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I've been there a lot in my life
especially before my car accident in my
teenage years then the first woman I
ever loved
we had a big breakup and that breakup
sent me down in depression and suicidal
planning and
it's tough to dispense advice to people
other than get help and I'll share why
because that time in my life I had so
many people coming up to me you know my
friends would come into my dorm room I
think let's go do something and you just
there just the hope is lost and what
people I think make the mistake of
trying to do is hype people up
everything's gonna be okay you can be
gray the most important thing is when
you are super down outside of finding
that emotional reasoning for where you
are is to start getting momentum because
with momentum comes hope with momentum
comes motivation with momentum comes you
know that feeling that there's a reason
for tomorrow and so it's as simple as
just saying okay what are three things
I'm gonna do today dude sometimes that
first goal is Shh I'm gonna shower today
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I'm really a shower today
I'm gonna walk the library and come home
and that's all they got
literally that's all they got and you
gotta honor that struggle when you're in
that place like know that where you're
at it is okay that you're there and now
you're gonna need help and now you're
gonna have to set up some daily
practices just everyday win a little bit
not like when your dreams not like
crushed through goals not like be badass
not like no just momentum man
gloomy and bad dark days trust that
those are going to be there
they'll get less and less and less as
you learn how to cope but they're gonna
be there and so when they're there it's
what they might I mean outside of
teaching people to bring the joy in my
life I teach people to honor the
struggle honor the difficulty when we
honor the struggle instead I hate the
struggle we can really achieve
extraordinary things because our mind
sets in the right place in your hands
this very moment is your journey the
journey that allows you to be someone
fueled by your potential take the risks
that allow you to become something more
that allow you to change your view on
life that allow you to look through a
different pair of eyes one that grants
you the power to see something and then
know how to change it to look at life as
an opportunity an opportunity to feel
like somebody new someone with the
potential it can keep moving forward set
yourself your own rules like why play by
someone else's rules when you can set
rules that help you become the best
version of yourself rules that don't
hold you back but rules that pull you
forward be grateful for the position
you're in and be grateful for the chance
to give it one more go this opportunity
could be wasted but being here gives you
the drive to put any effort or your
future
she's so many people
in the same routine and they hate they
hate it they are not happy in their life
they're not happy with their with their
whatever they're doing you know and and
and and and and and if you want advice
from me if that's your life right now go
find something else just just just try
try something else out you know if
you're miserable in alive and and I've
actually been miserable you people
people can be me personally even though
they have everything you know you see
super successful people in life and you
think there's no way they are miserable
but but but that's that's not the case
you know even though you are
successfully doing well you can still
help out this I have gone through some
very difficult times to be honest with
you and lately in the last two three
years I've been going through some very
hard times so very very hard times and I
haven't been very open about that
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yeah it's been very tough for me I had
to deal with some some some difficult
things that I I couldn't control and
that's life
like I'm human like everyone else
I feelings I'd go through hardships like
everyone else and sometimes you were put
into difficult positions and that's life
it's very unfair I think the more things
are talked about more comfortable we are
and the more we can understand them when
I woke up one morning and saw that in a
tweet that Prince Harry came out talking
about his depression it made me really
happy because I have been places and
someone has said well you lost an arm or
leg so you had a right to be depressed I
was talking I was like depression is
real you don't you didn't have to go
through something traumatic some are
caused by you know something traumatic
some can be a chemical imbalance in the
brain and I feel like if you had heart
problems and saw a cardiologist war
everyone would be concerned about you
would know you're doing better and it
would be open and honest with the crew
anybody who are they yeah but the most
complicated organ in your body if you
have a problem with it suddenly there's
a we don't want to talk about that no
and you can get over it and that's what
people need to realize you can be cured
you can get past it
today is your day to tell your story to
speak your mind to tell the truth about
your future to speak about the power
you've always had the potential you've
always had this is how you succeed you
will be your power you have this power
communicate your problems communicate
the power you know that you have this is
the beginning of your power the start of
your progress
take every day as an opportunity to be
better every day to have the power to
try something new to become something
new this is where your progress can be
kick-started accelerate your life into
your direction now is it the time to
wait now isn't the time to waste
let this be the power that takes you
towards your success this is the
opportunity you've earned this is the
potential you've always had step out of
the crowd and step into your success
I would lay in my bed and just want to
die in it just they didn't want to exist
I wanted an anesthesiologist to come and
give me a shot it's like my soul adjust
and at the time I was in a belief system
where there was an afterlife and so that
wasn't possible you couldn't get you
couldn't be gone you were around forever
no matter what you did and in fact if
you took their life for you it you're
not behaving in a way that this belief
system you know rewards you and so I was
trapped and
do you worst fill in the entire world's
I had no out but not only that I had
kids I had it like I felt responsible
for being a father and so I was building
Braintree and you know I had challenges
at home with my significant other and I
had kids who are sleepy and I wasn't
myself 24/7 having companies break and
like all the pressure and it just drove
me into the ground to a point I just
delirious I mean I was broke
you
I climbed Mount Kilimanjaro at the tail
end of the situation and I got sick I
got a stomach virus and like three or
four days in I had the virus for a
couple days plus I was out I was sick
with altitude sickness and I just felt
terrible like the worst I've ever felt
and we got to base camp and they were
15,000 something and I had to make a
decision whereas gonna climb to the top
the next morning and I thought let's do
it I'm not gonna back down from this as
I did it and the four hours the summit
changed my life where the mountain
became my problem and it became a
presentation of my life and I started
this into M&M my favourite artist and
his um his defiance against that problem
anyways I admitted the top and just go
down cried and it was I it was the
mountain was my impression was my
marriage
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it was my belief system and
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I went home and I was changed I sold I
sold my company shortly after Raintree I
got a divorce
I left my religion and I was back at my
21 year old age and I said family like
what how do i rewrite myself from
scratch or I care about what matters
what exists was true not true
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