INTJs often have difficulty trusting others because they believe it must be earned, not
given. It can take a long time for them to totally trust another person, which is not an easy process
for them. An INTJ wouldn't think of this as a lack of trust, but rather as being more cautious
and guarded about who they actually depend on. Trusting someone requires believing in their
authenticity while also allowing yourself to be vulnerable to being betrayed by that same person.
Some people, especially the INTJ, find it difficult to open up and truly trust others.
That’s because INTJs are born detectives. They are always looking for connections and patterns,
which is driven by their powerful introverted intuition. A lot of times, they don't like what
they see. Once they do let you in, however, you'll have a genuine fighter that always has your back.
There’s isn’t anything that an INTJ values more than loyalty.
So what happens when an INTJ lets their guard down, finally, and then it comes back to bite
them when someone betrays that sacred connection? I’ll just say - it won’t end well for you.
That's why today I am talking about 5 Unnerving Ways INTJs Handle Betrayal & Manipulation
Watch until the end of today’s video and tell me which of these ways you’ve handled it when
you were betrayed. Be sure to leave a comment and tell me your stories and experiences.
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Starting things off for me today is that An INTJ Can Become Obsessive & Controlling
INTJs often dread change and interacting with just anyone - because they are so picky and
because of the prospect of someone betraying their confidence. When someone betrays them,
it can be quite unsettling for an INTJ. It may even cause them to act irrationally. The typical
controlled and intentional INTJ may become obsessive and demanding, as well as withdraw from
those around them. They might become so enthralled by the betrayal that it eventually consumes them.
It has the ability to take over their minds and be profoundly disturbing to them.
For example, if an INTJ was deceived, they might spend their days and nights wondering why the
person had betrayed them and trying to come up with possible scenarios to help calm their mind.
When they come up with a plausible explanation, they will start to exert control over future
situations in their lives in order to avoid being deceived or betrayed again.
When this happens, An INTJ will always try to stay one step ahead of people,
which makes them constantly analyze and probe people's intentions - even more,
than they already do. It can be a never-ending vicious circle that will take someone with true
intentions and authenticity to potentially break them out.
Next up on my list today is An INTJ Has No Problem Putting Their Foot Down
INTJs live by strong principles and values and are not hesitant to stand up for what they believe in.
They are deeply devoted to their loved ones and close friends and will go to tremendous
lengths to protect them. They have an innate ability to see the larger picture and are
great problem solvers, which allows them to excel in effective strategy planning,
organization, and implementation. As a result, INTJs will put their foot down if they believe
someone is conspiring against them or attempting to manipulate them in any way. They will end the
manipulation and deception by directly pointing it out to that person without hesitation.
An INTJ will make it abundantly apparent to manipulators that they will not be tolerated.
They will put an end to the scheming, lying, and betrayal without blinking an eye. Because
they are not hesitant to stand up to bullies and manipulators, an INTJ will make it quite apparent
that this behavior is not acceptable. Standing true to their values, INTJs will be quick to
point it out and inform the other person that they have violated their own principles.
An INTJ will not hesitate to call them out until the other person recognizes their mistake
and apologizes to them. The INTJ's mood will determine whether they are forgiving or not,
but you can try your luck! Starting my top 3 today
is that INTJs Go On The Defensive When INTJs are exposed to lies and manipulations,
they have an extremely unpleasant emotional reaction. They can get incredibly protective
and want to fight back. Their only goal is to put an end to it and make it stop immediately.
INTJs, like a lot of people, struggle with dealing with betrayal and manipulation. They
prefer to view things for what they are and deal with problems as they arise. An INTJ may not want
to seem defensive, but they undoubtedly can be. The INTJ values accuracy over defense,
and they attempt to be open to new ideas when they are brought to their attention.
However, they don’t want to be deceived, lied to, or manipulated. INTJs can be apprehensive
since they have a tendency to put up barriers and hide their emotions from others. When it comes to
their feelings, INTJs are more protective than most as they attempt to hide them.
They can become so defensive, however, that they will blame other people to explain
why they did not deserve such treatment. They can start to believe that they are
martyrs and that everyone else is a monster. This mindset just reinforces the INTJ's
belief that the other person harmed them and that they did not deserve such treatment.
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In the runner-up spot is that INTJs Get Angry & Become Distant
So let’s just settle this. No one can really handle betrayal
and manipulation with a smile. No one enjoys it or gets excited when it happens to them.
And when this happens to an INTJ, they can become withdrawn as well as hostile. When someone betrays
the trust of an INTJ, the consequences can be severe. This is because INTJs are
very private people who dislike having their personal lives exposed to others. As a result,
when they are betrayed, they may become outraged and distance themselves from everyone. This is
particularly true if the betrayal is severe or involves a close friend or family member.
Because INTJs are introverts, they are more prone to think before speaking. Their 3rd function is
Introverted Feeling (Fi) which is an internal method of mapping out and comprehending emotions.
When INTJs have been betrayed they are more prone to process their feelings on their own
rather seek advice or input from others. This can leave their partner, friend, or family member
confused about where the INTJ is emotionally. But let them be, they need their alone time anyway,
especially when they have been betrayed. Are you an INTJ who has ever been betrayed?
How did you handle it when it happen to you? Leave a comment and tell me your stories.
Topping my list is An INTJ Has No problem Cutting Permanent Ties
This might seem harsh, but it's a much-needed step. If a person has wronged an INTJ a little too
much, they won’t hesitate to cut ties with them permanently. This is also known as the INTJ door
slam. No matter what the person does, INTJs aren’t letting them come back into their lives again.
This is a type of protective function in order to avoid such situations in the future.
You might be trying to explain yourself, but since the INTJ has already investigated and
closed off all existence of you in their minds, they have no desire to hear what you have to say.
INTJs are never looking for drama and try their best to stay away from drama in their lives.
In this situation, you must not keep banging on the door, but instead, offer the INTJ some time
to think and analyze the situation. They will ponder over the circumstances and, maybe, by
some small chance, might come to you when they are ready. But don't count on it. Make sure you never
force a conversation when an INTJ is betrayed because they are definitely not listening.
Also, never underestimate an INTJ's ability to switch off the remote when you try to be
a TV villain in their lives. Anyone who betrays or manipulates an INTJ should be
ready to lose them permanently, as you won’t be able to win them over again easily.
You may think that the door slam is reserved and specific for INFJs - but that’s not the case
at all. The INTJ door slam is just as brutal and can appear as though it happened out of the blue,
which is rarely the case. In fact, the INTJ has more than one door slam at their disposal!
This video talks about the different door slams INTJs use when they are simply
done - and what each one truly means for anyone who has been on the receiving end.