- Heya playa, there are five different types of dates
that you can take your crush out on.
If you're struggling to figure out what you should do,
this video is going to help you out.
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Coming up with a date idea can be a bit difficult.
Usually it depends on how close you are with
that person and even when you feel like you are close,
coming up with the right thing for you two to do
is a bit challenging.
Because of that, I've broken down the five different types
of dates you can go on
with the first one being an eating date.
This ones a simpler one because at the end
of the day everyone likes to eat and everyone needs to eat.
If you tell your crush something like,
hey I'm really hungry I'm gonna go grab a bite to eat,
wanna come join me that's an invitation
for them to do something they would probably normally
do on their own.
This ones easier because you can just pick
a local fast food restaurant or
a restaurant that you usually like to go to
that you order a meal that you love.
The whole point in an eating date
is just spend time enjoy food together,
bond over that food eating experience,
and to use that as an opportunity
to get to learn a little bit more about them.
Where you choose to go eat doesn't matter,
but I would recommend don't pick a fancy place
on the first or second date.
Use that as an opportunity just to grab something quick.
Maybe you want to go to a coffee place,
maybe you want to go to an ice cream shop.
The second type of date is an entertainment date.
This one's different from an eating date
because you're spending less time having
a face to face conversation,
and more time observing something,
enjoying it and then coming back together
to share that experience.
This can easily be something like going to the movies
with them, going to watch a school sports team,
going to watch band play,
going to do something where to two of you
are observing something and then you can come back together
to share your thoughts and feelings.
A good way to ask them out on this type of date
is to talk to them about the things that you like.
The things that you want to see,
the things that you enjoy,
and then invite them to come enjoy that experience with you.
You might want to say something like
hey I'm really looking forward to this movie coming out,
you should come check it out with me
because I heard it's gonna to be really good.
The third type of date is a bonding activity.
This one's similar to an entertainment date
because the two of you are doing something together
but the focus here more so is on the two of you actively
being involved in that experience together.
If you're doing something like playing mini golf
or going bowling those are activities
where you're kind of competitive with the other person,
you're kind of playing with them
and it gives you the opportunity to flirt,
to tease them, to be competitive,
to have that fun added into the date.
I think bonding activities are a great way
to really really get to know someone better
because you get to see a side of them
that you don't normally see.
Maybe you met them in school and you're used
to seeing them around their friends or in class
and now you're gonna to start
to see their fun personality start to come out.
That's the type that you really want them
to express around you because when
they're able to put their fun personality out there,
that shows that they're being open
with you that their being honest.
That they're really allowing you in to see the real them.
A good way to invite them on this type of date
is to talk about the thing you want to do,
tell them that you've always wanted to do it
and that you want to do it with them
because they seem like a fun person that you could have
a really good experience doing that with.
The fourth type of date is a group hangout.
You might be thinking to yourself
if my friends are there how exactly
is it a date, and here's how.
Even though your friends are there
they provide the safety net for you.
If things start to get awkward between
you and your crush you can always turn
to your friends or involve them in the conversation
to save it, so that you don't both walk away feeling weird.
You also have the opportunity to break off
with your crush one on one.
Let's say everyone's hanging out in a group,
you can tell your crush hey you wanna go for a walk
with me and let's go talk,
you have that opportunity to break off
for a few minutes here and there to get to know
them better without it being weird.
If you don't know your crush that well,
I think a group hangout is the best thing to do.
It gives you the opportunity to get to know them
and their friends better and for them
to get to know you and your friends better.
A good way to lead into this group hangout simply
is to say hey me and my friends wanna get to know you
and your friends, let's all go out
and do something together.
Maybe an entertainment thing,
maybe a group hangout activity,
anything where the two of you and all of you guys can bond
is a good way to get to know your crush better.
The fifth type of date is what I call the walk and talk.
The focus of these types of dates
isn't to actively do things.
It's really to get to know that person better.
Sometimes you want to spend time with them
to really dive deeper into who they are as a person,
to really show them who you are as a person,
and for the two of you to not be distracted by other things.
The reason why I call it walk and talk
is you might just want to invite them out for a walk.
You might want to say something like
hey what are you doing after school let's go for
a walk together and get to know each other better.
I would recommend using something like this
using this type of date when you feel like the two of you
are already starting to have that bond together.
They're gonna be open to spending
that one on one time with you,
without any kind of distractions.
Usually people want distractions or things
to do when they don't really know that person that well
but if you're already on the trajectory of things going well
with your crush this is the perfect type of date
to invite them out on.
No matter what type of date you choose
to ask your crush out on, the whole purpose of dating
them is to get to know them better,
to see if the two of you can build something.
You don't want to ask them out on a date
and then ignore them.
You don't want to ask them out
on a date just because you want to date them
and you want to be around them.
The whole purpose is to build something together.
I know you might be nervous, it might feel awkward,
it might feel weird, you might not know how to approach
this situation but simply asking someone
to spend time with you because you really enjoy
their company or you really think
they're a cool person sometimes is all you need to do.
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into making better plans with your crush.
Check the playlist underneath it as well
to watch more videos on this topic,
and on that note I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.