just got home from getting my hair did so there's that what i wanted to talk
about today is uh something that's more of a and people would call it more of a softer
skill right and some people would deem it unvaluable altogether but i guarantee you
people that deem it unvaluable are not successful people you would not look at their life and say
you know i really want to be like them i guarantee that's not going to be the case the people that
you look at their life and you're like i like what they got going on believe what i'm about to say
and also live out what i'm about to say okay super important so what we're talking about here is
you create your story and then your story creates your life okay it sounds like a really nice quote
card right but what does it mean and how does it function you know there's i believe most
people have heard something like this hey rayson i believe most people have heard something like this
and they would say yeah i believe that i think that's true that makes sense and it'll stop
with that hey james bro look at that james coomber up in the hose
uh carrie good morning michelle i see you but you know my thing doesn't want to act like it's
you but i can tell it's you because what you say so most people would listen to this concept and
they would say yeah okay logically i believe that you know but then they won't do it they don't live
that they believe it and it's so weird to me that we do things like that that we say yeah
of course that's true and then we don't actually anchor it into our being or into our life in any
capacity at all right and so what let's let's just bring it down to and this is going to be
this isn't going to be a really long video by any means but let's break it down to
lowest common denominator create your story okay so what does that mean that means you decide
it means you no longer are victim to things happening to you that you take responsibility
for things in your world good bad and different you take responsibility and you say okay so this
is what's happening does this align with where i want to go how do i bob and weave past this
to get where i want to go like that's that's the kind of taking responsibility it's not the
oh my gosh this thing happened to me and this is so terrible and i blame that person
that is what you will see the most of in the world i blame that person because for some reason
it's so much easier for us to place blame on somebody else about what is happening in our world
than to say i own i own that i'm not happy about it i'm not thrilled but i own that because i
own that here's what i do now all right tumble the stone guys tumble the stone
polish the stone we don't have great things happen to us all the time but what we react to and how
we decide who we're going to become out of those things that happen that may be less than thrilling
is what determines who we are moving forward period it's as simple as that and then we hear
create your story and let your story create your life we hear that we're like yeah
that's true while we sit around and say it's that person's fault that this is happening
let's anchor it into our lives and into our reality what do you want your story to be
and sometimes we need to step outside of ourselves and especially as moms this is us right we need to
step outside of ourselves even and we need to say what do i want my kids to be able to say
about mom what do i want my community to say about me this is called the the funeral um i
can't remember it's an activity based on what do you want people to say about you at your funeral
it sounds a little morbid but there's truth there right what do you want people to be saying about
you what do you want the things to be that stick out to them about you and how you lived your life
and that could be you know some financial successes and that could be some business success
and i think really more than anything what's most important is what are the activities that we were
known for right were we known for loving people were we known for showing up were we known for
being solution oriented and helping were we known for those things what are the things you want to
be known for and then what i want you to do is i want you to sort of like paint this picture
somebody calls it a mind movie and i really can't remember who said that i was on a
podcast the other day and i was talking about my movie and i totally forgot who said it but
what i want you to do is i want you to paint an entire picture of what you want your life to be
and then i want you to make it a movie so you can sit in the middle of that movie
and you can watch the world around you and then we've got this cool thing in our brain called the
reticular activating system right so this thing that's like where neuroplasticity comes from
where all of a sudden our brain starts changing based on our expectations of it our expectations
of it so imagine what expectations you're setting when you're saying i blame them it's their fault
that i am where i am and blah blah blah what expectations are you setting for your brain
you are setting expectations to find more people to blame in your life have you ever met one of
those people where you're like man it's like everything happens to them it's like you watch
them and you hear them and you're like these are legitimate things happening but man they're
all happening to this person reticular activating system i blame them i'm a victim it's not my fault
somebody proved me wrong please somebody prove me wrong i would love to be proof
wrong but you're not going to be able to you guys let's create our story let's create our
story the way we want it to be not the way we hope it'll be but the way we choose for it to be
and then let's start living in those moments and then we start making decisions as that person
and then before you know it it takes almost no time at all where you'll start to see things shift
sometimes it's less than a day okay where you start to see things shift and you're like
that wasn't there before no it was there before you didn't see it before
when the student is ready the teacher will appear you're not you're not able
to see opportunities around you right now if you're too focused on who you blame next
you won't see opportunities you're gonna you're looking for who you're gonna blame next you know
what i'm saying the people that are really successful in this world are the people that
are focused on opportunities focused on solutions
focused on helping people and then those things come out of the woodwork
ways to be able to do that and they're too busy to blame anybody they don't even care to
they don't even care to you you're spending your time doing things that matter and so this is so
low vibe and just who even cares that's the life we're all here to live every single one of us
none of us are different we have the same capacity guys we all every single one of us have the same
exact capacity it's what we choose to do with it i love you guys so much i will see you next time bye