change the way that you think about success and failure so that you get more
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regular basis success and failure aren't things their
processes they're their actions but we tend to think of them as things even the
words success and failure those are nouns but these are not really things
think about it you can't go and pick up a handful of
success put it in your pocket and go take it somewhere and then pull it out
that's an actual object a real thing you can do that with but success and failure
does not like that but when we think about it that way success or failure
either one rather rather than thinking of it as succeeding or failing so think
about it in your mind how does it how does how do you feel about the words
what do you think of when I say success what do you think of when I say failure
now think about the word succeeding and notice the difference even in your body
and the way that you think about it when you hear the word success or you think
about the word success and then you think about the word succeeding how are
they different how do they feel different what goes on in your mind
that's different and do the same thing with failure so think failure and
failing most often not everybody's the same but most people most often have a
sense that the word success or the word failure feels like a static thing like
it's unmovable it's just there what a word that is actually a verb our process
is turned into a noun we call that a nominalization so we want to D
lies the word so when I say succeeding or failing how is that different well
for most people that feels like more like these are processes or things in
motion and if something is in motion or moving in a certain direction then you
can move that move it in a different direction you can steer it you can turn
it it's movable it has mobility rather than being static this is why words are
so important if you're thinking about a failure that you had you probably feel
stuck like it's immovable it's just it is what it is but if you think about it
as failing as in you were failing at that time that presupposes that that was
then that was in the past it was a happening that occurred in the past but
it is no longer happening the words you use are so important how they make you
feel and think about things they could literally be the difference between
succeeding and failing now that you're thinking of success and failure as
processes rather than objects or things or static states of being now understand
that they're not processes in the sense that they're not two separate processes
they're one process succeeding and failing is one process there are two
parts of one process not two different processes this also holds people back a
lot of times because they think of them as well I'm either succeeding or me or
I'm failing it's much more difficult to manage these two if you're thinking of
them as they're going in two different directions are worse they're pulling you
apart like these are two processes that are happening inside of you and
sometimes you're succeeding and sometimes you're failing and you're
stuck in the middle it's a conflict there's friction you're being pulled
you're being pushed this isn't helping you at all so think of it as one process
a person who succeeds a lot probably fails more than most people
you've heard this before the person who hits the most homeruns is usually the
person who strikes out the most this is true in so many areas of life when I was
a kid my other my two brothers used to say Damon you always get what you want
mom and dad always give you what you want certainly not true the difference
was I asked I I tried more I tried to get what I wanted more and I asked more
and I'm sure I got turned down more times than they got turned down but
because I was asking more times I also often got what I wanted and that is so
true in life in general asks for life ask from life what it is that you want
and sometimes you're going to get it and sometimes you won't get it but you'll
never get it if you're not asking so put these two together think of them as one
process that is moving together sometimes you're going you're sometimes
you get off track and you go where you don't want to go you can call that
failing and then when that happens you Yuri correct you steer this back in the
direction where you want to go which is towards success this will make this so
much smoother and so much easier when you see that failure is just part of the
process of succeeding then failure doesn't become so discouraging failure
doesn't make you want to quit failure in fact makes you realize okay I just went
in the wrong direction and I'm that much closer to succeeding that it's just a
matter of getting back on track I veered off but I can come back because again
it's a process it's not like a static state of being it's not a process that
pulled you away from success it's a process that is necessary for success
and last but not least what vision is you're succeeding and failing serving
now this is kind of a radical idea but this is gold and this will change your
life the vision is the meaning that you're
making of it the vision is what overall you want what are the values that you
want to fulfill what does it look like what does it sound like
what do you see what is that the ultimate ultimate what is the what is it
you want your life to be what is it the life you want to create when you get
very clear about that and you realize that this is what's motivating
everything that you do and then you connect that with the process of
succeeding and failing and you give that meaning to your successes and your
failures this is when your life really starts to change because failure then is
not something that you are or a failure is not something you are and you don't
get discouraged by failing anymore and success is not empty sometimes success
when you achieve it will feel very empty the reason why is it's not attached to a
greater meaning so when you attach this greater meaning to both succeeding and
failing this is the game changer this will make your life different you will
see the world in a different way think about it like this every time you fail
at something instead of taking that failure and making that failure mean
that you're a failure that you're not good you're not worthy
you're not deserving instead of doing all that what if you turn that around
and the meaning you make of failure is progress the meaning you make of failure
is you're getting closer to success you're getting closer to your vision
what do you think would happen if you start thinking that way as you pursue
not just success with the vision beyond the success the thing that the success
is serving imagine applying that meaning to your successes into your failures
what this does is it aligns your pursuit with that greater vision and overall
this creates a greater meaning a greater sense of purpose you're going to make
meaning of life you're going to make meaning of your successes you're going
to make meaning of your failures this is inevitable we are meaning
machines that is just what human beings do so would you rather leave this up to
chance as to what meanings you make and let this let your unconscious sort sort
it out or do you want to be conscious and purposeful about creative about
creating the meanings and loading in to success and failure the meanings that
are only going to make you more successful and lead you to that vision I
think you know what the the best answer is you have an opportunity to create a
vision to pursue it and to see your successes and your failures as getting
you to that vision which gives a sense of purpose and meaning to not just your
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