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All couples and potential couples have their doubts from time to time
It's only natural to ask ourselves whether we´re with the right person
So are you needlessly worrying or is there really something wrong with the relationship?
Here are seven signs you may be with the wrong person
One: You're constantly unhappy
Remember loving relationships are supposed to be some of the most enjoyable parts of life
If you are constantly unhappy while in a relationship, you may be with the wrong person
This is especially true if you're feeling unhappy, even when you're hanging out together and going on dates
Two: You're experiencing high levels of stress
Aside from feeling unhappy relationships can also be a source of stress for many people
While it's natural to worry about our relationships from time to time. There comes a point when the stress becomes a cause for alarm
Ask yourself whether the relationship is making you feel relaxed or whether the scale is being tipped more towards anxiety and worry
Three:
Your expectations are not being met
Everyone has their own vision of what a perfect partner is
Inevitably they end up modifying those expectations to fit the partners that we meet. But how much are you willing to compromise?
According to ideas explored in the developmental course of marital dysfunction
Couples naturally adapt their expectations and come to terms with the fact that they're not quite with their dream partners
If you can't see yourself adapting to your partner's negative traits, then you might be with the wrong person
Four:
You knew there were problems at the very beginning
On that same note couples are usually willing to adapt to each other during the initial stages of the relationship
Research has shown that people naturally ignore each other's negative traits during the initial courtship phase.
In many cases people willingly ignore serious and obvious personality flaws
Think back to the beginning of the relationship and ask yourself whether you noticed negative traits that have become more prominent and noticeable as the
relationship advanced
You could be coming out of the honeymoon phase and starting to notice serious issues that were previously sidestepped
Five:
Your gut tells you something is off, but you can't seem to pinpoint it
Sometimes it's best to listen to your instincts being able to explain to yourself or your partner why you don't feel content isn't always essential
If you feel a nagging constant voice telling you that you're with the wrong person. You might want to listen to that voice
Although our subconscious mind can often point us in the right direction
Its messages don't necessarily form coherent words and signs
Sometimes it's best to simply listen to your gut
Six: Your partner doesn't seem very conscientious-
A 2004 study published by the Journal of family psychology attempted to link certain personality traits with marital satisfaction
researchers found a connection between a number of personality traits and
Unsatisfied couples and one trait was lowered conscientiousness
additional traits linked with dissatisfaction
Included high neuroticism and lowered agreeableness. If you're starting to wonder whether you might be with the wrong person
You might want to ask yourself whether or not your partner has any of these traits. Low levels of conscientiousness?
Should be fairly obvious
In other words lazy people may not be the best partner, but if you're one of them, it doesn't mean that you can't change
Seven: You're too similar
You've probably heard the old saying opposites attract. But is there any science behind this? Well,
a 2007 study found a greater overall personality
similarities do have an effect on relationships and not necessarily positive ones.
As similar couples spend more time together, the data suggests that a downward slope is more likely compared to couples who have very different personalities
Researchers also found that couples who had similar levels of extraversion were even more likely to experience
Dissatisfaction down the road. Other possible signs can include not showing the same values
You don't feel like you can be you around them or something just feels off
But at the end of the day only you can decide whether or not you're with the right or wrong person. As we mentioned previously
Sometimes you just have to listen to your gut and follow your emotions.
While these points can point us in the right direction, it's important to find your own reasons for making such a big decision
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