- Heya playa, have you ever asked yourself
what's the best way to tell your crush
that you like them, over text or in person?
I'm gonna explore both of those options
and tell you what's the right answer right after this.
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Telling your crush you like them, what's the best
way to do it?
Well, I think before we get into that
we need to tackle when you shouldn't tell them
that you like them.
First off, you shouldn't be telling your crush
you like them if you've barely ever spoken
to them before.
And by that, I mean you've had one or two
conversations here or there, maybe you say,
"Hi," to them once in a while.
If you barely know them, you don't wanna just
outright express your feelings to them.
I know, it's the exact opposite of what you wanna do.
You wanna just put your feelings out there
to see how they respond.
But if you actually wanna build something
with them that's gonna go somewhere, you need
to do this a little bit more strategically.
So the first thing you really need to focus on
is building a better relationship with them.
That means talking to them more,
engaging with them more, learning about
their interests and their hobbies,
asking them questions, making jokes,
flirting with them, all these different kinds
of things that's gonna help bring the two
of you closer together.
And this can happen over text, in person,
around friends, outside of school,
inside of school, during lunch, after lunch,
in class, anywhere.
The fact of the matter is this, you wanna get
to know your crush a lot more before you confess
your feelings because when you do confess
your feelings, you want them to say "Yes,"
they like you too.
And the only way you're gonna have any kind
of success with your crush is by showing them
how you feel, not just telling them how you feel.
But wait, the whole point of this video
is whether or not you should tell them over text
or in person.
So let's break each of those down specifically.
If the bulk of your interactions happen over text
then you might just wanna stick with telling them over text.
But here's the problem with that.
If you only really talk to them over text,
if there's no in-person interaction,
well then, guess what, you could tell them
all day how you like them, but when it finally
comes to meeting face-to-face, you're gonna chicken out.
I think for most of you just sending someone
a text can feel so much easier
because you could send the message
and you could forget about it.
You can close it off and walk away.
But if you're doing it in person, you can't just
say that you like 'em and then just turn around and leave.
But I genuinely want you to ask yourself this question.
Even though the two of you are texting back
and forth, and let's say you do confess
your feelings to them over text, what's your next step?
Are you planning on ever talking to them in person?
And do you think just by confessing your feelings
through text it's gonna be easier to communicate
that as well in person?
I hope you're starting to see the real difficulty
that's gonna spring up if you only text them
and why it may be important for you to tell them in person.
"Whoa, whoa, whoa, are you saying I should just
"tell them in person?
"Is that the better option?
"Is that gonna be easier?
"Is it gonna be more effective?"
Easier, probably not.
Better, well, that's really hard to say.
And more effective, I would say absolutely yes.
The reason why you should tell your crush
you like them in person is because you have
so much more working to your advantage.
Think about it like this.
When you walk up to your crush, you're displaying
that level of confidence.
You're showing them that you're not afraid
to just approach them and talk to them.
Your body language, your tone of voice,
your facial expressions, all those things
can convey a deeper sense of how you feel
rather than through text.
I'm sorry, but no emoji can really capture
the essence of having someone approach you
to tell you that they really like you.
And that doesn't mean texting them is the wrong
way to go, but you better be ready to back it up
in person when you see them because if you
confess your feelings and say all these romantic
things on text and then you're shy and awkward
and timid and silent in person, well,
then there's gonna be a level of congruence
that you're not meeting there.
Your crush is gonna sit there going,
"Well, how can they talk such a big game
"online but in person they don't carry it forward?"
Your confidence level is gonna drop,
they're gonna see that, and you're only
gonna hurt your chances.
Now, you might be thinking, "Well, how do I say it though?
"How do I confess my feelings to my crush
"in a way that's gonna get them to like me back?"
Don't worry, I put that together in a video
over here, which you can check out.
That video's gonna break down how to talk
to your crush, how to let them know you like 'em
and how to start building something with them.
Go check it out, guys, and I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.