Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on toxic women why even Christians
aren't safe. Serious question for you: what is the difference between a man who
feels like there are no good women left, who has only ever been hurt by women, and
who really feels like all relationships are one-sided, versus the guy who knows
good women exists because he has one of them, he has his ideal girlfriend? The man
who is holding his dream girl instead of aching is the man who's aware of these
very important myths and does not believe them. So if you are sick of bad
relationships and sick of being hurt and sick of one-sided relationships then pay
very close attention because I'm going to be sharing those myths with you and
helping you be be able to get past it so that you can be the guy with your
dream girl. So pay very close attention and make sure you watch to the end.
Before we get started if this is your first time watching be sure to subscribe
and ring that notification bell. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach
for men and my specialty is helping amazing guys get their dream girl and to
stop being rejected and stop feeling embarrassed, stop feeling awkward and
just be a total boss and have the relationship you've always wanted. So be
sure to subscribe, ring that bell, and give me a big thumbs
up. Here's the honest truth guys: I get comments and DMs and emails from you
every day telling me your situation and how you're feeling and what you're going
through and so many of you frankly are heartbroken and you're wondering "wow. Am
I the crazy one? Why is she treating me this way? Am I making this up? Is this a
good relationship? What should I do?" And so often, so often, the whole answer
is that she is a toxic woman. No it's not you, you're not crazy,
it's her. So the purpose of this video is to make you aware of the common
myths that are keeping you in all of this heartache so that you can move past
it and you can be the guy with your dream girl. So that you can be the
guy with the girl who treats you right. Sound good? Let's dive in. Myth number one.
And guys this may be the biggest myth of all of them. And that is that she's a
believer so she's not toxic. Wrong. 100% wrong. Anyone can say they are a believer.
And the truth is toxic women prey on good Christian men. They just do. Why?
Because you're awesome and you're nice and you'll let her get away with
whatever it is she wants to do. A couple of stories to illustrate: one, I had a man
reach out to me absolutely heartbroken, asking me to please share his story with
all of you. He met a woman, she seemed awesome, he was so in love, they went to
church every week, everything seemed fine. Now here he is 25 years later, he has
been miserable his entire married life because he married a toxic woman. She
looked like she was the perfect believer, the perfect Christian woman. She did that
just long enough to get him and she is a narcissist who was belittled him and
criticized him and been terribly unkind to him his entire married life. He is in
an unequally yoked relationship. Yeah she is "a believer" but he's never been more
miserable and more hurt. Another man I know he served a two-year mission for
church. Came home, met a girl that man she made his heart sing, he just thought she
was amazing, went to church every week, read her scriptures, all the things
she's supposed to do. And he has been miserable his entire married life. He's
one of the most miserable people I know because she's a toxic woman, she's
belittling, she's controlling, she's mean, she's unkind, she plays games with him.
The truth is there are women who purposefully find nice guys at church
because they know that they can get away with anything. The truth is this is not
anything new. This is actually biblical. This is why we are told to beware of
wolves in sheep's clothing. People who look like
believers but they're not. This is why we're told not to cast our pearls before
swine. Don't give your heart to someone who doesn't really care about your heart
and doesn't want to give back to you. It's all about ego and control. If you
watched in this video we did talk about this there as well. Be sure to check out
the links in description below for that and it will help you with this a ton as
well. Bottom line: yeah there are unfortunately,
it's sad, it's tragic, it shouldn't happen, but there are women who are "believers"
but in reality they're just toxic women. So saying "well we met at church" or "we're
both Christian" that is not a fix-all. That does not mean that it's all going
to be okay. It's very very important to make sure
she's not a toxic woman. Is this making sense so far? Myth number two is that
toxic people do not even exist. That is another massive myth, a massive lie. In
reality research shows that almost half of people who are in a relationship are
in a bad relationship, they're in a toxic relationship. And the truth is that is
just heartbreaking. So let's just think about this really logically and take a very
logical approach. Do you remember the bullies in school? And maybe you even
have some bullies at work or in your life now as an adult. Do you remember how
they would lie and how they make some people think they're the nicest person
ever just to get away with things? Like all the teachers thought they were super
cool but in reality all the kids knew they were jerks? Or how they would
pretend to be really nice to someone so that they could just embarrass them and
mortify them? Guys that's still going on as adults. This is why I call toxic
people adults bullies. That's all they are. Yes we grew up, we
moved on, and we think that because we grew up everybody else did too. The truth
is so many people just stayed bullies. As a matter of fact they became even bigger
bullies as adults. So yeah the sad reality is there are toxic people in
this world and if you're not aware of them they take advantage of you because
they are looking for the people who are not aware of them because those are the
people they can use. Quick question for you. Have you ever
known people like this? Have you maybe even dated people like this? If you
have let me know in the comments. I want to hear about it. And if you'd like more
videos on toxic women and toxic girlfriends and how to make sure you
have a better relationship be sure to comment "TOXIC" in the comments below so I
know to do that for you. I also wanted to mention if you are sick of being hurt
and sick of one-sided relationships, sick of being cheated on and bad
relationships be sure to check out my program Bad Relationships: Be Free
Forever. Guys the truth is I used to have tons of toxic people around me and I
took everything I wish I would have known about toxic people and put it
together in this program. Everything I have learned about sidestepping these
relationships and walking away from the heartache and repelling toxic people and
instead attracting healthy and good people into your life, all of that is in
this course so that you can finally stop experiencing all this heartache. If you
act now I'm actually giving away three paid lessons totally for free so you can
test drive the course. No credit card required. Kind of get a sneak peek at the
material and how much it can help you. So check out the link in the description
below to sign up for that. There's also a link in the pin to comment below.
Seriously if you are sick of bad relationships then what are you waiting
for? Honestly it is so freeing to finally be able to move past that. If
you are struggling feeling like there are any good women left what your
problem is is you are attracting toxic women. And it's time for you to finally
be free of that and finally know how to stop attracting toxic women. So check
out that link. Again there's one a link in the description and a link in the
pinned comments. It will change your life forever. Myth number three is that she's
God's daughter so I just need to love her, right?
Well yeah you can love someone and still set boundaries though. Jesus is actually
the perfect example of setting boundaries guys. So often as Christians
all we focus on is "well Jesus said love everyone." and he did. But have you ever
noticed that he set some serious boundaries? Jesus still sets boundaries.
"If you keep my Commandments then you can live with me again. If you don't you
can't." Guys he cleansed the temple. And as you read the New Testament he was always
telling those, the Pharisees and the
Sadducees and those who were against him, he was always very assertive with them
and he always set boundaries with them. The fact is if it's good enough for
Jesus it's good enough for us, right? And so it's 100 percent okay and appropriate
and critical for us to set boundaries. The fact is doesn't God loves you too? Of
course he loves you too. So why in the world would he want you to purposefully
put yourself in a situation where you are continuing to be hurt? The truth is
if it's hurting you it's not helping her. It's just not.
That's not how it works. Do you really think God wants your children to be
raised by a woman like that? I mean really. One of the things I do teach my
clients in my program Bad Relationships: Be Free Forever is that
it's important to, yeah you never want to judge a person, but you do have to judge
the situation, you do have to judge how it is affecting you. For instance, let's
pretend you're walking home late at night and somebody starts screaming at
you very threatening things and starts running towards you with a weapon. You're
gonna like run away and call the police, right? Obviously. Did you just judge that
person? No. You didn't judge the person at all. You didn't have time to judge
the person you were too busy running, right? But you did judge the situation.
You said "wow this is hurting me. There's a huge potential here for me to be
seriously hurt." Which is what toxic people do to us too,
right? And you said "I'm done. I'm not going into this situation. I'm getting as
far away from the situation as I can." and you took the necessary steps to avoid
being hurt. So what you did is you judged the situation. So yeah don't judge people
but judge the situation. If it's hurting you then it's your obligation to avoid
it. Myth number four is "if she's toxic then I would never feel awesome when I'm
around her, right?" Wrong. Toxic people would never ever have anyone pay any
attention to them if they always showed their true colors. Toxic people are
entirely driven by ego and pride and vanity. And so it's all a big
game to them. And so they purposefully are sweet and as nice and as
charming as they possibly can be to get your attention and to keep you around.
Which is why so often they'll be the coolest person in the world and then all
of a sudden things like don't add up and maybe she makes you feel really bad
and things kind of start falling apart so you start to pull away and then
she becomes the nicest person in the world again and she just cares about you
so much. This is the game they play. They know if they show their true colors
all the time you wouldn't waste another second on them. So they're as charming and
flashy as they can be to keep you around forever. And then they like to see how
far they can push you and they start showing their true colors, they start
being unkind, they start playing games with you, only until they see that that's
not going to work anymore and then they're just super charming and super
flashy all over again. So I have so many of you say "but I love her for the good
times" or "sometimes she's so amazing to me." Guys that is so normal. That is 100%
normal. As a matter of fact anyone who's ever been in a bad relationship and a
toxic relationship knows that feeling. That is the game they play. But that's
not who they really are. Because again it's a game they play, not who they
really are. If she legitimately cared about you she would treat you with
respect because you're an amazing person and you deserve someone who's going to
treat you well. And if she's not doing that all the time then does she really
care about you? Another thing I teach in my in my program Bad Relationships: Be
Free Forever is ask yourself "how do I feel around this person? How do I feel
before I see them and how do I feel after I see them?" Do you feel anxious? Do you
feel nervous? Do you feel like maybe you're not good enough? Does your
self-esteem struggle? And I mean overall, not just like "oh well today it was
amazing." No. Overall how do you feel when you're with this person, when you're
around this person? How do you feel about yourself and about the world? A really
important question to ask yourself is if the
rest or your life was just like it is right now and you felt just like you feel
right now would you want it to stay that way? Because research actually shows that
it almost always gets a million times worse, not better. So if you don't like
where your life is right now, if you don't feel like you have her complete
devotion, if you don't feel like she treats you right, if you feel like it's
one-sided, if you feel exhausted, if you feel discouraged, then why would you want
stay there? To sum up if you are struggling to find your ideal woman
these myths and not believing these myths anymore are half your battle. If
you feel that good women do not exist and that only bad relationships exist
your problem is that you are attracting toxic women. You are a magnet for toxic
women. This is what's bringing in all that heartache and all of that pain. And
the truth is you deserve better than that. This is again why I created my
program Bad Relationships: Be Free Forever so that you can turn it around
so that you can be free from these bad relationships and instead be the guy
with your dream girlfriend instead of the guy who's surrounded by bad
relationships and who always has a one-sided relationship instead of a
loving, happy, healthy relationship. So again seriously guys if you are
struggling with this you need to check out my program. There's linked in the
description below or in the pinned comment. Honestly what are you waiting
for? You deserve to finally get past this
because there are good women everywhere you just have to learn how to attract
the good women instead of the toxic women. So check out that link like right
now. Thank you so much for watching my amazing friend! If you haven't yet
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hear about it. And do you want more videos about toxic women and bad
relationships and how to avoid them? If you do be sure to let me know in the
comments below. Do you have a friend who is struggling
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for that in the description below as well. Thank you so much again my amazing
friend and have an amazing day. [blooper beep]
The man who is holding his dream girl- [pause] What? [laughter]
And feeling hurt and being cheated on and being- What? Think about it for a second.
Let's just be- I keep hitting the- Now I can't do it. Whoa, that was heavy. Shake it off.