- [Narrator] They just aren't that into you.
No, no, was there ever a more dreaded phrase?
Truth is being seen as attractive is much more complex
and involves subtle cues, behaviors and factors
that don't involve how long your lashes are
or how square your jaw bone is.
Attraction is rather complicated dance.
So let's look at some things that can serve as hint
that someone is attracted to you
as well as subtle secrets to be more attractive to others.
Number one, show it rather than say it with body language.
This is a relief for those of us who can't think
of the right words, unless we're a little more comfortable.
One can convey quite a bit of info from how you sit, stand,
or even place your hands.
Generally, when you give the aura of being approachable
and friendly, you are more attractive.
How do you do this without saying
just the right witty rep RT?
Answer, you act open, approachable and friendly
instead of crossing your arms or legs
like you're blocking yourself off.
Take a breath, face the person you're talking to,
relax your posture and rest your arms openly.
Use this to observe those interacting with you as well.
When someone is attracted to you, they tend to be engaged
in what you are saying and will show that
both verbally and non-verbally.
Number two, close the distance.
Attraction means physical closeness.
In general, when something or someone is pulling you
in mentally, it does so physically as well.
On the other side of the equation, if someone is attracted
to you, you may find that they are usually closer
in proximity than others normally would be
or may seek opportunities to get closer.
Like sitting next to you even though there are plenty
of other seats available.
You may also notice they will lean in towards you
and speaking or will swivel themselves in your direction.
This is a subtle sign that they want to give you
their full attention.
Number three, eye contact is everything.
Gazing deeply into another person's eyes
is a huge sign of attraction.
Doing this triggers oxytocin production
which is the love hormone.
If someone is attracted to you, you may find they hold
eye contact with you just that much longer than others.
While engaged in this hell's gaze,
you may notice some pupil dilation action happening.
This dilation is a response from pleasure hormones
being released like oxytocin and dopamine
which is similar to the euphoria from drug use.
Hm, could this be why love is considered a drug?
This of course is a sign taken
from the general neurotypical population
with little to no outlying mental health difficulties.
People with social anxiety or on the autism spectrum
may not experience or exhibit the same response.
Number four, this one's for the boys.
The beard is not weird.
Call in all dudes, beards have typically been associated
with a person's attractiveness.
Specifically those who have stubble
or other close cropped beard styles.
Just a hint of hair, please.
On the contrary, people that have the Rapunzel of beards
or facial obscuring strawberries have been shown
to be more commonly viewed as comparatively
less ubiquitously attractive.
So what's with the short beard?
The neat and short facial warmer can signal
healthy attention and maintenance of lifestyle
while also defining a jaw line.
It can help with face symmetry while the full beard
can be seen as more aggressive or more mature
in a fatherly way.
For those of you who simply physiologically cannot grow
a beard, another great way to make your face appear
symmetrical is to wear a nice pair of sunglasses.
Number five, they'll change to your frequency,
their voice that is.
When talking to someone that's attracted to you,
you may find that their voice changes slightly.
It may deepen to increase the impression of masculinity
and power or perhaps a higher pitch is adopted to show
sweetness and appear less threatening.
Sound is a big part of how we perceive people.
Thus, the voice is given emphasis to help a person
stand out and get noticed by the object of their desire.
And number six, fidgeting.
Is it boredom or is it attraction?
Sometimes being around a certain someone
can be nerve wracking.
Come on, even the coolest and most confident people
get a little nervous around that special someone.
It's because how this person views them really matters.
They wanna give a good impression.
If you're constantly analyzing the words you say,
you may find that you're more self conscious
and will partake in nervous behaviors.
You may notice either in yourself or someone
you're interacting with, increased fidgeting,
sounding awkward and an overall appearance of nervousness
especially if the encounter is new-ish
and you don't know each other that well yet.
However, it's important to be aware
that this can also show disinterest.
Look, to see if the behaviors are geared towards trying
to impress you or if they're revving to get away from you.
If they're trying to avoid you,
you may notice that they're looking away more
and they're finding distractions to move away from you
and otherwise break off interaction.
Attraction is a multifaceted, mysterious phenomenon.
The science of attraction is far from fully
and rigidly mapped out with new discoveries and correlations
frequently occurring.
Studying it helps us learn more about ourselves as humans
and how we connect.
What are your thoughts on these points?
Let us know in the comments below.
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