time to
ask an even tougher question and that is what are you doing or not doing that's
preventing you from taking your life in that direction or what are you doing or
not doing that's slowing you down from going in that direction either taking
your entire life in that direction or that particular context in your life in
that direction and again it's not important to have immediate answers to
these questions you want to sit with these questions and allow the answers to
come up so what is the point of this if you don't need immediate answers why why
would I tell you the TAT to ask yourself these questions
well asking yourself these questions will start to open your awareness you or
your awareness will start to open up to new understandings new insights new
ideas this is really how pivotal moments or created pivotal moments are basically
when you have a new awareness a new understanding a new insight and now
you've got to make a decision the decision was always there but you
weren't aware of it now that you're aware of it you can't not know what you
now know so now you have a decision to make a pivotal moment so what is that
decision well now that you know what you know your decision is do I take that new
awareness that new information insight understanding whatever you want to call
it and do I then go with that and and progress in my life or do I try to put
the two paced back in the tube and go back to
the way things were it's unfortunate but most people have a love affair with what
is comfortable and what is familiar so what they'll try to do is they'll try to
go back to the way things were before they knew this or had this new awareness
they'll try to suppress that and they'll try to pretend like or almost pretend
like it's something they don't know because they're trying to get back to
what life was like the comfortable familiar life that they had before they
had this new understanding it's but you can uh know things like one plus one
equals two once you know that you can't ever unknown you even see this in movies
and great stories the hero's journey the hero has an there's some sort of
inciting incident or the hero has new knowledge and the hero's choice is to
turn back or to proceed forward into unknown territory now if it's a true
hero type story of course the hero is always going to move ahead but we
actually do have stories and movies of tragedies of the person who tries to go
backwards the person who tries to move away from the new knowledge the new
understanding and this is built into our psychology that we are going to come to
new awarenesses and then when we come to these new awarenesses we have a decision
to make these are these pivotal moments and we either decide to go forward or we
decide to go backward if we decide to go backward it's only going to hurt you
before I get into the final step in this process if you're interested in going
deeper with this idea of really falling in love with your life even when things
suck I made a video about this you will find it in the card at the upper
right-hand corner of your screen just click on that card you'll see this video
about falling in love with life and if you want to take that deeper I recommend
watching that video okay we're at the point now where you're starting to see
that there is a fork in the road you have this new awareness do you go with
that or do you try to go back to the old way the way things were so that's an
either/or choice that's choice a or choice B is the
a third option maybe however if there were a third option then it doesn't make
a very good pivotal moment now does it or a pivotal decision because if you
think of a seesaw or a teeter-totter it's one board pivoting on a pivot point
so it's that duality it's either one or the other it's one side or the other
it's either choice a or choice B and actually I'm going to say yes there is
another option but most people don't think of it as an option they think of
it as not taking that option or not making an option or not making a choice
but I'm sure you've heard before that not making a decision are not making a
choice is a choice and it is indeed a choice hesitating to choose or choosing
not to make a choice is usually the worst choice so if you want to create a
pivotal moment one that will shape the rest of your life and also shape who you
are then you want to make a decision based on intention and understanding and
by and to do that you will need to remove the option of not making a choice
the choice of not making a choice assume that you must make a choice and when you
must make a choice between either going with the new insight or trying to go
backward in to the way things were you will create a pivotal moment imagine
that you just created a pivotal moment and now I have another choice for you
when I made this choice it definitely shaped the rest of my life and that
choice is to learn more about how eliciting your values takes your
decision-making to a whole new level because a lot of times we think that the
decision that's in front of us is just that and only that no it goes so so much
deeper because it goes to the value that you're trying to fulfill the experience
that you're trying to create in your life so if you want to learn
more about this I created a four-part video series that starts with value
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I will also link it to the card here in this video once again I'm curious about
you I'd love to hear about your pivotal moment and your pivotal decision that
you made please share it with me in the comments below if you like this video
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