If you're not rich, you've failed.
If you don't have kids, you've failed.
If you're not married, you've failed.
If you don't have this million-dollar life, travelling the world, vacationing, you've
failed.
We have this unhealthy mindset
that leads to so many people being depressed about their lives and being
anxious about tomorrow.
The biggest piece of advice I will give every single young man
and woman, if you're a woman watching this video,
in your 20s is this: comparison is the thief of joy.
What happens for so many people in your 20s is you look to your left, you look to your
right and you start to see what other people are
doing.
"Oh my gosh, Jamal has a family."
"Oh my gosh, Tony has this great job."
"Oh my gosh, Jessica travels the world."
"Oh my gosh, Zachary has this amazing car."
"Oh my gosh, so-and-so is a popular influencer."
" Oh my gosh, so-and-so went to NFL."
You start looking at every single person's life.
And you start to see all the things that they've done.
You start to see all the things that they've accomplished
and you begin to feel really bad about yourself.
Because you're like "man, they're married, I'm not..."
"They're rich, I'm not..."
"They're successful, I'm not..."
And then you say what every single person in their 20s says to themselves,
and you literally say "I'm not where I'm supposed to be."
"I can't believe I'm wasting so much time, I can't believe
I am where I'm at today."
And I'm here to tell you guys as one who has been there, done that, experienced that,
that that is a humongous lie.
Because when you're comparing your life, you're making the fundamental flaw
of looking at where God has placed somebody today and not realise that
you are exactly where God has allowed you to be today.
You're so focused on the journey of another person that you've totally forgotten
or are oblivious to the journey you are called today, you are not Jessica.
You are not Jamal.
You are not Zach, you are not Tony, you are not Hafeez, you are you.
And you are on your own unique journey.
You are exactly where you need to be.
Because what happens is for so many young adults
is that we have this idea that in your 20s if you don't make it, you've failed.
If you're not rich, you've failed.
If you don't have kids, you've failed.
If you're not married, you've failed.
If you don't have this million-dollar life, travelling the world, vacationing, you've
failed.
We have this unhealthy mindset
that leads to so many people being depressed about their lives and being
anxious about tomorrow.
Because this unhealthy comparison to other people is ruining our joy.
This unhealthy obsession with being somebody that society has painted
to be, instead of really focusing and asking "who has God called me to be?"
Because your journey is not theirs.
There may be a different path that you need to take
that may be a different lesson that you need to learn.
That they don't need.
Stop worrying about other people.
Stop worrying about not being wherever your parents say you're supposed to be in your
20s.
You are living your life.
And instead, look at who you were from where you were yesterday.
You're improving, you're growing, you're getting better.
You're learning.
You are becoming who God made you to be.
I want to free us from all the angst that we're carrying because
we believe that we're not where we need to be when we're
exactly where we need to be.
Comparison is the thief of your joy.