the porn pleasure pain paradox i'm dr trish leigh in this video let me tell you how porn
seemingly promises you pleasure but inevitably gives you pain stay with me i promise i'll explain
the paradox okay number one what we're going to talk about is three things number one i'm going
to explain to you how and why porn promises you pleasure but gives you pain number two i'm going
to explain to you what happens in your brain that causes that and keeps it going number three stay
with me until the end because it's your brain tip strategy of how to break the pleasure pain
paradox cycle okay let's dig it number one how does porn promise you pleasure but give you pain
so we know from the science that a pornography habit exists on a cycle so the way the cycle works
is this is important for the brain tip strategy so follow along number one the way the cycle works is
first there is a trigger and these triggers have been conditioned over the time frame
that you have been consuming pornography so if you started watching porn when you were young
these triggers have been in place for a very long time so basically a q happens and it makes
dopamine to begin to be dripped in your brain you get a little drip of dopamine and your brain says
i'm feeling stressed because usually the trigger has to do with stress we know that
from the science so your brain says i'm feeling stress and the way that i deal with stress is i
go towards sexually acting out behaviors so when you move towards watching pornography masturbating
acting out in a way that gives you pleasure your brain will give itself a flood of dopamine where
larger than it could get anywhere else in the world literally it's a super normal
stimulus so you're triggered you're cute you get a little drip of dopamine which moves you
towards the dopamine flood so when you move towards it then your brain gets the flood
after the flood guess what there is a drought so not only is there no longer the flood of
dopamine there's extra low levels now here's the clincher if you've been consuming pornography
for a long time that level of dopamine actually continues to go lower the more that you consume
so this is what leads to anger irritability anxiety depression chronic physical pain
erectile dysfunction brain fog not being able to think all of those things are pain they really
are relationships that are you know falling apart and are being ripped apart by this cycle so the
way that it works is you get the pleasure in the moment then you get the pain in all the other
moments that you're not consuming pornography and as the cycle continues over years over decades
there is less dopamine in the world and i'm sure some of you know what i'm talking about when i say
that even when you're consuming pornography it doesn't have the same pleasure that it used to
that is part of the paradox a paradox is when something seems to contradict itself but the
more you investigate it it proves to be true so the paradox is the more you consume porn the less
pleasurable it gets and the more pain it creates for you when you're not in the middle of a session
so now that was one and two so what's the takeaway the takeaway is three if you want to break this
porn pleasure pain paradox cycle you have to really hone in on the triggers and the cues
so in this video your takeaway that you're going to write in your leather journal the one that you
enjoy going back to so that you can learn about this stuff and go implement it what you're going
to write down is what are my triggers what are the cues that send me into this cycle
so many times they can be physical space they can be time so a time of the day or the week
somewhere in your home or somewhere in your office somewhere in the world
people can be triggers people places and things tend to be big triggers
but what i want you to focus on are the things that you can control you can only control certain
things which are situational or categorical so you have to look at the things and say okay
if i'm triggered by women at the gym then i can't go to that gym anymore i need to buy myself some
some weights i need to do body resistance training i need to go to a different gym that only has men
so you have to figure out what your triggers are and what you can control onus of control
what can you control so create self-awareness become self-aware of what your cycle is
then figure out how to take an action step changes happen powerfully when you take
action steps so analyzing your triggers is one thing figuring out how you you can control them
is the next step and then taking an action step towards controlling them is going to massively
help you break this pleasure pain paradox so go for it okay if you are looking for
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help i would love to be part of your journey and as always control your brain or it'll control you