Okay.
Today we are going to talk about five signs your ex still cares about you.
And I want you to stay tuned, because we're also going to be talking about one thing that
people kind of focus on, that isn't really all that indicative of whether or not your
ex still cares about you, and we're going to talk about why.
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But okay, let's go ahead and get into this.
So, does your ex still care?
It's something that a lot of people wonder about.
It's something that a lot of people are curious about, and we're going to get into some signs
that your ex actually does still care about you.
Okay.
Sign number one is that they remember important events in your life, whether those be your
birthday, or whether they be certain specific things like, "Oh, you're taking a trip on
this date," or, "You have some sort of important work presentation, or academic exam on this
date."
Or things like that.
This just shows that they're still thinking about you, and that you're still in their
mind, and they're still keeping sort of mental real estate for you in their mind.
And that just shows that they still care about you, they haven't just kind of like walled
off their minds to you at this point, and that they still are kind of emotionally attached.
So that's definitely something to look out for, to show that your ex still cares about
you.
Sign number two is that they take some sort of consideration for your feelings when they
are talking about, or bringing up, or discussing sensitive or emotionally charged issues with
you.
Now, there are probably things that the two of you need to talk about, whether it's things
related to the breakup, whether it's resolving practical issues like moving out, getting
your stuff back, kind of separating accounts and things like that, that maybe the two of
you shared.
They might kind of be a little bit more sensitive, considerate.
They might say, "Hey, I understand that this might be a hard time for you," about whatever.
"So let's go ahead and talk about it.
Let's work through it."
As opposed to just kind of brashly just trying to discuss the topic at hand, or brashly just
trying to get from point A to point B. They're actually kind of considerate about your feelings,
they're considerate about how you might be taking it, they're considered about how you
might feel.
And that just shows that they value your emotional world.
They value how feel.
They value the impact that they're having on you, and they don't just want to kind of
bulldoze over your feelings, and just treat them as if they're irrelevant.
So that definitely shows that your ex still cares about you.
Sign number three that your ex still cares about you, is that when the two of you are
talking, and obviously when the mood is good, when there's a connection between the two
of you and all of that stuff, not just out of nowhere.
I mean it could happen out of nowhere, but generally when the mood is good and the connection
is strong, they tend to reference inside jokes that the two of you had, shared memories that
the two of you had, maybe they use nicknames that the two of you had for one another.
I mean, you know how people in relationships, they kind of build this private world amongst
themselves with little jokes and memories and little kind of tangents that they go off
of, and little kind of role playing things that they do, and little cutesy things that
are kind of obnoxious and nauseating to everyone else in the world.
If they use those sorts of things when they're interacting with you, especially when the
connection is good, it just shows that they still value the connection between the two
of you.
They value the time that the two of you had together, and that they're actually still
kind of warm up in those sorts of ways towards you.
And again, it just shows that you still occupy that mental real estate in their mind, and
that they still care about you.
I mean, it really just shows that they still care about you, really.
So if you're getting any of those nicknames, any of those warm memories from the past,
and you have those inside jokes or things like that, your ex still cares about you.
Sign a number four is that they talk about future events, they talk about things that
the two of you might do in the future together.
They talk about, "Oh, next summer let's go ahead and do this," or, "Next time this certain
thing rolls around, we should go and do it."
Or, "Next time we get together, let's go do this instead."
Or things like that.
Again, this just shows that they are creating a vision for their future, and that you hold
a place in that vision in their future.
And that they're kind of just reflecting that outwards to the world, to you, to other people.
Maybe they're not intentionally doing this.
I actually strongly doubt that they would be intentionally doing this.
But it just is showing you where they're at, mentally.
They're probably just kind of thinking out loud, and it just is a reflection that, yes,
you hold space in their mental future.
So definitely a sign that your ex still cares about you.
Sign number five.
Okay, this is where things are going to start to get a little bit weird.
So bear with me here, stay with me.
But sign number five that your ex still cares about you is that they may actually go quiet
after the two of you break up or after the two of you have some sort of meaningful interaction.
That it's not some sort of big blowout, bad interaction, or something like that.
So why would they go quiet, and how does this actually mean that they still care about you?
And the way that it shows that they still care about you is because they don't want
to hurt you.
They don't want to slow down what they might think of as your recovery from the breakup,
and they don't want to feel guilty about hurting you.
And in sort of a certain way, they do feel bad about hurting you.
They do feel bad about breaking up with you, and they kind of just want to slink away under
a rock and hide.
We did make a video recently about your ex maybe feeling guilty about hurting you, and
again, we'll go ahead and put a link up to that up there, a video card up there, and
also down in the description.
If you want to learn more about the signs that your ex might feel guilty.
But if your ex does go quiet, it shows that they could potentially still care about you.
Again, there are a lot of reasons why your ex might go quiet.
That could be because they're upset with you for something, it could be because of any
other number of things.
Maybe they heard about, somewhere on YouTube, that they should do no contact and so they're
doing it.
It could be anything.
But it's not outside the realm of possibility that your ex is going quiet because they actually
care about you, and they're actually not trying to hold you back.
They're actually not trying to slow down your recovery.
And they're trying to be considerate of your feelings.
Maybe they even feel guilty, thinking that they hurt you, and they care about you, so
they actually just want to kind of stay away from you because they think that if they still
stay in contact with you, that they could continue to hurt you again and again and again.
So kind of weird, kind of strange.
Let's just kind of review these, then we'll get into the weird thing here, that that a
lot of people are paying attention to that they should not be paying attention to.
So again, first, number one, they remember important events, birthdays, certain work
presentations, certain exams, things like that.
Number two, they take some consideration for your feelings while they're discussing or
bringing up important or sensitive issues.
Number three, they use inside jokes, mention special memories, things like that, that you've
you had when the two of you were together.
Number four, they talk about future events and things that the two of you may do together,
just shows that they are building a future with you in it.
And again, number five is that they may even potentially be backing off if they feel some
sort of sense of guilt, or if they think that spending time together with you might actually
hurt you.
Now, the thing that a lot of people pay attention to that they probably shouldn't, is whether
or not their ex is initiating contact with them.
People think that if my ex actually cared, they would text me.
If my ex actually cared, they would call.
If their ex actually cared, they would suggest getting together.
And again, this is not necessarily true, for a lot of those reasons that we just discussed.
They might not feel as if they are a good person for you to have in their life, they're
afraid that they're going to hurt you.
But also, your ex might just think, "Hey, who am I to ask you to hang out?
Who am I to ask you to spend time with me?
I broke up with you, I was there when it happened, I made you cry and all of that.
Who am I to ask you to do all of these sorts of things?"
And so they may actually not contact you.
They may hold themselves back out of guilt, out of some sort of sense of doing the right
thing, or something like that.
And so that's why I tell people not to pay attention to who's initiating contact, but
simply to just focus on whether the interactions that you are having are actually bringing
the two of you closer together, or further away.
So again, who's initiating contact, not important.
What is important is whether the two of you are coming closer together or not.
If you're able to get past any sense of guilt, any sense of anything that could be keeping
the two of you apart and moving towards being more emotionally connected, that is more important
than who is initiating context.
So don't use who is initiating contact as your metric to determine if your ex still
cares or not.
Anyway, hope this helped you out.
If you're looking for more signs that your ex likes you, wants you back, all that good
stuff, check out this playlist up here.
Otherwise, you might also like this video over here.
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And once again, this has been Clay and I'll talk to you next time.
Take care.