A WOMAN WHO
HOPED THAT HER DAUGHTER WOULD SOMETIME FIND THE MAN OF HER
DREAMS WAS A LITTLE UPSET WHEN HER WHITE DAUGHTER BROUGHT
HOME A BLACK PARTNER.
HOWEVER, AS SHE GOT TO KNOW THE PARTNER SHE DECIDED THAT HE IS
ACTUALLY A GREAT CHRISTIAN GUY AND SHE DECIDED TO WRITE ABOUT
HER EXPERIENCE SO PEOPLE UNDERSTAND WHAT THIS IS LIKE
AND KNOW HOW TO GET THROUGH IT.
WHEN SHE WROTE THIS PIECE SHE DIDN'T EXPECT THE AMOUNT OF
CRITICISM SHE GOT.
LET ME GIVE YOU THE DETAILS.
BY THE WAY, WHO READS THE GOSPEL COALITION?
THE FACT THAT THAT WENT VIRAL IS KIND OF AMAZING.
SO THE TITLE OF HER BLOG WAS "WHEN GOD SENDS YOUR DAUGHTER
A BLACK HUSBAND."
>>GUESS WHO'S COMING TO DINNER?
>> I HESITATE TO SAY THIS BUT I AM A LITTLE TORN ON THIS STORY.
>>REALLY?
>> I AM.
HEAR ME OUT.
FIRST OF ALL, I THINK IT TAKES GIGANTIC BALLS TO COME OUT AND
SAY I WAS REALLY IFFY ON HIM BECAUSE HE WAS BLACK, BUT HERE
IS WHAT I EXPERIENCED AND I REALIZED I WAS BEING A DICK.
BUT TO SAY THAT THIS WAS MY RACIAL BIAS, I REALIZE IT, AND
IT WAS STUPID AND I WORKED THROUGH IT, I THINK IT OPENS
UP A DIALOGUE THAT I DO NOT WANT TO PUT A STOP TO.
I THINK THAT DIALOGUE IS IMPORTANT.
SHE COMES FROM AN IGNORANT PLACE, AND TO COME OUT AND SAY
THAT YOU WERE IGNORANT AND HERE'S HOW YOU'VE GROWN I
THINK IS VALUABLE.
>>YOU SOLD HER THOUGH.
I DISAGREE WITH YOU.
YES, IT IS NOT MALICIOUS, IT IS PURE IGNORANCE.
IS SO TONE DEAF.
IT IS SO SELF-RIGHTEOUS.
SHE DOES IT TO SERVE HERSELF.
IS NEVER ONCE TO SAY THAT SHE IS CONFRONTING HER RACIST BELIEFS.
NOT ONCE DID SHE EVER OWNED UP TO THAT.
IT IS MORE OF HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR DAUGHTER IF SHE BRINGS
HOME A BLACK MAN.
THAT IS HOW IT COMES OFF AND THAT IS WHAT PEOPLE WERE
OFFENDED.
I THINK IT WOULD'VE BEEN MUCH MORE COURAGEOUS IF SHE
WOULD'VE BEEN OPEN AND HONEST AND SAID THIS IS A PIECE ABOUT
ME CONFRONTING MY OWN PREJUDICES.
>> AS A BLACK MAN THAT HAS DATED A LOT OF DIFFERENT RACES IT'S
KIND OF ONE OF THOSE WHERE YOU SIT AND LOOK AT IT AND IT'S
LIKE, OH, THIS IS HOW YOU FEEL.
LOOK AT ME, I AM A HERO.
NO, YOU'RE NOT A HERO, YOU'RE AN IDIOT.
>> THAT'S HOW I TOOK IT.
SHE NEVER CALLED HERSELF OUT.
>>I'M LIKE JUNE CLEAVER, ANYONE IS WELCOME IN MY HOUSE.
I WANT TO WRITE A BOOK ON HOW TO ACCEPT THE PERSIAN PEOPLE IF
THEY COME INTO YOUR HOUSE OR THE JEWISH GIRLS.
KEEP IT TO YOURSELF.
YES I HAVE DATED PEOPLE THAT ARE NOT BLACK, AND I DO NOTICE
DIFFERENT LOOKS THAT I MAY GET EVEN TODAY IN 2016.
IT'S A CONVERSATION THAT NEEDS TO BE HAD.
>> SHE IS.
BUT THAT IS WHAT I WANT TO TOUCH ON.
I THINK INTENT MATTERS AND I THINK THE FACT THAT SHE IS NOT
A MALICIOUS PERSON MATTERS AS WELL.
WHEN I AM TRYING TO SAY IS THERE IS SOME PORTION OF THE COUNTRY
THAT HAS A RACIAL BIAS AND IT DOESN'T COME FROM A MALICIOUS
PLACE.
IT COMES BECAUSE OF THE FAMILIES THEY GREW UP IN.
WE WANT TO FIGHT BACK AGAINST THAT.
AND YOU DO THAT THROUGH EDUCATING PEOPLE, THROUGH
DIALOGUE, THROUGH CONVERSATION, AND I THINK IN THIS CASE YOU
GUYS ARE RIGHT, SHE DOES HAVE THAT SELF-RIGHTEOUS, I AM A
GOOD PERSON AND A HERO TYPE ATTITUDE.
THAT DEFINITELY RUBS ME THE WRONG WAY.
WHEN I READ IT I THOUGHT THERE WAS HOPE FOR HER.
SHE IS NOT A HATEFUL PERSON.
I DON'T WANT THE CRITICISM TO MAKE HER REVERT BACK TO
DISLIKING ñ
>>I HOPE SHE LISTENS.
WE HAVE ALL BEEN CALLED OUT.
IF YOU LISTEN, YOU LEARN, AND YOU EVOLVE THAT MAKES YOU MUCH
BETTER OF A PERSON.
I HOPE THAT SHE CAN HAVE A SELF-AWARE MOMENT.
>>YES, THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO GAVE HER CONSTRUCTIVE
CRITICISM AND I WANT HER TO LISTEN TO THAT.
BUT THE NATURE OF TWITTER, IT'S JUST ñ PEOPLE BECOME VICIOUS
AND SOMETIMES THAT MAKES YOU DEFIANT.
IF I GET SOMETHING WRONG ON THE SHOW, AND I GET CONSTRUCTIVE
CRITICISM I THINK IT IS A GOOD POINT AND I CORRECT MY ERRORS.
BUT IF THE FIRST CRITICISM I READ IS SOMEONE CALLING ME A
CUNTY WHORE, WELL THEN FUCK YOU.
THAT IS A HUMAN WAY OF REACTING.
>> THE WAY SHE WROTE THIS IS INCREDIBLY- I DON'T WANT TO
SAY DUMB BECAUSE IT'S NOT ñ
IT'S NOT ACCURATE BUT IT'S LIKE WHAT WORLD ARE YOU LIVING IN?
>>SHE MISSED THE MARK COMPLETELY.
AND HOPEFULLY SHE IS EDUCATING HERSELF AND SHE IS OPEN TO
EVOLVING AND BECOMING A BETTER PERSON.
>>SHE
NEEDS TO WATCH GUESS WHO IS COMING TO DINNER, BOTH VERSIONS.