This is Tripp from Tripp Advice.com and today, I’m going to show you a proven strategy
for getting over a break up. If you’re watching this, you’re probably
in a lot of emotional pain. Trust me, I get it. I’ve been there many times before. Either
you broke up with a girl, or even more painful, she broke up with you. You feel rejected,
you feel lonely, you feel like there’s nothing in the world that's going to make you feel
better in this very moment. I understand that you feel that you’re in a deep hole right
now, but I promise, look at me, I promise, you will get out. First thing you have to
realize, is that this pain does not last forever. You feel like it will. That’s an irrational
thought. This pain will go away. The biggest healer is time. And at this time, I’m going
to give you a secure strategy that will help you heal this pain. Now before I go into that,
on this screen right now is a link to an ebook called “10 Simple And Unknown Dating Tips
To Increase Attraction”. I know the last thing you’re thinking about right now is
trying to meet another girl because you are hung up on this one. But I want you to get
this book right now anyways because I promise, once you’re feeling up to meeting new girls,
which you will, you’ll want to read through this quick guide to start attracting girls
30 times better than your ex-girlfriend. Let’s get into some tips on how to get over
your break up. First things first, this advice is only going to work for guys who are at
the point where they know 100% completely it’s over with their ex. This is not a “How
to get your ex back” video, in fact I have one of those on my channel that you can look
up, if that’s what you’re looking for. But this video is for guys who are ready to
get over their ex and move forward because you know that it’s over. Let’s get
into it. In this period of time, you’re going to be thinking about her a lot. Studies
have shown that you might be thinking about her 80% of the time in your first periods
of breaking up with her. That’s because you’re going through what’s called withdrawal.
Love is a “drug”, in a sense, and your brain isn’t getting that dopamine release
that it usually does when you’re with that girl that you’re bonded with. So since you’ll
be thinking about her a lot, I want you to not spend time alone. Friends and family are
your best bet. Make plans to do stuff. Anything. Get out of your house. Make it almost a game
to not be alone as much as possible. Of course, it’s inevitable that you will be alone some
of the time, and that’s ok, but make it a point to spend time with people as much
as you can. I want you to make a list. Not on your phone or a tablet or your computer.
The good old fashioned way, with a paper and a pen. Get that out and create a list of all
the reasons why your ex wasn’t good for you. I want you to think of 10. That’s the
minimum. Bonus points if you can think of more, but 10 minimum. And really push it if you’re
having a hard time thinking of 10. Now you may respect your ex and think she was great
and have all these reasons why she’s amazing. But on this list, I want you to think 10 ways
or reasons why it was not a match. And the more specific, the better. I want you to keep
this list in your wallet and whenever you get that terrible pain inside of your chest,
I want you to take out this list and read it. And you might end up making this list
bigger as time goes on. Good. Do that. Okay, my next tip is to start the process of talking
to other girls. Now, I know what you’re thinking, “How can you talk to any other
girls?” You only want one girl and that’s your ex. Trust me when I say a magical thing
happens when you start talking to other girls. And I don’t mean hitting on them or even
trying to get dates. Simply just starting conversations. The magical thing that starts
to happen in this slight attraction that you will have for another girl. Sure, it’s not
love and no it’s not the same feeling that you have for your ex in that moment, but it’s
a start. A start in a new direction to get you feeling something else other than the
pain that you have over your break up. Again there is no order to this process.
I want you to sign up for therapy. Figure out your insurance or whatever you need to
do and seek a therapist. Why? Because you’re going to need someone to talk to as you heal.
And your friends and family unfortunately will get sick of hearing about this. It sounds
harsh, but it’s true. You need an unbiased person who specializes in relationships and
that’s a therapist. If you can afford it, go once a week. Now you might say “Tripp,
I have no money. I can’t afford it.” And you know what? Go once a month. That’s totally
fine. And you can definitely manage that. You want this therapist to be a sounding board
to your issues and help you work through the emotional pain that you’re feeling. Last,
and certainly not least, I want you to cut off all communication from her. Delete her
from your phone, unfollow her on Facebook, unfollow her on Twitter, Instagram and all
your other social media accounts. What we want to do is make your memories of her fade
and fade and fade away. And the only way your’e going to be able to do that is to not create
new ones. And those new ones come in the form of texting her, talking to her, and seeing
her social media. This is where the time healing comes in. You want her to be a distant and
past memory so you can dissolve the pain that you’re in. This is an extreme bit of
advice I just told you and many of you won’t be able to do it. I get it. You want to see
what she’s up to and who she’s with, but that will do nothing but bring you more pain.
If you listen to this tip and this tip only, you will heal 20 times faster guaranteed.
There are a lot of other things that you can do to get over your break up, but those are
the most powerful and most important tips. If you can accomplish this whole list, you
will feel better within 4 weeks. If you have a tip that’s helped you, I want you to go
ahead and write it down for us in the comments below this video. Don’t forget, you are going
to meet a new girl relatively soon so get the “10 Simple And Unknown Dating Tips To
Increase Attraction”. Right here on the screen, or in the description below. It will
give you some great advice to get more women into your life and fast. Go get that right
now, check it out when you’re ready. Don’t forget to subscribe to the channel because
I put out videos every single week on "How To Get The Girl." I’ll see you on the next
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