Heya playa, are you a middle schooler trying to figure out where you should go and what
you should do on your first date?
Well, that exactly what Questionist asked me when they said: "Can you please do a video
on where middle schoolers can go on a first date?".
Don't worry Questionist, I have a few different ideas as to what you could do so you don't
end up having a lame first date.
So, I'll share them with you right after this.
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when you're in middle school trying to figure out what you can do on a first date can be
kind of tough because your options are limited.
You don't have the means to travel wherever you want and you don't have the money to help
support you in doing that.
So you're kind of limited to what your parents actually allow you to do.
Now does that mean you can't have a great first date or great dates in general?
Absolutely not.
Just because your parents set a few restrictions that you have to follow doesn't mean that
you can't have an awesome time.
As kind of like a precursor to your first date there's a few things that you want to
set in order before you approach your crush, or your girlfriend or boyfriend and ask them
out.
First, you want to make sure your parents are on board.
They know that you have a crush and they're willing to assist you any way that they can
as long as you follow their guidelines.
And second, you want to make sure your crush's parents are on board.
The last thing you want to do is hype up this huge awesome date that the two of you are
gonna share together only to find out that their parents don't allow them to date.
Once everyone is in the know, it's time to start planning what the two of you can actually
do together.
And there's a few different places and things that you can do that can actually make that
first date memorable.
The easiest one to ask them to is to go to the movies.
The reason why the movies works as such a good date is that chances are one of your
parents is going to drop you off there with your crush.
When you're at the movies, you may feel awkward or nervous around them but you have the movie
to talk about.
Plus, you got that kind of alone time together until your parents come pick you up after
the movie.
Another option might be to ask them to go to your next school dance with you.
School dances are a great way to bond with someone.
You're dressed up, you both look sharp, you can let loose and have fun and dance and talk.
Plus you have that one on one time together without parents kind of sticking their noses
in and getting involved.
A third option that your parents might feel comfortable with is you asking to bring your
crush over to your house.
Now, chances are your parents aren't going to let you sit alone together in your room
but the fact that they can be in your environment might make you feel a little bit less nervous
and a little bit more open to share the things around you like your hobbies and your interests
and to just kind of feel in your zone to talk to them.
And the list goes on and on.
You can ask them to go get pizza with you, or ice cream or to just hang out in the park
or to hang out after school.
Whatever you choose to do, however you want to spend that first date, simply run it by
your parents and see if your parents are on board with it.
In most cases, parents will offer you alternatives and different ideas as to how you can make
that date work that fits within their own rule.
For some of you, you might have parents that won't actually let you go out and do things
so you're limited in your scope as to what you can actually do with that crush.
In those cases, you might have to get a little bit more creative when it comes to going on
an actual "date" with your crush.
So one thing you may want to try doing is asking them to hang out one on one during
lunch.
Now I know, lunch is a kind of chaotic time.
There are people all around, but if the two of you can kind of section off at the end
of a table and just have one on one conversation, it can feel like a date even though it's not
a proper date environment.
Really the key to any date is to find one on one time that you and your crush can spend
together.
The whole purpose is to really get to know each other better.
So, if you could do it during lunch and that's your only option, then go for it.
Another thing you may want to consider is that you might not actually have to be in
person to have that date.
Try having a video chat date with them.
Turn it on on your phone, have them do the same, just communicate that way.
I know, it's not ideal.
But when you're in middle school you have limited options so if you can go out and do
things with your parent's permission that's great.
If you have to hang out during lunch together, that's ok too.
And even if you have to resort to having video chats online when you're home, that's fine.
Anything you can do to fulfill that desire you have to spend one on one time talking
to that person, go for it.
What do you think though, as a middle schooler what's a possible first date that you could
see yourself going on?
What's something you want to go on but you know your parents won't let you?
Leave it down in the comments below and we'll talk about it.
Now if you're in a situation that you don't really want to post in the YouTube comments,
you can always shoot me a DM over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
Otherwise thank you so much for watching, hit the thumbs up button if you enjoyed this
video and definitely check out the other videos over there on the side if you want to keep
learning whether or not you should date in middle school and even how to go about it.
I've made a lot of videos on that topic so go check them out.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always love and peace.