As a presenter, you need to learn how it to gain the respect to the audience. If
you don't, you're going to struggle. Watch closely so you learn what to do
first and what to do next so you can shape up your presentation.
You're presenting and you notice that the audience is not giving you attention
and you notice you're not getting the level of respect that you thought you
would get being a presenter up in front. Well something to realize is that a
presenter who assumes that the audience is naturally going to give you respect
is a wrong way of thinking. Respect is earned. It is not just freely given. When
the audience comes together to listen to you speak, they are cautious about how
much respect they're going to give you because people have been manipulated.
People have been tricked, people have been promised and under-delivered, people
have gone through a lot of problems in the world today and they're super
sensitive of where they're going to give their levels of respect. So what you do,
is there are certain things you've got to do in the presentation to build that
respect. Now, how long does it take? Well, it depends on how well you can deliver
these particular steps. So I've got for you 4 different parts of a process of
building respect with the audience. Now, you don't have to do this. You can just
stand up and do your presentation and let the audience be exactly where
they're at. But if you're like me, you like it when the audience talks to their
friends and sends their friends to you as a referral. And, I think you like it
when people leave your presentation and they talk good about you. I will never
forget the day that I had 900 people in a room and before my three-day event was
over, those 900 people had literally talked to 1200 people and not
only talked to them but actually registered 1200 people for the
next event. Talk about a major compliment and a major feedback as that they
respected. Myself and respected my wife in how we do our presentations. That's
huge. I mean how many times do you have an audience reach out and inspire 1,200
people to come to your next event because of the way you're being up on
stage. So, here are some very important parts to add to your presentation to
build that respect from students. The first one has to do with the level of
credibility you lay out to the audience. Now most people think credibility needs
to be about how big your business is, all the awards that you've achieved and all
your greatness. That's not what credibility is all about. They want to
know, can they trust you? And having all that success, actually sometimes can make
people a little leery about you because it's all about what you've been able to
do. But credibility needs to be about you as... Now I'm going to speak about me. About me
being a father, me being a husband, me being a business owner, a neighbor, what
kind of hobbies do I like to participate in? You know, why do I have a business not
what has my business done but why do I have a business? Those are important
credibility points to share with the audience. Now a mistake that people make
is when they're doing presentations is when they get out there in front, they
immediately go into their credibility piece. It's like no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Now,
one of the smartest things you can do at the beginning of the presentation is
tell a story, about something that you've experienced. Just anything, anything that
you've experienced that has some good principle to it but let them learn about
you during your storytelling experience. You know I have a story that I tell,
where I when I was 18 years old. I found a skunk that had a jar on its head and I
pulled the jar off the skunk's head. But the story takes about 20 minutes. Amongst
that story, they find that I'm somebody to trust, they find that I care about
nature, they find that I'm careful and considerate, they find that I care about
my friends, that I respect family, I respect myself. There's like all these
things they learn from a story. So another thing about credibility is you
don't come out with this list of credibility and you just give it to the
people. No, let them find those levels of credibility in how you're talking
about the topic, the class, your stories. Let them discover that but here's the
important part, they need to find these credibility parts within the first 30
minutes of your class. First 30 minutes they need to be able to discover them
not be told them. If you have to tell somebody that you're credible on what
you're doing and they actually are going to be a little leery of you because you had
to tell them. So start out your presentation with a great story and let
them watch you. let them listen to you. Okay next one. Another way to earn the
respect of the audience is to create safety in the room and I don't see very
many presenters do this. And it makes me like why are they not doing this? When I
go to a class and I'm sitting around people I don't know and I don't know
what's going to happen in the class, I'm feeling a little edgy. You know it's like
okay we're all here but what's going to happen, what's going to go on, what's
expected of me, what's the presenter going to deliver. So for you to be able to
lay out the guidelines and the safety rules for the class, you will literally
feel the audience settle down and trust you because people trust people who care
about safety. Because when you don't address the safety factors of a
class then they feel like it's unsafe because they're unsure and you're going to
get a lot less respect. But boy you cover some safety guidelines and rules for a
class, you're going to feel that respect happen right there in the moment of
establishing that. And when I do this, I like to cover 3
or 4 rules when I'm talking about that. Next one has to do with you being
authentic. So how do people not be authentic?
Well presenters, they have this little this line and you know it. If you've been
presenting for a while, you know exactly what I'm talking about when I bring this
up. There's this line where you get to be you but if you cross the line, you now
start to show off. You start to enjoy the attention from the audience and now you
start to be this little show-off onstage. That's not authentic. What's authentic is
over here where you talk about not only what you're teaching but you talk about
your own struggles and how you got through those struggles and what you
learned. But to help earn respect and I know all this is going to sound pretty weird but
to earn respect in an authentic way from your audience, tell them of your
recent struggle and how much it beats you up and how much you really wrestled
with it and then of course, tell them what you did to get through it. Your
audience will sit there and be like, "Wow, I like you." You are open enough to tell
me what is just whooping you right now in your life. Now, that's that's pretty
important. Most people are not vulnerable enough and they're not open enough to be
that way. They feel like they got to get on stage and like they only talk about
you know all their good stuff, that's not impressive anymore.
About 3-4 years ago that was impressive to be up on stage and you
have no flaws. But now, people are like, "Ah, you're totally a fake, if you have
nothing wrong with you." And so instead of waiting for them to
find out something wrong with you, just tell them what's going wrong in your
life. Tell them what beat you up, what scarred you, what wounded you lately
and what did you do about it? Boy, they're going to love that part and
guess what happens? You earn respect because you're human too. You're human too. Okay
number 4, number 4. When you teach an audience information,
you got to give them time to process. I went to a class recently because I still
go to classes. Workshops, seminars, trainings because I love education.
I love personal development. But I was at this class and oh my goodness! It was so
rushed. I mean there was so much information and then we were given a
very short amount of time to process and to ask questions and then when we ask
questions, it didn't sound like the presenter actually wanted to answer our
questions because of the way that they were answered. So as a student, I know
that I highly respect presenters who have planned into their content to give
me time to reflect. Time to ponder and even time to discuss or ask questions
about what we just learned. And so for you if you leave this piece out of
planning time for the students to interact or to interact with you and
processing and asking questions. If you don't include that in your presentation,
you're going to lose respect because you're going to feel like you're pushy,
you're aggressive, you have high expectation and what will happen is they
will slowly, one by one, disconnect from you. They'll just disconnect and you'll
pay the price because a room that has an audience that does not respect the
presenter is an audience that is not paying attention. And then they start
doing things that are not safe and you now have a reckless audience. And here's
the crazy thing but it's an important thing. You created it not them. When an
audience is reckless, it's because you lack the skill of creating the respect
and when I hear a presenter who's like, "Oh, that audience was so out of control."
What I heard them say was, "I don't know how to establish respect." They don't know
these 4 simple, beginning steps of building respect. They
don't know what it takes. So don't let that happen again. From this point on, you
know what to do. Look at your plan, look at what you're teaching and you plan for
these things. You put this into the curriculum and you begin using this
process and so that you can gain the respect from your audience. That is a
powerful experience because when they respect you, they're at their top level
of learning and isn't that what we all want as presenters is for the audience
to excel. You know you have room to grow, right as a presenter? Come on, you know
that and yeah you may be doing a few good presentations here and there but
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