- This video, I'm gonna show you the most powerful traits
the most powerful ways of being
that are necessary in order to actually attract love.
And I'm gonna show you the blocks that might be there
in your energy so that you can release them
to finally allow the love that you want into your life.
Now, one of the biggest things that blocks people
from attracting love is that they keep looking for it.
That's the issue.
When we are looking for love on the outside
we are looking for something we are infusing and implying
is not already there.
Now remember, you get in life a reflection
of who you are being.
What you think about is a surface level thing.
And you could even go deeper than that
to say what you believe is reflected back to you.
You get in life a reflection of what you believe to be true.
So what happens is sometimes people believe
that they're not worthy of love.
People may believe that love is actually outside
of themselves, and what they do
is because they believe that
they then are trying to search for it,
because they think it's on the outside.
But when that happens, when you're looking for it
it's like you're wanting to experience the reflection
in the mirror to smile at you
by trying to change the reflection in the mirror.
Now, we know, obviously that
in order to change the reflection in the mirror
we must first smile,
in order for us to see that as a reflection.
It's a lot easier than we think.
We think we have to go up to the mirror.
We have to try to change it.
There's a lot of resistance.
And resistance also blocks love,
when instead if you just loosen up and smile,
all of a sudden there's a version of you
that is smiling back.
That is because the way reality works
is we get in life a direct reflection of who we are being,
what energy are what do we believe
to be true about ourselves?
So when people are looking for a long time,
I was looking and there was also childhood energy
that was alive where I was addicted
to similar childhood energy,
the familiar emotions of feeling not good enough
the familiar emotion and energies of looking for validation
on the outside, looking for approval on the outside.
And guess, what that resulted in?
Looking for it meant I lacked it
and because I lacked it I could not experience it.
Now I'm gonna share with you my journey of attracting love
and also tapping into releasing
non-attached magnetic energy.
And to do so, this little map right here
shows you something
that's called the magnetic activation process, the MAP.
This is the map of the magnetic activation process
for unleashing non-attached magnetic energy.
And also, you can apply this towards
not only attracting love,
you can apply this towards pretty much every area
of your life, whether it's abundance,
living your purpose full-time, whatever.
This is a process of transformation.
Now you'll see that there's two stick figures here.
We have that of this version of you.
You think, feel, and act.
Our personality, as Joe Dispenza says,
is we get in life reflection of how we think, feel, and act
is our personality also a way that we are being,
a way that we're showing up in the world.
Now, the thing is, is most of how we think, feel and act
has been on autopilot
and we're addicted to the familiar emotions of our past.
We're addicted to the, we may have felt like
we had a parent that was emotionally unavailable.
Even though it's not enjoyable, it's familiar emotion.
So then we attract partners
that are emotionally unavailable.
And that's because it feels familiar, it feels normal.
So the process of transformation
is becoming aware of this version of you,
letting go of the stories,
letting go of the limiting beliefs
by becoming aware of them,
because 90% of all transformation is awareness.
Letting them go, and then making a new choice
about who you are and then being this new version of you.
Now you literally perceive
of new probabilities and new potentials,
the more you are being this new version of you.
So think about it.
We have this identity lock around us, how we see ourself
and a lot of times we're addicted to similar emotions.
So anger, guilt, fear, shame.
Until we release these emotion, this energy,
we're not gonna be magnetic,
because we have this resistant energy within our field.
Irresistible energy is void of resistance.
And the more you let go of your own insecurities
the more you let go and you accept yourself,
the more you own who you are
the more you let go of that energy
the more you could be this new version of you.
Now you experience new probabilities
in new synchronicities when you get into the unknown.
So one of the parts of attracting love
and one of the most important things to realize is
if what has been known is feelings of not being enough,
if what has been known is feelings of anger
and guilt towards your mom or your dad or siblings
then that energy is active and you're gonna project that
onto the people that you attract.
You're gonna project that onto your partners.
So what you wanna do is you wanna become aware
of this energy.
I had to become aware of a people-pleasing pattern
that I had.
I had to become aware of a rescuer dynamic where I had
where I felt like everyone, whoever I was dating
for me to become indispensable
to the person I was dating, I'd have to help them,
I'd have to try to fix them,
which also is implying
that there's something wrong with them.
And it would really depolarize the magnetism,
because I'm trying to fix,
I'm trying to be a coach to somebody else,
trying to help them with their business,
all these things that imbalances out relationships.
And what happened is that energy was active
until I became aware of it.
Then I became aware, hey, I'm trying to please other people,
because I'm trying to get my own needs met,
that comes from the abandonment mood,
we'll talk about that in a minute.
I became aware that there were dynamics
where I wasn't being my true masculine self,
because I was trying to please,
it's a toxic masculine trait when you're trying to please.
And pleasing is like a form of manipulation.
That's something else you're gonna have to let go of,
if you wanna attract real love
and not something that's just based on manipulation.
Manipulations when it's saying,
okay, I'm gonna be nice to you, people-pleaser.
I'm gonna be nice to you in an exchange,
you're gonna give me validation approval.
I'm going to fix you and I'm gonna be indispensable
and you're not gonna leave me.
I'm going to, it's like it's conditionality
is really what it is.
And the belief there deep down is that love is conditional.
So a lot of times people-pleasers
are born from parent-pleasers.
They had to please their parents growing up
in order to receive love they had to get straight A's
tuck in their shirt.
I had tuck in my shirt, comb back my hair.
And that was a part of what I needed to do
in order to be loved or accepted.
Now, one of the things to become aware about this though
is once you become aware of this pattern
you can then say,
wait, do I continue to choose to live in it?
And then you can choose to let it go
if you don't wanna continue to live in that pattern,
because you attract into your life a reflection
of not just who you're being,
but the masculine or feminine energy dynamic
that you embody.
So if you have somebody that's being very feminine
they're not gonna attract somebody that is masculine.
Does that make sense?
So unless that person is being feminine
then they'll attract the masculine.
But if they're being more masculine
they're gonna attract a more feminine person.
So the key is really getting to your own core
of your own polarity to become aware of
what you really intend for.
But in order to attract that,
you have to embody the opposite polarity of it.
So for me to attract somebody feminine
I had to start getting into my own masculine energy.
I had to let go of the people-pleasing.
I had to let go of the the nice guy syndrome
by becoming aware of it, letting it go
and then stepping into the unknown.
Now, part of this is well-meant
for me to experience the new probabilities,
the new synchronicities,
what I had to do, and you could apply this
towards any area of your life,
I had to tune to this version of me
using the power of meditation and action.
Those are the two things.
Meditation allows you to tap into your theta state
your subconscious mind.
And when you're in your subconscious mind
that is where you can influence your beliefs about yourself.
That's where you can download a new energy.
And that was something that I had to learn to do.
I had to get to that core energy, and I had to do that,
you do in meditation, maybe once a day.
I would meditate 10, 20 minutes in the morning,
10, 20 minutes at night more observing my thoughts.
But then what I would do is I would literally feel it
as if it exists now,
as if that is the version of me that I am,
because the where a lot of people get tied up
is they focus on what they want,
they think better thoughts,
but the thing to really think about
is who do I have to become
to have that reality as a natural reflection?
So this is what I did for becoming a quote unquote YouTuber
back in 2017.
I identified and used my imagination
to perceive and to feel as if I was a full-time YouTuber.
And I realized that version of me
was making daily videos on YouTube.
So I decided to energetically, not only would I meditate
and feel as if I was already that identity
of being a YouTuber, but I would back that up with action.
I made a video every single day on YouTube no matter what.
And I did that for years.
But within 3-6 months, I went full-time on YouTube,
because I was being a full-time YouTuber.
So don't focus on what you want.
Don't focus on just the thoughts.
Focus on who you have to become.
Who do you have to become to attract love?
Well you probably have to let go of some things?
I'd say you probably have to let go of the unworthiness.
You probably also have to become the star of your own movie.
A lot of times people have trouble studying love,
because they're trying to be become the cameo
in someone else's movie
instead of being the star of their own movie,
which means being in your own frame.
Some of the other things I had to let go of
is I had to let go of the belief I wasn't worthy.
I had let go of the stories that I had about women.
I had stories that women tried to control me,
because my ex-stepmom was so controlling.
I had stories that said, "Life isn't fair.
I can't always get what I want.
I have to go through a lot of pain."
These stories I had to become aware of and let go of.
The abandonment wound
is probably one of the most powerful ones to let go of,
to really attract love,
'cause the abandonment wound says, people leave me.
I'm not worthy.
People leave me.
And then what you'll do is
if you don't let that go
you'll either attract people
that aren't emotionally present
or you'll attract people that are with you
and then leave you,
because it's reflecting back the belief
that says there's something wrong with me, people leave me.
So cuing this, so curative is by becoming aware of it
and doing meditations that literally
unfamiliar this version of you
where you can let it go and let go of the heart walls
that you have around your heart,
which are normally protective mechanisms.
And then the goal is to be this version of you.
Using the power of meditation,
also something called the frame technique.
Getting in your own frame of reality
feeling safe inside of your own body
getting clear as to what your vision is for your life.
That's when you start becoming the star of your own movie.
Living by your own set of values,
I had to let go of the values
of living by that of people's approval and validation
and start living by authenticity and vulnerability.
Power of vulnerability is the power to get into the unknown
to express your real heart,
to show someone takes vulnerability,
to go up to someone and say,
"Hey, I'm attracted to you,
would you like to go out sometime?"
Takes vulnerability to say,
"Hey, I'm starting to have feelings for you."
And when you're a nice guy, people-pleaser,
you're in this little familiar box.
You may not actually express that.
And it keeps you in this mode
of not really being the real you.
And the key to this is activating it
and making the choice to be it.
That's when you can really let in
and you can really unleash your heart energy,
but it will require you to make a couple choices
to let go of the old, let in the new,
let go of the familiar, let in the unknown,
be the unknown, because you get in life a direct reflection
of who you are being, how you are showing up,
unleashing your true heart energy.
So the magnetic activation process
is a step by step process that shows you
exactly how to go through this process.
Now, if you wanna learn step by step
how to go through the magnetic activation process
and you want a training video
that shows you exactly how to do that, it's completely free.
Go to aarondoughty.com/map or click the link below.
Learn the map process and step by step how to go through it,
because you will then activate this version of you
and unleash non-attached magnetic energy
so that you can either create your dream life, attract love
whatever you want.
Now also, there's a video right here
that if you want someone to commit to you
this is exactly what you do.
This will build upon the concepts we talked to this video,
watch this video right here.
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