Hello Maria. Hello from austria can you hear me? Yes very well. Okay um my situation is i'm doing
quite okay when i'm going inside myself there i can sometimes feel the peace and the happiness
but when i'm when i try to go outside i'm having a lot of trouble um especially when
it comes to other people and there's a lot of rejection and comparison and jealousy and all the
feelings of separation and yeah so i wanted to ask you if if i am a terrible separate finite self or
or not and if i am what i can do about it you are a beautiful infinite being
but you don't always realize it and everybody you come across is the same beautiful infinite being
but you don't always realize it about them as well and because you sometimes feel that you are
a terrible separate finite person you therefore inevitably think that some other people are
also terrible finite separate people and therefore you get into conflicts with them
so the remedy is to first of all recognize the nature of yourself i am not a terrible
finite person i am this beautiful aware open spacious luminous loving being
i have some conditioning yes that i inherited from my family and from my culture that appears as
certain thoughts and behaviors and everything but that's not essentially what i am it's just a layer
of clothing or conditioning that i wear but i essentially am this beautiful being and everybody
else in spite of their irritating habits and characteristics and everything they are the same
beautiful being and you try to feel that behind you you get in touch with your own being behind
those aspects of yourself that you find difficult but by the same token you feel
the same about the other and this recognition of your shared being is the experience of love
and you try to emphasize this aspect in your relationship with others it doesn't mean to say
that you may not be irritated by them or find their characters difficult so that that's fine
but try not to allow your love for another to be dependent upon whether or not you like them
we don't have to like everybody but we do have to love everybody
okay and practically would it be okay to to first practice the the inward going path yes
yes contemplate yourself mariam until and don't superimpose this on yourself as an idea you have
to really investigate yourself come to see that your your thoughts your feelings your
your habits your behaviors you've inherited these from your from your family it's not therefore they
inherited it from theirs and and from their culture and et cetera so it's a go through
that layer of your so don't just stop there and think oh i'm this terrible person i've got such
awful habits and i i'm unlovable go through all of that that's just the clothing you wear
go through all that and find i am this this beautiful aware being
contemplate yourself as that feel yourself as that love yourself as that
not talking about loving your character and talking about loving yourself
feel yourself as that your your attitude to your character will gradually change as a result of
this recognition uh this self-recognition and self-love and you will also i suspect find
that as you then begin to recognize yourself and feel yourself as this
that felt understanding will begin to infiltrate your the way you see other people you'll still
see the character they will still provoke you from time to time but their characters
will become increasingly transparent and you will have the ability to see through
the irritating character to the beautiful being behind it and this will begin to inform
the way you are with them and remember just as you undoubtedly are other people are very sensitive
if you think if you look at somebody and you think what a miserable irritating impossible character
you can be absolutely sure they will be feeling it however well however well you try to disguise it
they will be they will be feeding because you know what that feels like
you know what it feels like when somebody else feels like that to towards you so
it is okay to have those feelings sometimes yes yeah no no that's fine if those feelings arise
that's just part of your conditioned makeup but what is important is that you see through
you can say to yourself okay i acknowledge this person you're a little bit irritating
or that's not true i am irritated by you you can't they are not irritating
you are irritated so you say yes it's true i am irritated by you however
i see through that quality in you that i find irritating i see through that to your being
and i love your being now just as they previously felt your judgment when you were criticizing them
even as you tried to disguise it they will feel this new attitude in you
and they that will at least to a degree open their heart towards you they won't feel judged by you
and in time people were thinking oh i always used to feel uh slightly judged
when maria was around i always felt uncomfortable she i was but now she's
i feel so i feel so relaxed in her company she's so loving that they'll they'll
even if you don't verbalize this at all they will feel it and you will find your relationships will
begin to clear up without your having actually had to work on the relationship itself
i'm not suggesting it's not appropriate sometimes to address an issue in a relationship but
nice to see you mariah