- I'm about to get very real with you.
Because so many of you sexy single ladies
are wasting your valuable time
on this beautiful planet
with guys who just clearly do not want to be your boyfriend.
So, in this video, I'm going to be going over seven signs,
and these are real signs that you can look for
in any new situation you're in,
that he just doesn't wanna be your boyfriend.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com,
where I help you create your love story.
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Because what I wanna do
is give you the real deal information you can use
to be able to know whether or not
a guy is actually investing his energy into you,
and potentially being your boyfriend.
And I hate to say it,
because I know all of you sexy single ladies
might judge me a little bit,
but before I met Jessica,
I was definitely in, kind of, casual situations,
where I did not want to date the woman
that I was talking to.
And, by the way, I was never dishonest about that,
but looking back on it,
I was definitely in a few situations
where, if I were single now,
I would definitely not be in that relationship,
because I was definitely leading her on.
So let's jump right into those seven signs
that you can use today.
Sign Number One is that he treats the relationship word
as if it is a curse word.
I am not kidding!
There was a time in my life
where I would call the relationship word, "the R word",
at least to my friends.
Now, that's weird and ironic,
of course, now that I help so many of you find love.
But there are some guys,
at certain phases in their life,
when the thought of being in a relationship,
or even talking about relationships,
just makes them want to run in the opposite direction.
So, if you're talking to a new guy
and you happen to talk about past relationships,
or where you see yourself in five years,
and that happens to be, maybe,
you're married with children,
and he happens to completely lose attention
from the conversation,
stares off into space,
then there's a strong possibility
he's just not interested in that.
Sign Number Two is that he never initiates to see you,
or even to talk to you.
Now, I think this should be an obvious point,
but it's sometimes not so obvious
when you're in one of these kind of
half-relationship, casual situations,
and you realize, looking back,
that, "Wow, I really was the one pushing this thing forward
"every single step of the way."
Now, there's a quote by Victor Hugo that says,
"Initiative is doing the right thing without being told."
If a guy is into you,
he's obviously going to want to initiate.
Actually, in fact, when I first started dating Jess,
everything I was doing in my life
was holding back initiating
and trying to pace it,
because things were moving fast
and we were both very excited.
But I was really trying to hold back that initiative,
because I was initiating so much.
Sign Number Three is that he doesn't take you anywhere,
to anyplace where it might be perceived as a date.
I once had an old buddy, back in the day,
who was the type of guy,
he dated around a lot.
And he wouldn't see a woman outside of either his home
or her home,
because he didn't wanna give her the impression
that it was actually a date.
Now, that might sound extreme,
but if a guy is trying to keep things casual
and not turn it into a relationship,
he's not going to wanna give you that impression
that it's a relationship.
So, he's not gonna wanna take you out for dinner.
He might not even wanna take you out for drinks.
He's certainly not gonna be introducing you to his friends,
or wanting to meet your friends.
Sign Number Four is that he doesn't allow
for any progression in the relationship,
especially once you've had sex.
Now, when a relationship develops,
naturally, things progress, right?
You get to know each other more
and you want to spend more time with one another.
And then, as much more time goes on,
your lives actually align with one another,
so you have a very clear vision.
However, if you're dating a guy,
and after you sleep together
you notice that there's nothing else being done
in the relationship to push anything forward,
you don't find that anything is growing in the relationship,
well, then chances are he doesn't wanna be your boyfriend.
In many ways,
if a relationship isn't growing in some way, shape or form,
it's probably dying.
And that doesn't mean, by the way,
that things have to progress super-fast,
but if you're finding that,
after you've slept together
and you're not in a committed relationship,
nothing has changed in the relationship
after three to five...
I've seen casual relationships go on for years.
If you see that things aren't progressing,
then it's time to take a real hard look
and realize, he just doesn't wanna be your boyfriend.
Sign Number Five is that he has no interest
in exploring your world.
Now, this goes beyond just not wanting to meet your friends
or your family.
I think that's kind of an obvious.
But, if he's not even trying to understand who you are,
some of your challenges in life,
what you're going through, your past,
then, clearly, he doesn't want anything
to do with your world.
When you're in a healthy relationship,
what tends to happen
is your lives actually integrate within one another,
because you learn about one another
and you actually grow from each other.
And when you do integrate your lives,
that's where the sum of each part
really becomes greater than the whole,
and the relationship really grows.
Sign Number Six is that his lifestyle does not reflect
a relationship whatsoever.
If this guy loves to go clubbing on Thursday,
Friday, Saturday night,
even Monday night, because why not?
And he plucks his eyebrows more often than you do,
then chances are you got a problem.
You wanna tread cautiously
when you're around certain types of guys,
especially when their lifestyle
is totally focused on meeting other women.
Now, that's not to say that those things won't change
if a guy meets the right type of woman.
It certainly did for me.
I was never a club rat and I really don't pluck my eyebrows,
but I certainly went out a lot before I met Jess.
But once I met Jess,
my attention from that lifestyle
very, very quickly focused in on her.
And if you're finding that that transition
isn't happening at all,
then chances are, I hate to say it,
but you're probably a side piece.
Yikes!
And finally, Sign Number Seven is that he tells you
that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you,
or that he doesn't wanna be your boyfriend.
You know how I always say
that actions speak louder than words in relationships?
Well, that is true, except for one time.
And this one time when a guy tells you
that he doesn't want a relationship,
then you have to listen to him.
I don't care how sweet he is,
or how much he wants to see you
and how great it is,
how great the connection.
When a man tells you
he doesn't want a relationship with you,
he goes through that hurdle
to actually be upfront and clear with you,
listen to him.
So, if after watching this video,
you've realized that you're with a guy
who just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you,
I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news,
but it is time to say that four-letter magical word,
which is, "Next",
and move on to the next guy.
And I wanna give you a special free gift
that's gonna really help you do that.
It's a free webinar,
we'll leave the link in the description or in my profile.
It'll teach you how to make a man pursue you,
and be able to get you back out the door,
finding the right type of guy
so you can create that love story that you truly want.
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This is gonna be a really big year,
and I cannot wait to help you create your love story.
I'll speak to you very soon, you Sexy Single Lady.
Bye bye.