- Heya playa, is there a girl that you like
that you wanna impress, but you just
don't know how to go about doing it?
Well, that's the question that Donovan Washington
asked me over on Snapchat when he said, what if a girl
doesn't like you and you're trying to impress her?
What should I do?
Don't worry, Donovan, I'm gonna cover that
and explain how you can impress that girl
so you can potentially win her over.
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For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh,
and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories
teaching you how to be your best self.
Today I wanna really tackle this idea
of impressing someone, doing all that you can
to gain their attention so that they can notice you.
The tricky thing about standing out
is that you don't just stand out just because.
You need to be an interesting person
who does interesting things.
I go more in depth in another video I did
talking all about how to get your crush to notice you.
But today I wanna focus a little bit more on what it means
to actually impress someone, because getting someone
to notice you is a littler bit easier.
They may know who you are, they may know your name,
they may even talk to you from time to time,
but that doesn't necessarily mean they're impressed with you
and wanna learn more about you.
The real key to impressing them is to learn more about them.
What do they enjoy doing every day?
What are their hobbies and their interests?
What could they spend hours talking about?
The more you learn about what is actually
shaping your crush's interests, the easier it'll be for you
to launch into a conversation with them
that'll take them back and make them
super interested in learning about you.
Now, that doesn't mean you need
to do exactly what they like.
For example, if they're obsessed with Justin Bieber,
you don't have to go out and get tattoos and cut your hair
like him and start acting and talking like him.
Instead, try to understand the appeal surrounding him.
Is it the way that he talks, the way that he acts,
how he thinks, what he does?
What is it that attracts your crush to that kind of person?
And maybe then you can start to think
how you can emulate those behaviors more so
in how you interact with them.
Maybe the girl you like is attracted to his kind of cool,
swagger-like personality, how he doesn't really
let things get to him and he kinda just keeps his cool.
Maybe that's something you can start
to incorporate in your behavior.
You're only gonna start to learn about these things
once you start talking to your crush
and really asking deeper questions
as to why they like the things they like,
and really digging into what that foundation is.
Another piece to it that often
gets overlooked is the element of surprise.
Your crush may develop some kind of image of who you are.
They may think that they know you in every capacity,
but if you're able to whip out some kind of skill or talent
that they had no clue you had, that could be something
that totally gains their interest instantly.
Let's say, for example, you play an instrument
or you make YouTube videos
or you can speed-run through a Rubik's cube.
Any of those talents may not be things
that you openly talk about and share,
but when you're talking to the girl that you like
and you wanna impress your crush,
maybe slipping those into the conversation might be things
that they never knew that you did and it can actually
generate their interest in talking to you.
No matter who you are, when you encounter someone
that's mysterious, someone that you don't really
know much about, but you're intrigued to learn more,
you're definitely gonna be impressed as you unfold
each of those layers, because you're gonna discover things
that you never knew were there.
That's why it's crucial for you to find
a hobby that's worth talking about.
For example, whenever I talk to people
and I bring up the fact that I make YouTube videos,
they're always impressed by it.
I don't need to mention how many people watch it
or how much engagement I get.
Just the simple fact that I'm doing YouTube
and I'm doing something that I love is impressive.
And one of the other points that I wanna mention here, too,
is that you shouldn't focus your life
on trying to impress just one person.
You end up getting caught up in this cycle
where you're doing all that you can for them
and you're no longer living for yourself.
I've seen this happen tons of times.
Guys and girls will change the entire scope
of their personality to try to mold
into what their crush actually likes.
And at the end of it, they feel like
they're no longer themselves, that they're no longer
true to who they are and what they like.
Basically, it's a line you have to teeter on.
On one side, you wanna grow your interests,
expand your personality, and discover
new things that you can like.
And then, on the other hand,
you don't wanna completely change yourself.
You wanna stay true to who you are
and the things that you like,
and you should never feel ashamed
to talk about them or express them
in front of that person you're trying to impress.
This is not an easy task to take on.
Every single person is different,
so some people might be super impressed
with those things, and other people may not.
You have to keep trying to figure out
what that person is really interested in,
because the closer you can develop
that connection with them, the easier and easier
it'll become to eventually impress them.
What do you think, though?
Is there someone that you like that you wanna impress?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
Before you head out, I want you to know
that if you wanna talk about something
that you don't really feel too comfortable
exposing down in the comments, you can always shoot me
a DM over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
But otherwise, thanks for watching.
Check out the videos I have listed over there on the side
if you wanna keep diving into this topic
so you can really impress your crush,
get them to notice you, and potentially go out with them.
Isn't that what it all comes down to?
Finding someone that you can connect with,
someone that you like, and someone
that you can be with at the end of the day.
Check out those videos, guys, and I'll see you next time.
As always, love and peace.