You know I've always wanted to be a dad. I knew at some point I was going to get
married, I was going to have kids. And you know, I got exposure to realize that some
kids have crappy childhood, some have great childhoods. And that doesn't always
have the bearing on who the person is going to become. But I asked myself, "What
would happen if I dared to be a great father?" what would happen if I tried to
teach my children everything I have learned about life and wealth and love
and relationships. What if I could do everything in my power to help them have
an extraordinary childhood? Listen, we could sit and talk all day about the
mistakes I make as a father. Because I make them. I was just on a hike with my
daughter the other day and and right now I'm trying out this thing every week
called date with dad. And it's an opportunity for me to select one of my
children and just have some alone time with them. And one of the questions
that'll ask him is, "Hey, where do you think I'm falling short? Where do you
think mom and I are messing up? What are the things that you see us doing that
you'd like to see improved?" Now, that takes a certain level of vulnerability
for an adult to talk to their child and admit that they're wrong.
But the reality is I do make mistakes. In fact, I've never been a dad before so I'm
having a learning experience. I hope that I become a better father with time. But
if you are going to grade me on effort then yeah, I think I'm a pretty dang good
awesome dad. Because I'm willing to take a look at the faults and the things I do
wrong. But more importantly, do you know what I
think the secret is to being a good parent in our day and age. I think it
comes down to time, right? How you use that time? Well, that's up to you but
being there for your kids, spending time with them. You know, kids when they're
young before they become teenagers, they idolize you. And they want to learn
everything they can and they want to be like you. The one thing that they really
want and yearn for is time. They want to be acknowledged by you, they want to be
recognized by you, they want to be tickled and chased by you, they want to
laugh with you, they want to learn from you, they want all of that. And so, I think
one of the first things is how much time you're putting into being a parent? If
you... If you've if you've got offspring, then what does your intentional plan
look like for the childhood that you want to create
for them. So, I think time is a function. Then number 2 is what do you want them
to learn? I mean the reality is society has school set up for them, right? You put
them in public school and everything they're going to learn has already been
decided. But how are you going to customize that education? What do you have to offer
your children that you're the best one and most equipped to teach them? You know
I decided early on that I wanted to be a Renaissance man.
And that meant for me to have a level of balance where I could produce results in
the financial world. I could produce results in my health and
body, I could produce results in my relationships and that in my personal
life, that I would have a level of confidence. Not from ego but from
self-acceptance and a self-love of Who I am.
And I've built my life on this concept. I want you to be thinking what's your
concept of what you wanna be teaching your kids. Those are my four. And the only
way I can teach my kids most importantly is by example. It's not the
lessons and the lectures. It's what they see. So, for example one of the things
that's important to me is I don't want my children to have to struggle with
obesity. So, instead of teaching them to eat healthy food, instead I just go to
the gym and I make sure they can see that and I eat healthy and then I
provide the house with healthy food. That example, I believe is so much more
meaningful than anything you'll ever teach them. Because really they're
looking for hypocrisy. They'll believe you when they see none and they'll
believe you way less when they see hypocrisy. You want to improve your
relationships or your money then fix it. Put time effort and energy into it. And
show them. Let them actually witness what that looks like. I think that if they can
observe that from example that I think the most powerful lessons will actually
come from that. And I think the third thing that I'd share is dare to be your
best. You're going to screw up, you're going to mess up. We all are. But have you put it
out there that you want to be the best dad possible? Have you put it out there
that you want to just rock their childhood by providing exceptional and
extraordinary experiences? Taking the time to to give them and invest into
them? Help them with their hobbies and their sports? Don't just be the person
that says, "Schools been provided a house has been provided. Hobbies have been
provided." Be there in their life and dare to be
the greatest parent, the greatest dad, the greatest mom that you possibly can.
That's my intention. I tell my kids, "I am the best dad on this planet." And I felt
that quite often. But it gives me something to look up to and to keep
striving for. Comment below on what you do to be an awesome parent. I would love
to see a collection of your ideas of where you know you are rocking it and
you are an all-star mom or dad. Put that out there would love to see that. Make
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