Hey, it's Mark here, founder of Make Him Yours and creator of Find Love in Five Steps. Today,
we are talking on how to get a guy to ask you out. I've got really simple things that
can help make it happen for you right now.
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Welcome again. Today, I have a video I've been planning for quite some time on how to
get a guy to ask you out. Now to begin with. This can be a broad question. I mean the good
news is that whatever situation you're in, the same kind of process applies. So the only
difference is the better you know him and the more you've talked to him, the more you
can kind of like skip ahead to the later parts of this video. If you're in a situation where
you haven't even met the guy, say you've just seen him and you're in all from a distance,
then it's pretty obvious if you want to ask him out, you're going to have to meet him
first. The first thing you want to do is you want to get noticed, and you can do this in
two ways, either directly or indirectly.
So directly means initiating a conversation directly. But if you're not that confident,
that's totally cool. You can get a guy to notice you indirectly. So he's in your vicinity
and that basically means he picks up that you are somewhere around him. So you could
do this by you know, smiling a lot, being expressive and outgoing with your friends,
dressing the part, you know, not too boring or too sexy. Getting a good balance is going
to get you noticed for the right reasons. So that's how to who get noticed by a guy.
So if you want more information on just that little section of that topic, I did a video
on, on that part alone. So check out the description. Step two is get into a conversation. So if
you haven't already chatted to the guy, and that's obviously where you've got to start.
If he's noticed you, you can get him to approach you, you know, otherwise you can just approach
him.
Personally, I love coaching women on how to get a guy to approach them. The one thing
you have to remember with this is a man will only approach you if he believes his chances
of success are high. Does that mean strong eye contact, open body language, smiling at
him? Basically making it so obvious that a chimpanzee right could figure it out. You
really do have to just hit him over the head with how obviously you want him to approach.
So if in case you're interested in that as well, I've done a separate video on how to
get a guy to approach you going into that whole process in much more detail. Take a
look for that in the description. Like I say though, if you don't want to do all that,
you can just approach him. The next thing is to build rapport. So this is where you
start connecting with the guy you know on a deeper level.
Ask questions that you are genuinely curious about and talk to him about your passions
with, with real genuine excitement. Bring out the three Cs. So that's confidence, so
speaking with certainty and expressiveness. Challenge, and this is where you kind of playfully
tease him or give him a bit of grief. And character, which is where you just relax into
yourself and display the usual character traits that you have that are unique to you. If you
can do all these successfully and it will take some practice, but if you can do all
of that successfully, the guys already, even this early on going to be thinking about asking
you out. If you want more advice on talking to a guy and making great conversation. I've
also got a video for that. So it's How To Talk To A Guy, Part one, it's, the link is
in the description below.
All right, so step four is time to flirt. Ramp it up, ramp up those green lights. This
is where you really start making it clear that you want the guy to ask you out. Now
remember, guys hate rejection too, right. Men hate rejection too. So in the same way
that he needs green lights if he's going to come over to you. He also needs green lights
if he's going to ask you out. So, you know, touch him, playfully tease him, maybe ramp
up the sexual tension with him. If it's more intimate, lean into him, do things that make
it really obvious. So bottom line here is that the less confident he is, the more obvious
you're going to have to make it to that guy that you like him. And guess what? There's
a video, there's a video in the description for that as well. It's How To Flirt With A
Guy.
So I've got all these videos in the description, heaps going on. So check out every single
step. Step five, if he still hasn't asked you out, is to help him out. So by now if
you're doing it right, then it's obvious that you like him. He knows, right? So if he hasn't
asked you out yet, it could be because he's shy or maybe he just doesn't even know how.
He's like, what does, what does asking a girl out even constitute, how do I even do that?
Help him by giving him some options. So for example, you could say, so this DJ is in town
next week that I really liked. I'm bummed though. My friends are all busy. I've got
to find someone cool to go with something like, I reckon I'd be so impressed if a guy
took me on a creative date like to a playground or an exploring date.
You know, you can drop these hints along the way. The other thing you can do, and this
is a little bit sneaky, is to get your friend involved, their friends involved. If it is
a situation where you to have mutual friends, send your friend him to tell him or at least
hint to him that you want him to ask you out. It's not the most confident way to do things,
but it works. So why not? And finally step six, you know, if all else fails, ask him
about yourself. Look, if you've done everything else, if you've, if you've given him the signs,
if you flirted, if you've hinted at it and you just want to get your answer one way or
another, you know what? Go ahead and ask the guy out yourself. There's absolutely nothing
stopping you. It doesn't have to be a massive deal.
It could just be you asking him to grab a coffee with you or drinks after work, say,
or coming to the markets. It does take the most courage but you'll always get your answer
and you'll save a bunch of time by just asking him out. And that's it. So thanks for watching.
I hope you enjoyed the video. If you want more information about reading men, I actually
created a five-part audio series called How To Tell If A Guy Likes You. So it's the complete
guide to reading all the confusing signals of men, um, the signals that are powerful,
the signals that aren't links in the description below. Leave a comment, make sure you subscribe
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