Before we talk about the most
important questions to ask yourself,
let me ask you this.
Have you ever felt that you're not
making any progress?
Does it sometimes feel that not much
has changed over the past few years?
Do you wish for things to get
better, but somehow they don't?
See, that's how I felt many years
ago. Now, some might say my life
was good.
After all, I had a six-figure
income. I had a secure
job, or at least that's
what I thought.
But I felt stuck.
I felt that I was going through the
motions, getting up in the morning,
doing my job, coming home at
night.
Eat, sleep, repeat.
And I remember being tired
most of the time, trying to catch
up on sleep on the weekends.
You see, I hoped that things
would get better. That I didn't have
to work that hard, that I would have
more money in my retirement account,
that I had more time for my family,
for my friends, and also for myself.
But you see, hope is
not a strategy.
Now, in this video, I want to show
you what exactly I did to turn my
life around and become a
multimillionaire.
So let's get started.
So let's talk about the most
important questions to ask yourself.
You see, one of the most important
things you can learn is
how to control your focus.
Because where focus goes,
energy flows.
So how do you control
your focus?
Well, you do it by asking better
questions.
Now, the worst question that you
can ask when planning your life is,
"What should I do?"
Here is a much better question
to ask yourself.
It's called the Dan Sullivan
question.
This question is probably the most
important question you can ask
yourself, and it was invented by
Dan Sullivan, hence the name.
So here's the question.
If we were having this conversation
three years from now, and
you were looking back over these
three years, what has
to have happened in your life,
both personally and professionally,
for you to feel happy with your
progress?
Now, here's why this question
is so powerful.
See first, this question has a very
specific timeframe, three
years.
And there's a reason why
it's exactly three years and not
1 year or 5 years or 10
years, because most people
overestimate what they can do in
one year. But three years
is a very realistic timeframe
to achieve even ambitious goals.
As an example, it is very
realistic to start trading
and make enough money to quit your
job in three years from now, and
more about it later.
So the second part of this question
is "looking back."
Now, looking back is a weird
psychological trick, because
when we ask ourselves if
you were looking back over the
past three years, our brain
is assuming that these things
already happened.
It's really interesting, when we
train our brain into thinking
that something has happened, we
remove the
"I can't" limitation.
Here's an example.
When you do this exercise and answer
this question with something like,
"In three years from now, I've built
my retirement account to one million
dollars," then it's no longer a
question if
you can do it.
Since you've tricked your brain into
thinking that you will have achieved
it the question now becomes
how you can do
it. You see, by using the
looking back trick, you will
remove the "I can't" limitation
that's holding back way too
many people.
Now let's talk about the next
component.
"Both personally and
professionally." You see,
by including your personal and
professional life into this
question, you're making sure that
you're covering all areas
of your life.
And think about it, when you ask
yourself what has to
happen personally you're including
major areas such as
family, health,
relationships, free time,
spirituality.
You see, you pretty much include
everything.
So on the one hand,
it's specific enough to cover all
areas of your life, yet broad enough
so that you don't limit yourself.
Another key factor of the phrase,
what has to have happened in your
life both personally and
professionally, allows us
to list both positive
and negative things.
As an example, you can say, "In
three years from now, I will no
longer have to sit in traffic in
rush hour." That would be negative.
You can say, "I don't have to deal
with annoying coworkers anymore."
That would be negative.
"I have a million dollars in my
bank account" that would be
positive.
"And I don't have to worry about
paying bills anymore." that would
be negative. You see, sometimes it's
easier to say what we don't want
than what we do want.
Now the good news, once you list
all the things that you don't want,
the opposite is what you
want. Example,
"I don't want to sit in traffic"
becomes "I will work from home."
See, that's why the first assignment
in my Challenge "Design Your Ideal
Life and Make It A Reality"
is to write a list of all the things
you do not want to do.
If you're interested in taking the
Challenge, you can do it.
I highly recommend it, I put a link
in the description below.
Now let's move on to the next
important phrase in this question.
"To feel happy." You see this part
of the question taps into the most
basic and powerful human need -
feeling happy.
We all strive for happiness.
Nobody in this world is looking for
misery. And as you can
see, this question does
not say to feel
successful.
As you know, there are many
successful people who are unhappy.
In order to design a life worth
living design a life that makes you
happy.
If having 10 million dollars in your
bank account makes you happy, that's
covered.
If feeding a hundred thousand kids
in Africa makes you happy,
that's covered.
And if spending every minute of the
day with your family and friends
makes you happy, that's covered too.
Asking for what makes you happy
allows you to insert
anything into your answer
and not only money.
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Now let's move on to the next
important part of this question.
"With your progress."
Notice the question does not ask
what would make you feel happy?
Because it asks what would make you
feel happy with your progress?
By asking about the progress
it allows us to create an
intermediate step.
It means that we don't need to be
"done" in three years.
It means that we get to the next
level in three years.
And then we can take another three
years to get to another level.
Here's a personal example.
When I quit my six-figure job at
IBM, my first goal was
to have one million dollars in my
account. After I achieved that goal,
I set the next goal to have a net
worth of 10 million dollars.
And right now my
goal is to achieve a net worth
of a hundred million dollars.
However, if I would have set a goal
to go from thirty thousand
dollars in my bank account to a
hundred million dollars in net worth
in three years, I would
have been very unrealistic.
But to go from thirty thousand
dollars to a million dollars in
three years is very realistic.
And you know what they say.
The first million is the most
difficult. Therefore, setting a goal
to go from 1 million to 10 million
in 3 years is very
realistic too.
And once you learn how to achieve a
net worth of 10 million dollars
it's very realistic to target a net
worth of a hundred million in
three years.
Now you can see, this question
is one of the most important
questions to ask yourself.
Now there are two more
and I will cover them in another
video. For now, grab a pen
and paper and start answering the
question. I'll repeat it again.
Here it is.
"If we were having this conversation
three years from now, and
you were looking back over these
three years, what has
to have happened in your life, both
personally and professionally,
for you to feel happy with your
progress? Now, if you want, post
the answer in the comments, I can't
wait to read about it.
And I'll be back soon with part two
of the most important questions
to ask yourself.
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