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in 1985 robert sternberg presented a
theory that is beat the interest of
various people a theory concretizing
something that has baffled the minds and
wrenched the hearts of many love he
called it the triangular theory of love
as it's best explained in the form of a
triangle but it's more commonly known as
Sternberg's theory of love in the
context of interpersonal relationships
there are three components of love
intimacy passion and commitment
according to the theory intimacy is the
feeling of attachment closeness and
connectedness passion on the other hand
is the fiery depth and intense miss you
experience when you like someone
encompassing the drive connected to both
romantic and sexual attraction the third
component commitment ties the other two
together as it encompasses short-term
and long-term decisions to remain with
one another and plan for the future
according to Sternberg's theory of love
there are six forms of love which are
combinations of the three components
previously described
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one non love not love is merely the
absence of all three components this
basically characterizes the majority of
our personal relationships which
consists of simple casual interactions
it could apply to your acquaintances or
people you're not particularly attached
to to Friendship friendship exists when
only intimacy is present this is the set
of feelings you experience without the
intense passion or commitment of romance
it can however be a route for other
forms of love to manifest from three
infatuated love infatuation occurs when
passion is present and both intimacy and
commitment is absent crushes fall under
this category solely sexual
relationships are also included as their
only bounded by carnal desires and
nothing more this is the most common
route of romantic love as it's believed
that intimacy develops over time but if
neither intimacy nor commitment develops
this type of love can fizzle over time
for empty love an example of empty love
is an unhappy marriage where intimacy
and the flames of passion for your
partner is gone as a strong love
deteriorates into empty love nothing is
left but the contract of marriage itself
it's characterized by the absence of
intimacy and passion despite the
presence of commitment arranged
marriages on the other hand can start
out as empty love's but can develop into
other forms of love over time five
romantic love romantic love is a
combination of intimacy and passion
relationships under this category not
only involve physical bonds but
emotional bonds as well this is one of
the most common stepping stones to
married life however it lacks commitment
this type of relationship is easier to
dissolve with no legal issues if you or
your partner have had enough of it
six companionate love companionate love
is characterized by a combination of
intimacy and commitment and the absence
of passion it's stronger than friendship
love because of the addition of
commitment it's observed in long-term
marriages where you don't necessarily
need passion in order to stay in love
with your partner because affection
still remains companionate love can also
be found among family members and close
friends who have strong platonic
friendships
seven fatuous love a good example of a
fatuous love is when Kim Kardashian
married Kris Humphries only to divorce
him 72 days later it's a whirlwind of
romance we usually see on television
fatuous love is the combination of
commitment and passion without intimacy
eight consummate love consummate love
sits at the very center of the triangle
as it's said to be the perfect ideal
type of love all three components are
present in this type of love and it's
the goal for people in relationships
according to Sternberg couples
experience and consummate love will
continue to be sexually intimate years
into the relationship and they can't
imagine themselves being happier with
other partners they work through their
difficulties and find delight in their
relationships
however Sternberg cautions that
maintaining this relationship is harder
than achieving it and is not a permanent
form of love with that do you agree with
the types of love that Sternberg
proposes what other factors do you think
affect a relationship do you think the
six forms of love are global or is there
a subjective perspective for every
couple feel free to share your thoughts
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