﻿Are you upset with your boyfriend, who has made you wonder about his commitment
level towards you ? You probably feel confused and do not know what to do,
should you either move on or continue hope for the best.
Hi guys! Welcome back to Lifesolver. in Today's video will answer exactly
these nagging thoughts and teach you how to make a man commit to you. And stick around
as we are going to share 8 great tips. So maybe you're not exactly a proper couple.
You are, however, more than friends. And instead of building a future with you,
your partner wants to maintain it in its current way. Whereas you want to take your
relationship to the next level, but he isn't ready. He also doesn't want to let you go.
You're locked in a dead-end relationship with only two options for getting out...
Either he will commit to you and begin moving toward something greater
or leave you to go, allowing you to discover that future with someone else.
He Won't Commit But Won't Let Go For These Reasons.
Let's try to find out what's going on inside his thoughts,
causing him to leave you in limbo. Here are a few plausible explanations for
his unwillingness to commit. He's taking advantage of you.
Consider his treatment of you. Are you his girlfriend? Is he treating you like a girlfriend,
or does he show up when convenient for him and leave you waiting for his call?
He may not treat you badly, but he refuses to let go because he wants to continue sleeping
with you. He could be using you for reasons other than physical touch. He might like
your company and the various benefits you provide without wanting to commit to you.
Simply put, your current relationship is convenient for him at the moment, but he does
not want to be with you in the future. He's not the sort to commit.
Have you discussed marriage and children yet? Perhaps your partner doesn't want to
get married or consider starting a family at this point in his life.
Maybe he's not the sort to commit. Some folks desire to remain unmarried for as
long as possible. He may have feelings for you but is unwilling to commit, at least for now.
While it's tempting to believe he'll get there someday, you need to know when to
give up. Remind yourself that some people do not believe in marriage and do not desire a committed
relationship. One of those folks may be him. Perhaps your guy will marry someday,
but not to you. He probably doesn't want to marry you if you've been together for a long time,
and he can't give you a clear response to whether he could see himself marrying you one day.
He's probably not going to marry anyone anytime soon if he avoids the topic of
marriage in general. So, consider whether serious commitment with
the man you're dating is even possible. He doesn't approve of something you do.
Perhaps something about you makes your partner reluctant to marry you.
It's less likely than the other possibilities, but it's still a possibility, so discuss it with him.
Maybe you call him when he doesn't answer your texts immediately or blow up his phone when he
goes out with his pals. Even if you don't think you've done anything to make him feel smothered
in the relationship, he may be feeling like he won't be able to breathe if he commits to you.
Perhaps you grumble when he wants to spend time with his buddies, or you've inquired about a woman
whose instagram photos he likes. It's possible that the way you've been acting could be viewed
as possessive and needy, which is why he won't commit to you. Consider it from his point of view:
if you've been restricting his freedom even before he's committed to you,
how will things be if he does? Let’s talk about 8 Ways To Make Him
Commit To You Or To Let You Go Whatever the reasons are for your
boyfriend's unwillingness to commit to you, there are things you can do to convince him
that he has no choice but to stay with you. The first thing you notice is that you
understand it's his only option. If you want to be someone's wife or a
serious long-term girlfriend, don't settle. There's nothing wrong with staying where you
are now, but only as long as you're both comfortable with it, which you aren't.
So, if you want to build a future with someone, change your existing circumstances
by forcing your partner to choose between staying with him and quitting your current relationship.
Have an open and honest discussion. Before you do anything else, speak with
your parnter, especially if you're still unsure about his reasons for refusing to commit.
If you're already in a relationship, discuss your plans for the future
and let him know you want to take things further. Whether you're not in a serious relationship
right now, check if there's a chance you will be soon. If he avoids the topic at all costs,
you already know everything you need to know. On the other side, perhaps the two of you might
work together to find a solution that works for you. That will almost certainly entail addressing
his problems, whatever they may be. Examine yourself to see if there
is anything you could do better. Change your conduct if you've been behaving
needy and possessive or if your behavior could be interpreted that way from his perspective.
Please don't call or text him as frequently when he's gone from you.
Encourage him to spend time with his friends and participate in his activities,
particularly if you've been moaning about how much time he spends away from you.
Regardless of the scenario, it would help if you strived to improve yourself. Work on it and focus
on yourself for a while if you think you could develop as a person and a partner in any way.
Keep yourself busy by adding other things to your life besides the relationship.
Assure him that he will not lose his independence.
When you chat to him about committing, assure him that he will retain his
independence and freedom. Your partner may be concerned
that if he commits to you, he won't be able to have a life outside of the relationship.
Assign him that you're not trying to catch him and that he may continue doing whatever he's doing
now, except date other people. If that doesn't intimidate him, you can move on to the next step.
Establish boundaries. Every good relationship,
including yours, demands limits. Make it crystal clear what you will and will not tolerate.
If you don't want your boyfriend to come over in the middle of the night and leave early the next
morning, you should say so and cease permitting it. Alternatively, you could insist on going on a
real date once in a while rather than continually agreeing to see him at his or your place.
Most importantly, you should avoid doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Make a request to him. Nobody likes ultimatums,
and they aren't always successful. But there are instances when there are no other options.
Either he commits to you, or you walk away. It's all you can do in the end if you desire
commitment. It could have a variety of outcomes. He might agree to devote his entire life to you.
Alternatively, you may be forced to leave. Or he may meet you halfway
and commit to the relationship by introducing you to his friends if he hasn't already or organizing
a vacation with you. He might also let you walk away and then try to woo you back.
If he offers to make a compromise, be receptive to it, but don't let whatever progress he makes slide
away, leaving you where you are now. Leave the space
If he doesn't want to commit to you, he'll likely let you go away
after the request, so be prepared. He can still contact you after that,
but he'll most likely let you go to see if you're genuine. You can't just threaten to
leave to make someone know you're serious; you must depart to show that you're serious.
You must take it seriously and be prepared to end the relationship.
If he contacts you later, you can work things out, but don't walk away only to make him pursue you.
Leave something you don't want to pursue, something you do,
whether it's with him or with someone else. Remain firm in your decision.
Don't settle for someone who can't provide you with a committed relationship if that's
what you want. This is why it is critical to be prepared to walk away.
You can't wait for him forever if you can't work things out through conversation, and he won't take
a step forward and prove he'll be ready one day. If you're unhappy with the way things are,
stick to your resolve to quit the relationship. He'll still have your
phone number and understand that you want to be in a long-term relationship with him.
Don't let him charm his way back if he doesn't commit.
Even if he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship, a guy can still cling to you.
Who says he doesn't want to have a causal relationship with you?
So, even if he has no intention of having a committed relationship,
he might try to get you back. Allow him to take you back to where you were.
If he truly wants to be with you, he must commit to you or at least make work toward it.
Focus on yourself and your life until it happens. If you don't hear from him after a while, prepare
to look for someone with whom you can build a future. Someone willing to commit to you and
form a lasting connection. I hope this helps you, let us know in the comments if it's good advice.
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