All right. How do you make your ex miss you? Now, I've seen videos from other coaches on
this, and to be honest with you, I didn't like the question and I didn't agree with their
answers. Games and manipulation, show up with another guy, have a great post breakup sex,
be intentionally mysterious. I don't coach any of that. But then I realized something,
what I coach is going to make your ex miss you more than any games or strategy ever could.
So in this video, I'm talking about how to make your ex miss you for all the right reasons.
I'll see you around the corner.
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Okay, so you want your ex to miss you. Now, this is a completely normal reaction to a
breakup. I think we all have this and we all, especially when our heart is broken, we want
our ex to miss us and to feel some of the same pain that we're going through. But what
I want for you ladies is to make sure it's coming from the right place because if you're
just thinking about how to make your ex miss you, all you're doing is investing time and
thought and effort into them, but they're no longer investing into you. And one of the
biggest philosophies of my coaching is to invest in people who invest in you. So the
question of how to make your ex miss you is not the one that I primarily want you to answer
because it's not the best way of going about it.
You can do strategies, and that'll work for a little bit, but it's coming from the wrong
place. If you want your ex to miss you in the most powerful way possible, it comes as
a secondary. It comes as a secondary to you working on yourself and being the highest
value shining woman you can be. Now, how do you do that after a breakup? Well, counter-intuitively,
the first way that your ex is going to massively miss you after a breakup is if you act through
the breakup process as the high-value, self-respecting woman that you are. That means accepting the
breakup and thanking him. Now, I know that sounds completely counter-intuitive, but most
women, what they do during a breakup is they try and fight. They try and call to get back
the person, logically convince him that the two of you are perfect together. Instead,
if you say, "Look, well, I'm devastated but I can accept your decision.
Thank you". And you turn around and you walk out of his life. Metaphorically, that man
is left without your light on him. He's left in that darkness, and it's not because you
tried to leave him in darkness. It's because you had the self-respect to walk away and
for the next weeks and months he's standing there wondering if he did the right thing
by letting this high-value woman go. Now, the next thing, number two is limited contact.
Now, it's not full no-contact. Full no-contact is when you want to get over a guy and you
want to put a guy really behind you. If you're going limited contact, it's not necessarily
that you want to put the guy fully behind you, it's just that you're moving on with
your high-value life in your own way. So for example, limited contact means that he can
still send you a message. He might say, "How are you?" And you can say, "Yeah, I've been
great. How are you?" And he's like, "Yeah, I'm good too." But that's probably going to
be the end of the conversation. With limited contact, you're not initiating any contact.
You're letting him come to you. You're polite and respectful when he does, but you're also
not pushing the conversations forward when he does. Now, you've already walked away in
a high-value way, and you've showed him that even though you were devastated that you're
not gonna force yourself or be or need to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
And now, you're still responding to his contact, and you're still being friendly, polite,
but he misses the relationship interaction, and he misses the girlfriend experience that
he used to get with you. Now, that's going to other people or other men.
You're treating him like a friend rather than a flame. And it's that little difference because
you're going off, and you're living in your own world, and you've downgraded his priority,
that has the secondary effect of making him miss you like you wouldn't believe. The other
important thing with limited contact is you DO NOT, under any circumstances want to get
into sh*t fights, arguments or disagreements. You're being positive, you're being respectful,
and if the conversation doesn't go that way, you just end it in a polite and respectful
way. "I'll talk to you soon. All the best, smiley face." You don't want to be getting
into a relationship, sh*t fight with him at this point because you've taken your emotions
out, you've shown that you're not gonna invest your emotions into someone who isn't investing
theirs into you, and you've mentally moved on, even though you guys can touch base as
friends. The next thing you want to do is use the time while you're going, very limited
contact to invest in yourself.
So get a new wardrobe, get your hair re-done. Make yourself feel great. Set some goals,
do some things that you wanted to do during the relationship but that you weren't doing.
Make yourself really happy and vibrant within them. Make time for friends, prioritize all
sorts of other things. And as all this is going on and you're going away and you're
not initiating any contact, but you're still being polite, respectful to him if he contacts.
The whole time, he's wondering how he's sitting there going, "How is this woman so high value?
Why is she not thinking about me? Why is she not trying to get back with me or organize
meetups?" All he's doing is getting small little points of access to you living in your own
amazing world. And the most important part is you're not doing any of this to manipulate
him or to play games on him.
You're doing this for you, and his missing you to an incredible extent is just a nice
side effect. The most important thing here guys, and this is the final point, is that
he has to find out about all these positive changes and wonder about them without your
input. So limited contact could become no -contact if he doesn't initiate for a while,
but I promise you if you walk away in a high value way and you go away and focus on yourself,
he's going to wonder about you and eventually, he will contact and that's when if he asks,
you can tell him about these things. That's where he's scrolling and he's going, "What's
she doing?" And he's checking your Facebook, and you're just putting up photos of things
that you like, that you're doing because they make you happy. He's going to come across that.
You naturally post a lot on Snapchat stories, so you're going to post some of the
stuff that you're doing, and he's probably going to watch that, but you're not going
to send him Snapchats intentionally just to get a reaction.
You're not going to put photos on Facebook with another guy just to make him jealous
because as soon as you start doing that, again, you're coming from the wrong place. You're
investing time into a guy and effort into a guy who isn't investing in you. The high
value woman does things for her own reasons because she wants to do them and that's the
way the guy is going to osmotically and naturally find out about those changes because he's
going to wonder. Now, if you want to get back with him and if that's your goal and you may
not want to three months down the line by the time you've grown yourself. But if that
is your goal, eventually, you can respond to his contact and say, "Sure, let's catch up.
I'd love a drink."
Or maybe you don't want to get back with him at all. Maybe you just came to this video
wanting to make him miss you. Well, what you've done here and what you've done by this way
of thinking is you've made him miss you in a way that is far more powerful than any games
you could have done. But the important part is you didn't do it to make him miss you.
You did it for a high priority, which is for you. Coming from that priority, I guarantee
that even if he doesn't contact you, and even if the initiation from him doesn't come, that
guy is sitting there missing you, but you're doing it for your own reasons and that has
to always come as number one. Guys, that is far and away the most powerful way to make
a guy miss you. You don't need games, you don't even need manipulation. The one thing
you need is to shine your light and be the high value woman you are and move on with your life.
Thanks so much for watching guys! I really hope you enjoyed the video and you enjoyed
this way of looking at that particular topic. Let me know your thoughts. I'd love to hear
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