Texting is one of the absolute best ways to communicate with your ex, and for several
reasons.
For one, it’s non-intrusive… in the wake of a breakup, the last thing you want to do
is prod and pry at your ex.
Doing so will only push him or her further and further away from you.
Second, texting allows you time to craft the perfect text message to your ex.
Through my coaching program, I’ve helped thousands of people rekindle the flame with
their ex through texting because I can just simply tell them exactly what do say and when…
if you want to learn more about my coaching program, just hit head on over to BreakupBrad.com/coaching
to check out those details… but do it AFTER watching this video!
Again, that URL is BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
So what is this mystery text?
Well, first I have to establish a few ground rules… because you simply just can’t send
this text whenever you want and expect it to have any results.
You have to psychologically prime your ex first before you can use this text message.
And what I mean by this is you have to force your ex to return to “Emotional Neutral”…
this is a psychological state is a key component to making your ex crave you.
I’ve explained this concept in some other videos that I’ve done in the past, but I’ll
briefly go through it again.
In the wake of a breakup, emotions are running high.
Your ex might be angry at you… or jealous, sad, depressed, etc.
And if your ex dumped YOU, then it’s more than likely that they feel, to some degree,
unattracted to you.
I know that sounds a little harsh, but that’s the reality of the situation.
Now, in order for you to successfully “re-attract” your ex back into your life, you’re going
to have to make sure your ex returns to “Emotional Neutral”… that means, you need to make
your ex not feel any of the negative emotions that one usually feels after a breakup.
There are a number of things that you can do to make your ex return to this state…
one of them being the No Contact period.
What not contacting your ex does is it force him or her to eventually forget about the
bad memories that he or she associates with you.
However, if there was something that you did to really damage the relationship, like cheat
on your ex for example, the chances that he or she will return to emotional neutral will
be much lower.
In this specific scenario, you will need to expand the No Contact period.
I have maybe a dozen videos on this topic, so if you haven’t already, I encourage you
to check out those after this video.
There are a number of other things you can do to help your ex return to Emotional Neutral…
one of the things that I teach in my Ex Factor Guide program (an online course designed to
help you get your ex back), is something called the Blank Slate Email.
This email is GREAT if you’ve done a lot of begging and pleading after the breakup…
and if you’ve been watching my videos, you’ll know that begging and pleading after a relationship
is one of the LAST things you want to do.
If you want to learn more about how you can get your hands on that email, just head on
over to BreakupBrad.com and watch that free video presentation on that website.
Again, that URL is BreakupBrad.com!
So after you’ve engaged in No Contact and forced your ex to return to emotional neutral,
what do you text?
One of the BEST texts you can send is what I like to call the “Good Memory Text Message.”
To better explain this text and why it works, let’s jump right into a few examples here…
“Remember that little café in Denmark?
The one we went to on that little street in Copenhagen…
what was the name of that again?
Asking for a friend.”
Or here’s another example…
“Remember that night we watched that movie about that girl who fell in love with a sea
monster?
I can’t remember the name and it’s killing me!”
Okay, here’s another one…
“What was the name of that restaurant we went to on Cook St.? The one with the amazing
patio that overlooks the ocean?
I wanna take a friend there.”
If you set up the situation correctly, this text can do wonders.
Obviously you’re going to have to tailor this text to suit your needs… but this text
works great for a number of reasons.
First, it forces your ex to remember a time in your relationship that was amazing.
This sort of psychological jiu jitsu can be enough to make your ex crave you and obsess
over you again in no time.
Second, this text makes it sound like you legitimately want to ask your ex a genuine
question.
It doesn’t scream “I miss you” or “I want you back”… all it does is remind
your ex of a really positive experience you two shared.
And finally, you can use this text to insight or provoke a little bit of jealousy in your
ex.
For instance, I ended my third text message example with...
“I wanna take a friend there.”
This sort of cryptic message allows your ex to wonder who this friend is.
Is it a friend they’ve met before?
Is it someone new?
Or is it someone that they’re dating?
This is a very powerful way to psychologically get your ex to wonder and think about you
to the point that he or she HAS to see you and take you back.
If you want to learn more about how to break down your ex and make him or her crave you
in a way you never thought possible, then you MUST go to BreakupBrad.com.
On that website, there will be a video explaining the top 3 psychological techniques that you
can use to make your ex wish they never left you.
Again, to check out that URL, just head on over to BreakupBrad.com.
Just as a bonus here, I’m going to go over another kind of text message that will get
your ex to chase you… and I call it the “Intimacy Text”…
Let’s jump right into a few examples…
you could say something like…
“I miss the way your cologne left a subtle scent on my pillow.”
Or something like…
“I miss having your arms wrapped around me as I fell asleep.”
Again, big disclaimer here, the Intimacy Text is something that you should only do if you’ve
primed your ex properly.
If you just jump out of nowhere with this text, you’re either going make your ex think
you just want a booty call, or just turn him or her off completely…
so you have to be really careful when sending this text.
However, if you send this text at the right time, then sparks will fly like crazy and
it’ll only be a matter of days before your ex is dying to see you again.
Now for those of you who don’t want to watch that video on BreakupBrad.com right now, you
can check out BreakupBrad.com/quiz and take the free quiz that I developed.
This quiz tool assesses your chance of getting your ex back.
There are only a handful of questions and it only takes about 3 minutes to complete.
And, interestingly enough, according to the data that I’ve gathered from people who
have signed up for my program, this quiz is EXTREMELY accurate as well.
So again, head on over to BreakupBrad.com/quiz to take my FREE quiz!
That just about does it for this video.
If you have any questions, please feel free to leave them in the comments section below
and I’ll do my very best to get back to you!
Thanks a lot and see you soon!