you approached a girl she kinda seems to like you and the discussion is moving
towards you asking for her number do you start getting nervous just by imagining
yourself in this situation if yes don't be mortified it's normal and it happens
to a ton of guys from high school boys to adult men the nervousness comes from
not knowing how to properly ask for a girl's phone number should you should go
straight forward and simply put the question out there or maybe should you
try to be clever about it and maybe make it a joke the truth is that there's no
universal bulletproof strategy that can teach you how to ask for a girl's phone
number however there are several ways to approach this situation and in this
video I'm gonna teach you the ones that have proven the most successful I'm
gonna describe different scenarios so make sure to choose the one that fits
your current situation but regardless of the strategy pick the one that is more
likely to get her to agree and give you the number don't go for the elaborate
strategies you see online keep it simple and be confident so let's get on to tip
number one do not ask her for her number the best way to get her phone number is
not to ask for it I know it's confusing but let me explain if you say I was
wondering maybe I could get your number and if you want maybe we could hang out
sometime or maybe something like so can I get your phone number
it shows that you're not confident and maybe you're not even sure that you want
her to give you her number this is a huge turnoff for girls the correct
formulation should sound like a command of course without any aggressiveness
something like here put your number in my phone or maybe something like that's
really awesome I'd love to hang out with you sometime put your number in my phone
and I'll give you a call if you don't like this approach you can play it cool
and say you seem like a really cool person let me get your number so we can
hang out sometime the trick is to look confident and casual when you formulate
the question or command keep eye contact smile and always have your phone ready
make sure that you're out of incognito mode for whatever reason you don't want
her to say sure and then try to find your phone or maybe have any awkward
situations follow another thing I want to talk about is when to ask for the
number so there's no perfect moment do you have to feel it the important thing
is to never start a conversation with asking for her number you shouldn't also
wait till the end of the conversation either it should be at the high point in
the chat when you see that she likes your approach and maybe would be
interested in learning more usually your gut feeling is pretty precise so if you
feel the discussion reached a high point find a way to steer the conversation
towards phone numbers here's a little hint a high point in the interaction is
when the girl is laughing the energy is good and you're both having a great time
but before you ask for her number check if you should do you see that you guys
are kind of having a connection issue you may be closer to than you when you
started talking also laughing is a really good sign if all of these answers
are yes you would like to see more of her then
sure go ahead and ask for her number the idea here is that it's not just about
how to ask for a girl's number it's also to know if you should and when to ask
for the number after all you wouldn't to go through so much trouble and
nervousness and not get something Pleasant out of it right make it fun her
phone number isn't necessarily a goal I also want to mention some girls don't
like giving out their numbers some girls like to play it safe and don't give out
their numbers but they have nothing against getting yours in this case you
can play it safe this means give her your number and wait for her to call but
let's say safe is boring and there might be a better way to do it being confident
and funny is always a winning combination so keep things light and
cozy for example if you feel that you're going to get a big fat no when you ask
first test the waters ask her for her phone and when she says why say I'm
gonna see if you have my number she will laugh and two things will happen here if
you'll hand her your phone so that you can type in your number or she'll ask
you for her phone and she will type in her number this strategy works because
it allows the girl to choose what she wants to do another approach here is to
ask her for her phone in order to give her your number say something like I
really enjoyed talking to you I'll give you my number so we can chat sometime
let me see your phone if she likes you she'll hand her your phone if you think
this situation allows it maybe she seems really into you you can go to her
message app and send yourself a cute funny text make it funny and flirty so
what happens if she goes ahead and says yes she likes you and wants to know more
so of course she'll give you her number make sure that you have your phone ready
the contact app open and you can even input her number all she has to do is
type in the digits and hit save hand her your phone as you're saying you need her
to introduce it also at this stage of the discussion you can move closer to
her as if you were to check what she's doing on your phone
it's a nice opportunity maybe to touch her maybe by accident and see how you
feel in close proximity once she puts the number in her phone center of flirty
text maybe something like hey it's Tim the guy with the killer smile at this
moment in the discussion she has your number and you've already opened the new
channel of communication texting if you can't text right away don't wait too
long for this you should send her a text when you get home or the second day some
guys wonder should I call or should I text this is a big question you've
learned all about how to get a girl's phone number and what to do if you were
successful but what's the next step well in my opinion you should keep things
casual into a little bit of texting it shows that you're interested but
confident enough to play cool for a little while it's okay to send her a
text as soon as possible after getting the number in order to make sure it's a
right number and to establish a foundation however it's not okay to a
harasser with all kinds of messages all day long keep it funny in short finally
when it comes to the that you might want to ask her for a
date I'm a big believer in calling her it gives a date deeper meaning in shows
that you really want to spend time with her a lot of people don't call anymore
so calling really shows that you're different it's more scarce and it's fun
I mean you're actually gonna get an adrenaline rush and the blood pumping
right so something else I want to talk about in this video is a rejection let's
learn how to deal with rejection I'm sure you were expecting to hear about
rejection at some point I decided to address this topic at the end because
you shouldn't start with the idea that you're going to get rejected however if
it happens you need to know how to handle it
first the idea of the rejection is one of the reasons why you're so nervous in
the first place what if she says no well that's about it she says no and you move
on to better things you can find a girl who's actually interested in you nothing
worse can happen at this stage you also need to keep in mind that even if a girl
agrees to give you her phone number it doesn't necessarily mean that you will
be going out with her asking for someone's number is not a proposal
towards a serious relationship it's just a way to continue a pleasant interaction
and see if it leads somewhere else so keep it light and casual and be
confident in your own strengths it will give you that Jenna say quash you won't
be able to resist so knowing how to ask for a girl's phone number should be a
skill in every modern man's arsenal it doesn't require too much from you but
it can be so rewarding if done correctly so be afraid to get yourself out there
and test your power of Attraction you may get a few rejections on the line but
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