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Do you have a crash?
Maybe you've been thinking
about how you can express your feelings for them
without scaring them away.
For many, telling someone you like how you really feel
can be a daunting experience.
Where do you begin?
Well, we have some tips to help you.
Here's how to show your crush that you liked them
without scaring them away.
Number one, spend time around them.
Ya don't say?
Well, before you tell your crush how you feel,
they need to know you exist first.
If you already know them pretty well, even better.
According to a 2011 research study published
in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,
familiarity with someone encourages attraction
in a live interaction.
Two experiments were reported in the study
using a live interaction paradigm
where two same-sex strangers interacted with each other
for different amounts of time.
The researchers findings supported
the previously suggested theory
that familiarity leads to attraction.
According to the study, the more participants interacted,
the more attracted they were to each other.
The mediation analysis identified three processes
that contribute to this effect.
Perceived responsiveness, increased comfort
and satisfaction during the interaction,
and perceived knowledge.
So try spending a bit more time with your crush.
Even just sitting by them during class or lunch
could possibly make them feel more comfortable around you.
If they welcome you, it may even cue them into the idea
that you like them.
Number two, throw in a few flirty hints.
Now that they're a bit more comfortable with your presence
as a possible friend, try throwing in some hints
that you have feelings for them.
Make good eye contact.
Smile at them.
Give them a natural compliment.
Perhaps throw in a bit of playful teasing
with some flirting.
If you're still a bit shy
when it comes to flirting in person,
try sending them a flirty text.
Number three, go out of your way to talk to them.
If you wanna show them you care about them,
you have to make an effort to reach out to them.
If they notice you go out of your way to talk to them
at a party, lunch, work, or other social gatherings,
they may just realize you have feelings,
especially for them.
You could even text them questions
specific to their personality and well-being
to show you care.
Doing this often with a bit of flirting,
will set you apart from just being interested
in them as friends.
They may even start to think,
why do they especially wanna talk to me?
Do they like me?
Just remember to throw in a few flirty hints now and then.
So they know you wanna be more than just good friends.
Also, remember to pay attention to their body language.
Are they welcoming your conversations?
Are they comfortable?
Do they continue the discussion and texts?
Number four, create a deadline for yourself.
So, you've been giving them hints,
spending time with them,
and have continued the great conversations.
Now you have to tell them, right?
Telling your crush you like them can seem intimidating.
So you may just avoid doing so.
Before you know it, the school year is over
or they've relocated to a new workplace with a new position.
A good idea may be to give yourself a deadline
for when you'll tell them your true feelings.
So if flirting has been going well
set a deadline for a week or two away.
Or maybe just a few days later
if things are progressing smoothly.
You don't wanna overthink things
and talk yourself out of letting them know
how you really feel.
After all, ask yourself,
how would I feel if I never told them I liked them?
Would I regret it?
Number five, let them know how you feel.
The time has come, my friend.
Stand up tall, attempt some confidence,
and let out the feels.
It might be a good idea to reveal your feelings
in a casual way first and plan what you'll say in advance.
If you're unsure how they feel about you
and you don't wanna surprise them too much, try saying,
I think I have feelings for you.
Or express how much you enjoy spending time with them
and that you wanna continue spending more time with them.
Possibly on a date.
This will give your crush a moment to think
about how they feel about you in a romantic way.
Instead of declaring a statement that can seem to demand
a certain answer right away.
Number six, have a purpose when you do tell them.
Okay, so let's say you tell them.
Okay, now what?
(tape scratching)
I mean, what if your crush is unsure of how they feel
and need some time?
Or maybe they're unsure of what to say.
To avoid an awkward moment of silence, have a purpose
when you tell them.
This could mean asking them on a date
when you express your feelings for them.
Or asking them to that movie or your favorite bands concert
you have an extra ticket for.
This will make it easier for them
to express their feelings as well.
They may politely decline your date request
if they're not interested.
Less awkward than an imminent silence, right?
Or perhaps they're busy that week.
But if they like you back,
they might express that another time works well for them.
Or maybe, just maybe, they'll jump at the chance
to go on a date with you.
Hopefully, they like your favorite band
as much as they like you.
So will you follow these steps?
How will you tell your crush that you like them?
Share your stories in the comments section down below
and remember to respect your crushes feelings
if they don't feel the same way.
Just because someone doesn't share the same feelings
doesn't mean you're worth any less.
We're all lovable people and the right person
may be out there somewhere waiting for you.
Maybe at your favorite bands concert.
Hey, you never know.
They may just be a bigger fan than you.
Cue the romance music.
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