have you ever wondered how you can develop amazing charisma and how you can
be more likeable in front of other people
if so today's video is for you because I'm gonna be sharing with you this
one big idea for those of you who are naturally introverts kind of like my
previous self in my natural state when I'm not in an empowering confident
state okay because I've trained myself to be able to for example public
speaking and stuff this video is for you because if that is you naturally guess
what you're gonna find this very very interesting at the same time it will
resonate on a deeper level now before I reveal that I wanna
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right now and without further ado how can you develop charisma well if you
would have asked me that question when I began a decade ago I would have said I
think you're asking the wrong person but today people seem to turn to me when
I'm speaking on stages and they say Tim you're such a natural had you for
example why you're so charismatic how you so charismatic all of the
questions in between okay now of the things I'll say is behind every let's
say natural unless they are truly natural I'll say there was years upon
years of practice trial and error and that's why we to realize today because
when I for example began to transform my confidence I over complemented my
confidence and so I went from for example one side not talking to anybody
and now everybody is hating me because nobody likes somebody who's cocky and
arrogant if that makes sense so it's about understanding what makes somebody
relatable and likeable now at the same time before I reveal
what this one thing is I want you to realize you cannot make everybody like
you and you should not aim to do that how you gonna be magnetic to other
people is by owning who you really are now the reason why they would like to
chuck that that that statement out a lot is because people then turn around say
Tim I'm just being myself then I'm just gonna be an introvert
it's about being your best self because you see there are there's multiple
identities that you carry I like to basically compare human beings nowadays
to like chameleons you go to work you wear one mask you go to you go to see
your friends you wear one mask you see a family you wear one mask there's so many
masks so many identity of you carrying the question is who are you really
without these masks who are you really at the core the best version of you
because when I began to express who I really was to the world when I'm
speaking on the stage all of a sudden now people are saying wow I really like you
Tim but when I'm on the stage when I'm for
example speaking to hundreds of people all across the globe I'm not trying to
be liked what I'm trying to do is just show people who I am and realizing that
there are gonna be people who hate you no matter what you do and you should not
aim to be liked by those people that should not be your aim your aim should
be just amplifying your core until you get yourself to stage where people who
like you begin to love you if you look at any influences that you look up
to online offline what they've done is they discovered who they are and what
they are they are polarizing because their core amplifying themselves and so
the people who hate them begin to hate them even more but people who like them
begin to love them that's what I want you to realize first because this one big idea
I'm gonna share of you it may not seem like a big idea to you but I want you
realize knowing and not doing is same as not knowing so it's not about what you
know it's about what you're doing this one thing is being willing to embarrass
yourself now how did that sit with you because
when I share this people are like oh really Tim I need to keep up my social
image let me tell you a quick story it's interesting when I was speaking on the
stage for the first time I was invited to a multi speaker event which was back
in November 2016 I've not been speaking on stages for long and I basically was
invited to speak on the stage alongside this this other person his name is
Derrick Redmond and he's a is a world-renowned Olympian not because for
example he was one of the best but because there was something that
happened during one of the races and you may notice this video it went viral
reaching hundreds and millions of people what ends up happening is with
Derrick his running across the racing track and around halfway point he got a
cramp in his leg and so he fell down and he's screeching in pain agony and yet he
suddenly picks himself back up and now he's limping to the finish line
his dad joins him they're all in tears and he just does whatever it takes to go
through the finish line people saw that video and they shared that like crazy
that Derrick came onto a stage a day and he's by the hell out every single one of
us what I want you to realize is this we don't resonate with robots we resonate with
human beings what that means is being willing to be vulnerable be willing to
show that you are a little bit clumsy if that's you because if you're hiding that
it's very hard to relate to robot when it's so perfect and nobody is perfect in
its own right as human beings we've got our own flaws maybe the story you've
gone through the past whatever maybe some clumsy traits and until you have
the confidence to express that to the world you're gonna find it to find it
very hard to connect with other people people often asked him how have you been
able to you know connect with world renowned leaders have been able to meet the
president and so forth I did it because when I'm meeting them
I'm acting as a freakin human being I'm not saying hey here's a business card to
go take it I'm saying I'm asking questions to figure out who are they
really and when they feel that h2h connections because I believe humans on
a subconscious level we connect on a heart to heart level and that's why it
sometimes we get the for example intuition telling us all we should not
stay with this person and yet we we listen to the little voice in our head
don't we which is fear-based saying oh but I do want to let go and then couple
of months out down the line something happens and you're like oh my god I wish
I would go down this bad relationship earlier you see our heart just knows
especially when it's speaking to somebody whether or not they're being
real or whether or not they're being fake
and that's why you can check out more videos to do with confidence out there in
fact I've created a lot of videos to do with confidence on success insider you can go
check it out but what you'll find the thing that makes you the most
charismatic the thing that makes you being able to influence the most amount people is
about being willing to show your character flaws you see you don't look
up to superheroes and you don't look up to them because they're so perfect you
resonate with these superhero stories because they've got some sort of
weakness think about Superman what's his weakness kryptonite if he didn't have
that he'll be very hard to resonate with a freaking robot like Superman so you
gotta ask yourself what are you hiding back from the world and how could you
reveal more of this character flaws the human traits that people resonate with
in fact I know somebody closed me at the beginning of his podcasts he always
shares some some fun fact about himself and he said he said this once how he was
sharing it at the beginning podcast he screams like a little girl when he see a
spider and now he was speaking on the stage one day and afterwards he got off the
stage walking around the Convention Center and somebody comes up to him and
says oh I don't remember your name but I just want to say I scream like a girl
when I see a spider as well nice to meet you humans connect with humans that's
why I want you to realize insider stop looking for these hacks and start really
exposing who you really are to work at the same time know for example what you
should share with your therapist versus what you share with general
people okay so I'm not saying just reveal everything
but I'm saying I'm saying be willing to expose human qualities that
you believe is appropriate and what you'll find is people begin to be drawn
to you it's almost like those people have you ever seen somebody who just oozes charisma they
haven't even opened their mouth and you just drawn to those people it's because
they are being at their authentic authentic self they've let go of all of
these masks and they've owned them that's what you need to do insider
so make sure you go out there be who you really are deep deep inside the best
version of self why because you're born to win hope you found this video helpful
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