are you feeling directionless or perhaps you're just facing a lot of challenges
right now, you're not sure what exactly to do, well I have a solution for you
that's going to help you, guide you through all of this, and that is creating
your own personal vision statement, think of it like your own Google Maps for life.
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Wednesday. I have helped many people in organizations create their own
meaningful vision statement, and this is going to be a two-part video series on
vision statements, because I'm gonna give you step-by-step detailed guidelines on
how to do just that. It will be like I am with you in the
room, helping you create this statement, so let's get to creating your personal
vision statement. Okay so let's get into it, let's get into creating our personal
vision statement and focus on part 1. So there's very specific things that we're
gonna look at when looking at creating our personal vision statement, and step
one is to understand, Who am I, and what do I want.
Step two is about figuring out your dreams and desires, and step three are,
what are your core values, so let's get to it.
Okay step one, Who am I, and what do I want, it's interesting because sometimes
people, particularly the corporate world when they create corporate visions, they
just jump right into it, but a personal one, you've really got to think a little
bit differently, you have to go inward, who are you,
what is that inward reflection, so we're gonna focus our time and attention here,
and throughout this video we're gonna be pausing to give you the time needed
so you could do the exercises, the work, and reflection, so the first thing we're
gonna do is get a piece of paper a pen and divide it into two sections, so as of
today really think about what I love about my life, and what I want to change,
have zero judgment around this, just dump it,
the more you dump, the better off you are because you're actually going to just be,
not filtering anything, so don't filter, put today's date, and write down
everything, so at this moment pause this video, this is your little signal to
pause so you can focus your time, and attention on this particular activity, okay
the next thing we have to do, is we now have to take a look about having no
limits in life, how do you see yourself ten years from now, whoa
Adriana, I don't know how I see myself ten years from now, you know what, yeah
you do, you have an idea of what you want in your life from a career perspective,
family, whatever that may be, just put it out there
No Limits, again this is our opportunity without judgment, kind of benchmarking,
understanding, if there were no limits, how do you see yourself, so at this
moment give this video a pause, and with your paper and pen write down, or if
you're inspired, draw your answer, okay, throughout this video reflection is
going to be really important, and so I really want you to take a pause, really
review what you wrote on the last two exercises, what did you learn, and really
be honest with yourself, I promise you, no one's going to be seeing this unless you
share it, so my recommendation is, this is really your inner reflection work, focus
on you, really analyze what is it that you've noticed, and this is going to
become very important for you to move out of, whatever thing, I usually say,
whatever thing that you're stuck in, or if you feel you're spinning your wheels,
here's your opportunity to really kind of reflect benchmark, this is what we do
all the time in our business world, and it's really important to benchmark our
personal life as well, so pause this video, really take time to reflect on
what you learned about yourself on the previous pages, what I love about this
quote, and I want to share it with you, is when defeat comes, accept it as a signal
that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more
towards your coveted goal, Napoleon Hill, so I say this, because some of you may be
really pleased with what you wrote, and by your analysis you're quite happy with
it, but others, you may go holy smokes, what's going on here,
I don't feel like I have any direction, or whatever it is that I want to do, it's
all good, there's no judgment here, just realize that whatever it is you wrote
down, and whatever you analyze, you have opportunity to rebuild, that's why we're
here, to teach you how to rebuild, and really create your personal vision
statement that is gonna guide you in life, okay let's now go to step two, so
once we've done the benchmarking, who are you, what are you all about, we got to
figure out even deeper, your dreams, and desires, so let's really focus on the
shoulds, and the oughts, so we want to list things here, because this is now what I
call the white noise of life that dictates us, and sometimes steers us away
from things that we're really interested in, so I say shoulds, these are the things
you feel are necessary, whether you like it or not, and I call this shouding on
yourself, yeah I know shouding on yourself, I'm not saying anything else,
I'm just saying should, but you can get the connotation, so there can be a really
negativity with the shoulds, so I want you to list down everything
that you feel that you should be doing, now this is whether you like it or not,
and explain why you're doing it, now again, there's no judgment here,
because there's gonna be some shoulds in your life you have to do no matter what,
if you have people that you're responsible for well, you're gonna have
to take care of them, which means that you're gonna need to work in order to
get a paycheck to take care of them, that's a should, whether you like it or
not, but it's interesting, because a lot of times there's a lot of our life we
live for other people, for other societal norms, things of that nature, and this is
what we want to start pulling out, so list all the shoulds that you do, and
explain why, now, afterwards, and I'm going to pause this, we're gonna
go to the oughts, so these are the things you feel are nice to have, but you
haven't gotten around to, because you're just so busy with the shoulds, so your
shoulds are now taking up all your time, list the oughts, which are the nice two
things do, and list why you're not doing them, so take this opportunity to pause
this video, and really analyze your shoulds, and your oughts,
okay, now we get to a little bit of the fun stuff, we're gonna write down the
things that you love doing, so we kind of did this in the first step, but now
I really want you to think deeper, so what is it that you currently do that
you love to do, and would also like for you to also create, what are the things
that you love doing, that you will one day do, perhaps you just don't have time
to do that at this moment, that's okay, we just really want to start capturing, and
going in again to what our hearts desires are, so take this moment, pause
this video to really focus on creating this list, all right now reflection time,
as you know from step one, reflection is really important, and in all steps
reflections are going to be critical, because when you're creating a personal
vision statement, you really want to make sure that what you're writing down, and
what you're creating, is going to last for a period of time, not just for the
moment, so really think about, and review how you spend your time, is it spent in
the shoulds the aughts, or the desires, so when you kind of analyze all of this
would you say 80% of what you do is in the shoulds, then are you really living
your life, or is it in the desire, so really give yourself this analysis, and
why, why is that there, may be very good reasons why your life is off spent in
the shoulds, we all have circumstances, so you really
need to have an understanding as to what it is, so the next question to ask
yourself is, what did you learn about yourself regarding this, are you dictated
by what other people think, or are you independent, and it doesn't matter what
other people think, and you're truly connected to who you are, and the next
big question is, are you okay with all of this, so stop the video, take some
reflection time look at everything you created, and really ask these three core
questions, okay, so why are we doing all of this, why are
we even taking a look at this benchmarking, because to truly live your
life desire, to truly live and use your personal vision statement as your
compass in life, it is important that you are
connected to you, who you are, and part of that is ensuring that you have self-care,
so here are some reminders for you as we move forward in this process,
particularly when we've been analyzing or shoulds, oughts and desires, if something
feels wrong, don't do it, you're now on this path of
living in your heart's desire, and self-care is going to be important, so if
something feels wrong, don't do it, say exactly what you mean,
this becomes important because in too many scenarios and situations,
particularly when it comes to societal norms, we are obliged to, or we feel
obliged to say things, whether we mean it or not, I'm not saying when you're
going to say things exactly the way you what you mean that you have to do it in
a negative way, or in a disruptive way, or in a rude way, because no, you don't have
to, you can be very kind, you can be very thoughtful and loving, but you have to
also honor yourself in the interim as well, you want to trust your gut, your
intuition is powerful, and if you're on this journey of self-reflection trusting
your gut, and really listening to what it's telling you is going to help you
with a direction, never speak badly about yourself,
so as you're uncovering who you are, and what you're about, never speak badly of
yourself, because the only person who's going to ensure that you're fully loved
is you, and people only pick up on the energy that you give out about yourself,
so if you don't feel good about yourself, well than other people are gonna pick up
on that, so really honor who you are, never give up on your dreams, your dreams
are important, this is what's guiding you and making the decisions in life, and
with self-care, if you have a dream and it's something that is really in tune
with your gut, then go for it, don't be afraid to say no, so you can say
yes, I always say that this is really important, and this is why we're doing
all these exercises, as too many times we're so busy, and get caught up in the
white noise of light that we say yes to everything, and it veers us
off course, we were just busy with busy work, so by understanding who we are, and
what we're about, and getting in tune to our inner being, we can start to say no,
so that we truly can say yes, to the things that are going to lead us towards
our desires, and be kind to yourself, it's really important, like the never speaking
badly about yourself, that you're kind to yourself, and really let go of what you
can't control, too many times we try to control things
around us, realize you can't, let go of it, and when you do that, there's a sense of
freedom, stay away from drama, and negativity, and love yourself always, so
this list was inspired from the web, but as we move in this direction of creating
our vision, it is so important that we start moving forward with self-care,
because the greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high
and we miss it that it is too low and we reach it, and then we're stuck being flat,
so reach for the stars, it is so important, and part of that is self-care
for yourself, all right, last but not least in this part one, is
what are your core values, so now that we've really figure out who are, we have
a deeper understanding of our dreams, and desires, we understand that self-care is
really important to who we are, and what we're about, your core values are the
next big thing that we have to take a look at, so they are the first step to
understanding who you are in a greater detail, they are your guiding principle, I
always say they guide you in the dark, and most important, you live them 24/7,
not just when it's convenient, so your values are a big part of who you are, and
your personal vision statement, now when you understand what your values are, you
may decline opportunities, because they are not aligned with your values, this is
very powerful, this is the ability to say no to things, in order to say yes, but
most importantly, you will be open to new opportunities, because of them, things
that you haven't even realized were part of who you are, I have a TEDTalk actually,
that talks about this, so go check it out, TED talk Adriana Girdler, but
understanding your core value is a critical ingredient to a meaningful
vision statement, it supports it, you have to know what your line in the sand is,
because core values are a description of your character, of how you behave, and
what you are like, they hold strong no matter what, especially in times of
stress, and temptation, and let me tell you, every day can be stressful, and have
temptation, and it is your core values that is going to be your beacon in the
night guiding you 24/7, all right, so what are core values, well here's a list to
start you off with, and it's really important because you're gonna start
picking some of this out, but there's more to this, believe you me, go on the
internet, and there's tons of core values, but I have some if you go to
myvisualvision.com and if we quickly scroll to it, there we go, we have right here on
this website, myvisualvision.com and if you scroll all the way down here, and
we click on this download, you can see there's a hundred other core values here,
so go for it, download it, and you can start picking out things that really
resonate with you, so once you do that, and you pick out core values that you
really resonate with, you're going to put them on a sheet of paper, so this is
where we're gonna get that sheet of paper again, and you're gonna write them
down, pick five max, now don't forget these are things that you live 24/7, so
you don't want to have too many, five is actually quite a lot, usually like to say
three is a magic number, but you're gonna want five because we're gonna do some
testing of this, but more importantly is, once you write down what they are, you
got to define them, define what does it mean, because let's say honesty, as a core
value, can mean many things to many people, or loyalty can mean many things
to many people, so you want to define it for yourself, so
at this note stop this video, go to my visualvision.com, check out that core
value list, pick out five that really resonate with
you, and define them, and then we're gonna move on once you're done that, okay, this
is critical, I call it the core value litmus test, so you're gonna ask
yourself for the ones that you've chosen, you're gonna ask each question here, and
it's really important, because if you answer no to all of them, then you're
gonna move forward, if you don't you're gonna have to revisit your values, and
find ones that you're able to live with 24/7, in any situation, so let's look at
what some of these questions are, would you honestly sacrifice any value on your
list for money, if someone gave you a million dollars to go against a
core value would you do it, have you lost any core value in times of stress, do you
envision twenty five years from now this core value changing, would you stop
holding these values if at some point they became a competitive disadvantage,
so if you answered no, so again let's look at the money question, if someone
gave you a million dollars to go against your core value would you do it, no I
would not, all right have you lost any of your core values due to stress, no I haven't
lost this one that I'm vetting out right now, do you still see it, no, you know what
I don't see it changing, and we stop holding these values if it became a
comfort competitive disadvantage, no way, so then you're gonna move forward, but if
not, you're gonna say, you're gonna go backwards, you're gonna go back to the
list, pick up a new core value, and you're gonna vet it through this list one more
time, what's really important with this is, this list, is going to help you
really understand what your core values are, again this is what you live 24/7, a
description of your character, this is why these questions become so important,
now one thing to take note of, if you have a core value that you've said no to
for all of these, but you have lost it in times of stress, and you really like that
core value, really analyze why you lost it, did you understand it was a core
value, if you did not understand it was a core value, then that's why you didn't
have it up front and center, and really living your life by it, but if you're
willing to attempt it again, then that's okay, if you answered no, no, no, but this
is a yes, and you're willing to do it one more time, remember a quote before, listen
it;s okay to fail, it's okay to fall, pick
yourself up again, and move forward, so at this point I want you to stop the video,
go through your core value list and vet it through this litmus test, once you
have it all move forward, because yeah you're now at a point where you know
your core values, and what's truly important to you, this is the critical
fundamental steps for you creating your own personal vision statement, and
knowing how you are gonna live your life, and the famous words of Roy Disney, it's
not hard to make a decision once you know what your values are, okay now that
you've done your deep analysis on yourself, this is really important,
understanding who you are, what are your dreams, and desires, what are you really
focusing your time on, this is the benchmarking that is so critical so that
you can move forward from this, you've got to know where you are today, in order
to dream about where you want to go tomorrow, so thank you for saying tuned,
watch out next week for part two, and if you could subscribe to my channel, hit
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until next time I'll see you in part 2