When my grandpa George was a teenager, he built his first car. That's what was happening
in the early 1900. And almost all homes around the whole nation. If you wanted a car, you
order all of the pieces to get sent to you from Detroit, Michigan. They came on a train.
You pick up the crate. You went home, you read the instructions and you put you car
together. It didn't matter how old you were or how young you were. If you wanted a car,
you had to build it yourself. We don't live in that time anymore. In fact, not only do
I not know how to build a car but there are a lot of other things that I probably couldn't
build or fix. I'm not saying every person needs to know how to build their own car.
I think it's fine to get them off the lot. But I have noticed there are other adult skills
that children just aren't learning very well nowadays. In this video, I'll share 5 ways
to teach adult skills, life skills to young adults so that hey end up with adult success
and increased confidence. There is a saying that goes like this: Without vision, the people
perish. Which suggest everyone needs to know where they're going otherwise they never get
there. In order to raise young adults who are prepared for the rigors of adult life,
we've got to give them a vision of where they need to go. In fact, one of the best skills
that young adults can learn is time management and goal setting. Those 2 go hand in hand.
When you set goals, then you usually are going to start managing your time to go along with
trying to accomplish those goals. If I set a goal to exercise everyday, then I am going
to have to plan when that exercise is going to occur and when I'm going to do the other
things that I need to do in the day. So, goal setting is huge. Have meetings with your young
adult or teen and talk to them about what their plans are for the future. Don't be discourage
if they don't know. And help them not be discourage if they don't know either. They don't have
to know everything. But there are something that are standard in a person's life when
they're growing up. Such as employment. What do they need to prepare for employment. Maybe
they need to learn certain skills set. Maybe they need to learn how to fill out an application
for a job. Maybe they need to start doing some work for your family business at home
so that they prepare to have the skills they need to work for somebody else. They know
at some point, they'll probably be having employment. Also, there's family relationships,
right? We should be setting goals for how we want our family relationships to be. No
matter what, you you can't just get out of your family. You can try but they're always
there no matter what. So, it might as well be a beautiful part of your life. People have
relationships with spouses, with children, with friends, with co-workers. Why not teach
them good relationship skills as well. That's going to be a vile thing to set goals for
for their future happiness. There really isn't anything that gives us more happiness than
having love and unity in our relationships. So, that's goal setting. Now on to number
2. Number 2 is work. Young adults need to have a good work ethic in order to succeed
in adulthood. If a person is too lazy, they're not going to be a success. Employers will
put up with a certain amount, friends will put up a certain amount of laziness and excuse-making.
But there really is a lack of respect that develops for a person who always has to have
an excuse or take the easy road. It's better to train the children to work hard. Which
means that you've got to work with them so they know how to do a job and do it well.
And your teens or young adults also need lots of opportunities to do projects themselves
where they can problem-solve them and come up with systems that work for them to get
that work done. The third way to teach young adults life-skills is to teach them the skills
of self-government. There are 4 basic skills of self-government which are following instructions,
accepting no answers, accepting consequences and disagreeing appropriately. These 4 basic
skills help with all their relationships their entire lives. They need to know how to accept
no answers from friends, from law enforcement, from bosses. They need to be able to follow
instructions. When they mess up, they need to know how to fix it. So, they've got to
accept consequences. A person never learns self-government if all of their problems were
always somebody else's fault. They didn't take ownership for them themselves. And they
need to learn how to communicate their desires to other people and we did this with the skill
called disagreeing appropriately. They also should learn how to appraise other people,
how to correct other people. And how to teach other people proper principles and skills
as well. Because soon, they'll be the leader one day. Whether in the work environment or
in their home environment. So, who's going to be showing how to teach and praise and
correct and nurture? Parents are. Parents are vital teachers in their children's lives.
In fact, they are the ones that the young adults look to for how to solve their relationship
problems in the future. Whether they ask you or not, your example will usually be what
they follow even if they didn't want to in the first place. A vital life skill is self
analysis. A person needs to feel that it's safe, comfortable, productive. Totally okay
to look at themselves and say, "Hmm, I wanted to do really good at waking up on time in
the morning and I am not. So, I've got to fix that problem." Or they might look at themselves
and say, "You know, I keep speaking sarcastically to all my friends. And I think that could
come across as rude. I am going to change the way that I speak." In order to wake up
on time, we have to give ourselves an instruction. In order to stop speaking rude to our friends,
we need to give ourselves a no-answer. So, you see how learning those 4 basic skills
is going to be a key factor in what they able to analyze about themselves. Self analysis
set's a person free. It opens the door to repentance, changing in path, putting a person
in a direction that they planned on going on in the first place but might strayed from.
Self analysis truly is a life skill that many people never master. If your children decide
that it's okay to analyse themselves and if they can't accept what they find and confidently
make changes, they will become leaders. Number 5, young adults need to learn how to have
a meeting. A productive meeting. In the teaching self-government parenting program we advocate
for having regular family meetings. And there's a way they make these meetings productive
so that they don't turn in to family fights. We talk about that as well. In fact, there
are other videos about how to have great family meetings on this channel. So, if you subscribe,
you won't miss those. Everyone of us have been to one of those meetings. Whether it's
a church meeting, a community meeting, a board meeting. When people in the meeting do not
stay on task, they don't actually discuss anything productive, they waste everybody's
time with anecdotes and little jokes. And for some reason at the end you go, "Why did
I come to this?" That's because those people don't know how to run a really good meeting.
My children know how to run a meeting. They know how to skip things on time when they're
having a meeting with other people. Everyone needs the skill for how to keep a meeting
on track if they're going to be successful in life. In fact, if you're young adult or
teen is meant to be the leader of other people instead of always just the one following along
then they need to know how to lead the group by keeping everybody united and on task in
a meeting. So, have family meetings. Have meetings one on one with the child that would
have a different format than having a full family meeting. And that way they can learn
how to discuss one on one with people about issues that matter. And they can also have
that communication that you develop when you're in a group which is slightly different when
you're problem solving there. Good communication is a vital life skill for young adults. In
everything that we've discussed here about teaching life skills to young adults, we haven't
even mention social skills which is a huge one. So, next, watch my video called How To
Teach Appropriate Social Skills