Hey everybody, Casey Zander here. And rest assured, I promise you that today I'm going
to be delivering on the title, what's the title, the title is the only video on hypergamy
that you will ever need. And I know that that might sound like a big claim. But the longer
I've been coaching, the longer I've been in this niche, the longer I've been in this industry,
the more well versed and deeper I can actually go in the nuances of these topics. So stay
with me end to end because rest assured I don't think I've ever seen a video on the
internet before that covers this topic this in depth in the way that I'm going to frame
it. So that way you can totally become full stack in who you are, and level yourself up
to the degrees that I know that you actually want to. So with that said, let's dive in.
Okay, before I do that, though, quick announcement these hats, right? For the past couple days,
you've probably seen me talk about the merch that I'm coming out with, I've never done
an official merchandise drop for my brand before, there's going to be various hats,
a couple different shirts, I recommend marking your calendars because July 1 is when all
of this comes out. And I have very limited supply because I don't know how this is going
to do yet. But I am excited. Now on topic hypergamy. Okay, everybody has heard this
word. What does the word mean? Well, essentially, right, the companions that you are trying
to see, they want the best bang for their buck, right? This is why the masculine self
improvement is so important, right? Because we know that you want to make yourself a man
of value. So what I need to do in order to truly hammer this point home is we have to
discuss what is a real alpha versus a social Alpha. Okay, and how you can have a combination
of both of these. So the very first piece we have to look at is like a real world alfa,
like a a strong dude who has done the work. So when you think of this, I want you to think
of the work that probably takes years to achieve. Okay, so what would this be? Well, number
one, obviously, we know one of the biggest attraction cues is going to be things like
status. Okay, what comes with status? Well, typically fame. This can be famous in Hollywood,
or this can be famous on Instagram, this could be maybe you're the top real estate agent
in your city and your face is on every billboard, I don't care what it is, there is some sort
of social recognition here. Now, here's why this is extremely important. This right here
shows masculine competence, right? Because typically, a guy doesn't obtain that status
or that fame just by accident. He does it by being a beast in a specific industry, or
He does it by being a beast step at like he's known for something, okay? Being
known for something typically comes with money and provisioning. Now, when we look at the
need, okay side of hypergamy, when it comes to survival, how well it looks like you can
provide for future offspring how good of a bet you would be for the long term. This is
a box that is typically checked by guys who have acquired fame or status in some sort
of specific industry or niche, the deeper part to this, too, that I want to talk about
is looking masculine, right, the masculine look or the masculine archetype. So for those
of you who maybe you're into lifting weights, you're into dieting, right, you're trying
to build the broad shoulders and the V taper, okay, you're trying to improve your six pack,
you're trying to have a more squared off jawline, by dieting correctly and losing body fat.
I don't care what it is, the more you have your look together. The more the more this
is just a physical like raw, visceral attraction cue. Another reason why this can be so attractive
as from a long term perspective is because people know that you have a good body typically
takes years, okay, it takes years of dedication, it takes years of sacrifice. This also shows
a strong virtue of hard work and dedication. Okay. And then the last thing I want to talk
about is recognition and being well known. If you walk into a bar or you walk into a
restaurant or you are in any place and people point at you, or people whisper to their friends
about your people know you, okay? This is going to be a real world Alpha. Think about
it. You look the part, you have status, you have provisioning, you probably have some
cash, you're known. Okay? This is important. But there's a whole separate side of the equation
to this that is not yet talked about, when typically people talk about like monkey branching
are the companion that they were into went to a different guy, they typically focus on
this side of the equation. This is important, and this takes years to master but there's
a whole separate side to this. Okay, the separate side to this is going to be the social alpha.
And what this is, is this is correct game. Okay. The ability to have verbal communication
that shows that not only are you competent, but you're at the cause of other people's
emotions and you can truly have a commanding presence. This is what's missing for most
guys. Most guys understand like, what are you going to the masculine look at the archetype,
most guys have no problem taking three years and going underneath the barbell, I'm getting
bigger. Most guys have no problem buckling down for five years and building their business
and making more money. This is the easy stuff. Like it's easy to wake up and do the exact
same thing every day. You know what's hard, What's hard is speaking correctly, when there's
another person on the other side of the equation, this is one dimensional, you can control yourself
and your success. This is two dimensional, not only do you have to control what it is
that you're saying, but now you have to calibrate what you're saying simultaneously to gauge
the response from the person that you're talking to. This is double complex. Okay, this is
what's missing. For a lot of guys. Here's why it's missing. Guys oftentimes think
that because they've done this, they convey that. But the problem is that most, most most
of the time, you can't convey that, that you've done any work just by walking into a place.
So how do you do that, you have to have social awareness. You can be 6% body fat with a V
taper. But guess what, if you don't know how to have a dominant social presence, you're
not going to get the results you're wanting in your dating life, you can make $10 million
in profit a year, if you don't know how to have a commanding presence socially or to
the group that you're talking to, you are not going to have the results you're looking
for. Today I am making this video to teach and to educate you on how to be a social Alpha.
How do you do this? Well, let's look at number one, a social Alpha makes their presence known.
You can do this at any height, any age, any income bracket, it doesn't matter, you will
notice guys who do really well with meeting people, okay? Instantly, they're constantly
there, their tone of voice is a little bit louder, right? They typically have a smirk
or a smile on their face. And what they're doing is they're engaging other people, there
may be shaking other people's hands, they're introducing themselves, they're basically
making their presence known, and what they're doing or what they can do, or what they know
how to do is control the frame of the room. Think about that. Maybe you've seen some of
this, maybe you've even been to, let's say a college fraternity party. Alright, and maybe
there's like one guy who doesn't really have his life together. But for whatever reason,
he's very socially confident. And you'll notice he pulls and get, he gets much more results
than you maybe or maybe than other people. And he's just known for doing that. The reason
is because he can engage the group. How do you engage the group? Well, what you do is
you have a series of frames, and verbal plays that cause emotional reactions out of other
people. So what does that mean? This means that if you're a social alpha, you are at
the cause of other people's emotions, you are not at the effect. Instead of waiting
for somebody to engage you. You are now engaging the group you are taking your presence, you're
taking your verbals, you are putting it out there, you're making your presence known,
and you're showing that you're not scared to do so. A lot of you know this too, when
I talk about it, but this is the biggest thing that's neglected guys will go out on a Saturday
night. They make great money, they look great, right? But the problem is, is they go home
and they haven't talked to anybody new The thing is, is they don't understand the social
calibration to make their presence known to show high value or perceived high value to
the group. Here's how you can do this. Ways that I've always enjoyed doing this as soon
as like dares or bets I dare you to do this. I bet that you can't do this. If you get yes
commitment, the more yes commitment you get from somebody, the more they're in your frame.
Okay? If you said Hey, I bet you that you can't hit a bull's eye by throwing that dark
right and if you do well by by everybody around if you said that and they're like, oh man
now now everybody know the whole group is all of a sudden in your frame trying to hit
that Bullseye that right there as an example get if you dare somebody to do something and
they smile and they take you up on that there they're entering into your friend. Okay, this
is basic teasing, and giving basic emotional spikes. If you're new to this, if you're new
to speaking this way, I recommend taking the easy ways of just picking these two right
dares or bats teasing small little wins where you can go home at the end of a Friday or
Saturday night and you can smile because you know that you made new attempts socially to
convey more social value. Okay? Conveying social value is just as important or even
more important than having real world value due to the fact that it's all people see and
it's all people can feel right this stuff is going to happen and going to come out when
they get to know you. This stuff is first impression and first impressions everything,
okay? People only know what you put in front of them. Always remember that so both are
needed. Okay. So for example, I've consistently told guys you have to be full stack, you have
to be full stack and who you are full stack in business. Right. For those of you who have
also seen my Xander consulting business page, I recommend going down and subscribing to
that right over the years. As I built this channel, for example, I've been teaching social
calibration. I've been teaching how to level up within your relationships, right, I
actually pull back the curtain in this channel, and I show you specifically how I grew this
company, I highly recommend checking that out. But when you are a full stack one percenter,
okay, when you're a full sack person, it shows that you're well versed, you have both sides
of this equation completely dialed in. And it shows that you can actually get what you
want. That's one of the things that I think not many people talk about enough is like
actually getting what you want. getting what you want, is more or less about the calibration
of how you do it. It's not just being it's not, it's not all anger and fire and brimstone
and full of grit, right? It's being able to read people and engage people. And that's
a skill in and of itself. And in order to get what you deserve. You truly have to come
at this with the mindset that you're entitled to your own success. If you have success over
here, make sure you're entitled mentally to try and get success over here or vice versa.
Both of these are so key. Now, you might be wondering, okay, this video made a lot of
sense, you might see that you need both sides of the equation. And you might be wondering
how you can even go deeper within this topic. Well, for the past couple of weeks, I've shown
you guys how we started with 300 seats left inside the masculinity blueprint, we have
now boiled that down to less than 190. I'll put a screenshot of exactly how many we have
left. But when we hit 2000 members in this at quarter two, I am closing down enrollment.
So if I've been able to enroll 150 people this quick, I can't express to you how fast
a channel like this will actually close out enrollment when it gets to 2000 for the masculinity
blueprint accelerator, I recommend taking me up on that due to the fact that it will
provide you so much value to go as deep into these topics as I can. So that way you have
success with these areas for the rest of your life that pay dividends for you in your 20s,
your 30s, your 40s your 50s and it will craft you into the person that I know that you want
to be. That's number one. Number two, if you're looking for more of a one to one touch, how
do you get direct access to me beyond that program, I recommend booking a call with my
brother Cole. Cole will screen your application on that interview he will see if you're a
fit if you're a fit. He's going to show you exactly how you can move forward with me.
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