Hey guys, so the reasons why the more you like her
the more likely she'll reject you
is something that a lot of guys
make the mistake of doing.
The fact is you will often miss out
on a woman you really like
because you're doing one or more
of these three things,
and you've probably found
that the more you do like her,
the faster she sends you packing.
So, if you've been in a situation
where you really liked a woman and got rejected,
then understanding why this happens
will help prevent it from
happening again in the future.
In this video, we're going to discuss
what you're doing
that makes her reject you
and why it's such an instant turnoff
and what you can do instead
that will improve your chances.
If you're new to my channel,
welcome. I'm glad you're here.
I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract, and keep your keeper.
My videos are for you
if you are ready to settle down
without settling or compromising yourself.
Welcome to just the tip.
Okay, so why do most men miss out?
You meet a girl you really like.
She gives you the warm and fuzzy feelings.
Maybe you even imagine holding her in your arms,
going places hand in hand,
looking into her eyes,
and kissing her passionately.
Maybe you even play romantic music
while fantasizing about being with her.
Cheesy, but far more common than you might expect.
You think she's the one and you can see yourself
in a long-term relationship with her,
maybe even marriage
if you're the marrying kind.
Then you muster up the courage to ask her out
and she rejects you.
And all that time you spent
imagining something wonderful was for nothing.
Your heart sinks and you feel like
you've missed out on the one.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Ever wondered why this happens?
Probably all the time, right?
Well, I'm going to tell you the three main reasons
why you're probably shooting yourself in the foot
and stick with me to the end
because I'm going to tell you how
to stop this from happening again.
Why she rejects you.
Number three,
you act needy.
Neediness is one of the biggest,
instant attraction killers.
If you're needy with women,
you will automatically lower your status to them.
They'll think you don't have any other options,
and you're not desired by other women.
I hear you asking,
well, why does that even matter, Anna?
Why are women so shallow?
Okay,
well, it's kind of biology.
If she assumes no one wants you
her biology will tell her
psychologically, fundamentally,
innately, intuitively,
that there must be something wrong with you
and that doesn't make her feel safe.
What's a woman's primary need?
Right, to feel safe emotionally,
physically, financially that works.
Hey, don't shoot the messenger.
I'm not the creator, I'm just the decoder.
So, what does neediness look like?
Well, pretty basic.
It's when you feel like you need her in your life.
Maybe you think about her all the time
because you have no life.
Feel like she'll make you complete
because you have no friends.
Text her all the time
because you have no social life
and you need her to pay attention to you.
Are we too eager to see her again
because you're desperate?
Or maybe you feel in a hurry to kiss her
or advance the relationship
then put a label on it
like making her your girlfriend,
so you won't lose her.
Essentially, it's when you put her value
above your own.
If you put her on a pedestal,
she will look down on you.
Number two, you're outcome dependent.
You want things to work out so badly
that you've already set yourself up for failure.
This makes you stifled
and nervous when talking to her.
And this is a woman you may not even know very well
or at all, really.
She could be crazy.
Remember, narcissists are very good
at seeming like lovely people in the world.
So, what does outcome dependent look like?
It's when you care way too much
about what you think
she thinks about what you're going to say.
You're concerned about how
she's going to react to what you say.
So, you filter everything
hoping she'll like it.
Basically, it's when you're always
seeking her approval
or when you tell yourself that
if she does reject you,
you're going to be heartbroken.
In short, you're way too attached
to the end result.
She can feel it and it's an instant turnoff.
Which brings us to number one.
You get too emotionally invested too soon.
In fact, becoming emotionally invested too soon
or overly invested is the core of the problem.
The more emotionally invested you become in a woman
when you haven't even gotten to know her
or even been intimate with her,
the more needy you're going to act.
And then you'll care way too much
about what she thinks about you.
You'll lack composure around her.
You'll lose your spontaneity
and be all in your mind about everything.
You'll stop being your authentic, attractive self.
This instantly kills attraction,
no es bueno
cause she'll start to think
you have low standards.
Intuitively, she knows.
How can you fall for someone
you don't even actually know?
And the more overly invested you are prematurely,
the more desperate, needy, and outcome dependent
you will be and act.
What does this look like?
Well, basically looks like idolizing her.
Again, you put her on a pedestal,
she's going to look down on you.
Maybe you start imagining
how great you're going to be together.
Start fantasizing about
the future life you're going to have together.
Let your emotions get the better of you.
Maybe you're even starting to have a relationship
in your head with her
before you've even asked her out
or gone on any dates or maybe only a few dates,
but you're already miles down the road into
your future together
instead of being in the present with her right now.
And you're addicted to the good feelings you have
when you think about all this stuff
that's not even real, is fantasy.
You're sold on her already
and you really don't even know her.
So, how can you stop this from happening?
Well, now it's my turn to be cheesy.
You have to be your own hero.
If you think a woman
is going to fix all your problems
and make you happy and complete you.
Well, you're going to be overly invested,
overly outcome dependent and overly needy.
And you're never going to attract and keep
the woman of your dreams, I'm sorry.
It's just not going to happen.
So, you need to fix the core issues
that are causing you to over invest
and be outcome dependent and act needy.
And as I've said in some other videos,
the best way of doing this is
to get your poop in a group,
get your shit together.
You got to focus on yourself
and fixing your life wherever it's broken.
You need to focus on self-development.
The bonus is
this will help you be happier in your life,
regardless of any other woman.
Any woman is going to improve your life.
You will feel happier,
you will feel more content,
you'll feel more confident,
you will feel more competent.
It's a ripple effect, where do you start?
Okay well, I've said in other videos
get in better shape,
take up a hobby, have a passion,
improve your skills, grow your career.
If you're retired, work on your home.
The more you focus
on improving yourself and your life,
the more attractive you'll be
and more importantly
the more attractive you'll feel
and the happier you'll feel.
You won't be outcome dependent and needy
because you're already going to
be living the life that you love
and you're not dependent on anyone but yourself.
And you won't over invest in a woman emotionally
because you'll already like yourself.
You might even love yourself
not in that way but overall.
What have I said in other videos?
Neediness equals dependency, equals mother mode,
equals non-arousal mode,
equals friend zone, my friend.
And then you go from hoping she likes you
to hoping you like her.
In other words, you'll be filtering
for her character flaws.
You'll want to make sure she meets your standard.
She'll want to meet your standard.
And this is what I do to help you
in my WakeUP2Luv program.
It's a wonderful process that
helps you figure out what you should be doing first
that's going to make the biggest difference
in your life and in turn in your love life.
So, I'll put the link for that
in the pinned comment under YouTube
and in the video description under YouTube.
Because remember,
nothing changes if nothing changes.
Nothing changes if you don't change.
Said another way
if you always do what you've always done,
you'll always get what you've always got.
Thanks for being here,
thanks for watching, God bless.
Really cold out here today, you guys.
It's trying to snow.
A few days later, it snowed.