Hey, this is Mat Boggs, love and dating coach for amazing women just like you.
Today we're going to talk about what can make you instantly more attractive.
I love this topic because contrary to popular belief what makes you instantly more attractive
is nothing out there and it's everything right here.
Here's what I mean.
I was talking to a client of mine who was telling me that she wasn't getting any hits
on her profile.
No guys were reaching out to her.
I said send it over.
Let me take a look.
I'm looking at her profile.
I'm looking at the pictures.
In none of these pictures am I seeing that she's feeling sexy.
None of these pictures are showing any kind of confidence or showing any kind of even
sensuality.
I'm asking her.
I said do you have any pictures of you where you're really felling feminine or you're really
feeling sexy in these pictures?
She sent me over another picture.
It was her in a dress at her friend's wedding.
As I'm looking at this picture and I'm talking to my client I said let me guess, just a wild
guess.
Do you feel really uncomfortable in this picture?
She said yes, I did.
I hated that dress.
I wanted to get out of those heels so bad.
It was two in the morning.
I was exhausted.
I say, I was like you look great in this picture but I can just feel that you feel really uncomfortable.
That's what's communicating more than anything else.
I said look, the most important aspect around generating attractiveness when it comes to
men is how attractive you feel to yourself.
If you feel attractive that subconsciously sends out a magnetic wave of energy to men.
We pick up on that energy.
I told her about a TV show I had watched with my wife.
We we're watching this show.
It was so fascinating because one woman was 40 pounds overweight but she had just lost
20 pounds.
She used to be 60 pounds overweight.
She got, lost 20 pounds.
She comes walking out on this talk show.
Man, you could tell and I'm sure you've seen moments like this, you could tell she felt
good about herself.
She had moved herself in a positive direction.
She was wearing some outfit that showed her curves.
She was working it, man.
She, I was like wow, look at her go.
Next to the woman who had just lost 20 pounds was another woman who by all societal standards
was, would be way sexier than the woman who was overweight.
She was thin but she had just put on 10 pounds.
It was clear that she didn't feel good about herself.
It was clear that she was self-conscious.
It was clear that she had this sort of air of not feeling worthy or feeling flawed.
Like the energy that was coming off of her was way different than this other woman.
Even though she was supposed to be maybe sexier, it was clear to me who was way more attractive.
It was the woman who felt good about herself.
The woman who was owning her own sexiness and attractiveness.
I told my client this story.
I said here's what I want you to do.
I want you to wear some clothes that you feel really good about yourself when you're wearing
these clothes, some clothes that highlight your best features, some clothes that highlight
your curves.
I want you to wear some sexy underwear.
Nobody has to know that you're wearing this sexy underwear but you.
I said do you have any sexy underwear?
She laughed.
She said yeah, I've got some sexy ... I said put that sexy underwear on.
Wear that sexy underwear.
Then when you take these photos, own your sense of attractiveness.
Know that you are beautiful, you are worthy, you are attractive.
When you're in that state you're sending out that vibration.
Men, we pick up on that.
She did.
Took those pictures.
Within literally one, maybe two days she had all these hits from these men.
She started dating this guy, a great guy, right away.
The next week they went out.
They've been dating here since.
She's off and running.
Here's what I say to you.
It doesn't matter what other people think.
It doesn't matter your size, your body shape, all these scientific of shiny hair, flat stomach,
curves, hips sway when you walk.
Yes, all of that scientifically proves that we get attracted to women.
The most important thing is your vibration.
The most important thing is how you feel about yourself.
Nobody can dim that down but you.
Nobody can shine that light but you.
My encouragement and here's a couple of tips to help you dial that up.
In the morning when you're stripping down to get in the shower, the most people look
at what's wrong with their body in that moment.
Most people look at the part of their body they like the least.
They'll look at their thighs.
They'll look at their stomach.
They'll feel this critical energy.
Don't do that.
Instead send your body a wave of love and appreciation.
Say thank you body for being my body this day, being the body that walks me around this
day, for being the body that allows me to live, move, and have my being in this amazing
thing we call life.
Send yourself some love in that energy, in that moment.
Then as you're walking throughout the day, any time you see your reflection, let's say
you're walking by a storefront.
You see your reflection in the mirror.
Say to yourself dang, you look good, you are sexy, you are attractive.
Feed yourself that message because as you think those thoughts you're going to generate
a new state.
That state is I am attractive.
I am sexy.
From that state other men are going to pick that up.
They're going to see you as sexy and attractive.
It is the most important factor for creating instant attraction in men.
Now if this message resonates with you, if it inspires you, my encouragement is to share
it with some girlfriends who could use this message this day as well because they are
beautiful, they are attractive.
Anything that can help ground that is going to be good for them.
I would love to hear from you.
What are things that you do that help you generate that state of I am attractive?
It might be getting your nails done or having some lotion that smells great and putting
that on.
Go ahead and post the comments below.
I love to read your comments with something that you do that creates this I am attractive
state in you.
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