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I send you things daily to show you how much I care.
And for you to, here, say I don't do that, heartbreaking.
Do you touch her a lot?
Yeah.
You know why?
No.
That's your love language.
Right.
So you do what you know.
The objective is to do what the other person receives as love,
not just do for them what you receive as love.
What's happening?
Honestly, that's the first time I hear her opened up.
She says she gets all this and that from that guy
because he opens up.
I never got that information to be able to get
a chance to do that for her.
So how can I know that's what's needed in my relationship?
Because she just told you, the same way you just told her.
She's now saying to you, I need some words of affirmation.
I need you to tell me.
I need to know that that's where you are,
just looking at me in house shoes.
And it's not about my physical appearance,
it's just about you're just glad that I'm the one in the house
shoes, and you wouldn't choose anybody
else in the house shoes.
She needs that.
And that's going to feel like what a touch feels like to you.
Mhm.
JESSICA: I hope Eric is hearing Dr. Nicole,
simply because I've learned to speak his love language.
And if we're going to be together,
then I need Eric to do the same.
So you went out on a fourth date with Shawn this week.
Yes.
Would you like to explore a fifth date with Shawn?
Um, I think I am done.
DR. NICOLE: OK, tell me why.
I think I'm going to wrap it up.
Tell me why.
I've learned a lot from him.
I learned a lot about myself.
I learned a lot of things that I will want from my partner.
But right now, I want to focus on me and focus on Eric
and what we have.
Eric, how does that make you feel?
Um, OK.
What does OK mean?
You know, that's--
that's a positive.
I guess she's over her date, but it really
bothers me hearing Jessica saying I don't affirm her
in any way, shape, or possible.
I think her ears don't work, if you ask me.
Because I have more than enough examples to show that
I affirm her on a daily basis.
DR. NICOLE: Now let's move over to Eric.
You and Leilani went on a third date.
Yeah.
DR. NICOLE: How was it?
It was-- it was great.
We went to a salt cave.
And the date was very intimate.
We were just sitting there, talking face-to-face and having
intimate conversation.
Mm.
What about your interaction with her
would you love to see more of in your relationship with Jessica?
Um, the actual connection of just talking.
You know, talking details about life, where we want
to see each other, how we're going
to help each other win, how we're going to move forward.
DR. NICOLE: Jessica, how do you feel about what he's sharing?
I wouldn't mind, you know, being
intimate without touching.
I feel like with Eric, when we try
to have conversations like that, he's
attached to his phone a lot.
So you want something from me, but the times
that we have done this, you don't even give
me your full attention anyway.
DR. NICOLE: Did you all have distractions in the cave,
or was it just you and her?
It was just me her.
DR. NICOLE: Then one of the ways you
can try to recreate some things, if that's what you
choose to do, is boundaries.
Not have distractions, so that you stay connected.
That's the goal.
Eric, you went on a third date with Leilani.
Would you like to explore your connection one last time?
I would like to go on a fourth date with her.
DR. NICOLE: Why don't you tell us why you'd
like to go on a fourth date?
Um, I liked that space.
I want this fourth day with Leilani
because she clears my mind.
She makes me feel wanted.
She makes me feel needed.
So am I ready to get married to Jessica,
even though these other dates with another woman
feel so good to me?