- In this video,
I'm gonna show you the number one polarity secret
to you embodying either the feminine energy
so that you can attract the masculine,
or the masculine energy so that you can attract
the true feminine energy that you desire.
This is what changed everything for me.
And this is the missing key for so many people
especially people that are on the spiritual path
of awakening.
Now, the first thing I'll say
about this is that intention,
intention,
when you are intending to attract love,
you're intending to attract a feminine
or a masculine partner.
I want you to look at that word intention,
because intention has the words in it in intention
and there lies the secret to true magnetic energy.
The answer is tension,
it's tension.
When you see, let's say you see something that sexually
is attractive to you,
it creates tension inside of your body.
Imagine somebody that is assertive,
someone that's really in their masculine frame,
should be leading.
That person should be directional.
Imagine they go up to somebody.
Normally the masculine will go up to the feminine
and will maybe ask the feminine out
or maybe show desire for the feminine and lead the feminine.
If that is the case,
what happens is that creates tension inside of the feminine.
At the same time, it may create
and it may have the masculine feel a level
of tension to even go do that.
And that is because that tension shows
and reveals vulnerability.
It reveals desire.
Now lemme share with you a little bit
of where I was to where I am now
and how that completely changed
and why tension completely changed my own level
of being in my own masculinity,
and why I think also that this is the most common problem
or challenge within spiritual community.
So first off, the way that I used to be is it was very hard
for me to set boundaries.
I was very hard for me to show interest in someone
that I was dating, because I wouldn't want to be rejected.
So what I would do is I would like,
I'd like someone I'd hang out with them as a friend.
And there were many times I can look back
and see that there were like
why isn't this guy making a move on me?
Why isn't this guy showing that he's attracted to me?
Sometimes they would then think
that maybe I just wasn't interested.
And it was because I was afraid to show my actual intent
of wanting to get to know them or to go out with them.
And because I wasn't showing that,
it would then put me into what is called
the friend zone.
This is a very common of people that are people pleasers
or nice guys.
They get put into the friend zone
because they aren't being vulnerable.
They wanna be nice
and they wanna be nice means they're also manipulative.
It's I'm gonna be nice to you
and you're gonna gimme validation approval
or you're gonna feel good.
You're not gonna feel any tension at all, no tension here.
And what happens is because there's no tension,
there's no sexual attraction.
Tension is when you give the ability for someone to decide
how they feel about you.
When you put yourself out there vulnerably,
that creates tension because yes, you could get rejected.
However, when you put yourself out there like that,
and you are vulnerable,
it opens up something inside other people.
So I went from it being very challenging
for me to express myself in that way.
For me also,
it was hard for me to express what I really wanted to do.
Cause I tuned my own frame to whoever I was dating.
So when it comes to going to restaurants, it's like,
"Well, what do they wanna do?"
I only wanna do what they wanna do.
I don't even know who I am or what I want.
And then it was very hard
or challenging for me to lead the feminine
because I was so much tuning to them.
And what this would lead to is this would lead
to me being with people that a lot of times
would not feel safe.
The feminine would not still safe
because I was not leading.
I was not in my own masculine energy.
I was not providing that tension.
That healthy tension that creates that level of attraction.
It's funny, there's a guy named Andrew Tate.
I dunno if you've seen this guy, but super interesting guy.
He's all over YouTube, but he has this.
I wanted to eventually break
down this video where he's talking about he's super...
A lot of his perspectives are super toxic,
but there's some level of truth in some of the things
he says, lemme say that again.
There's a little bit of truth.
And some of the things he says, I'm not,
cause he is very toxic, but one of the things he's saying,
he's like the feminine or he is this woman.
He's like, "Woman, they need drama.
You have to constantly give your girl drama.
You have to constantly give your girl drama
because what she's gonna do, she's gonna go home at night
and she's gonna watch serial killer documentaries
just so she can relax so that she could fall asleep."
All right.
He has this bit where he says that.
And basically what this guy's stick
is by the way is he says the most polarizing shit
that triggers so many people
and then everyone shares his content.
So that's how he gets views. Awareness.
But one of the things that's interesting
about that is in a weird way.
If women do not find tension, not in a toxic way,
that is a toxic perspective on it that you have to give
your woman drama in order for them to stick around.
Which is the toxic part where a lot of times
as well that's where the woman
or the feminine may have had toxic energy
when she was a kid, when she was a child
and that feels familiar, that feels normal.
So then she'll stick around a guy that's also toxic.
So that plays on a very different node
of what I'm talking about here.
But in general, some of it is somewhat true
where people will find tension in their life.
They will find things in their life
that either feel familiar from childhood.
So a lot of this is becoming aware of those triggers,
but also if they find sometimes
that they find a very feminine person,
they may try to create that tension in some way.
So, well, what is a healthy way of that tension?
Well, when you are embodying the energy
that you came here to embody.
So for me as a masculine
that means that means directionality.
That means I'm going in a certain direction.
And I am focused on that.
Normally masculine as well
as focused on one thing at a time,
whereas the feminine could focus on many things at a time,
but one of the parts of this is I have a vision
for something I'm creating in my life.
I'm going in that direction.
My purpose is very important to me.
And because I'm on that path that is attractive
to the feminine.
Now at the same time,
there is energy that has to do with being masculine,
which means being solid,
being solid where my energy does not wave based
on the feminine,
the feminine, what some people call the feminine storm.
But it's the feminine energy can be a little bit chaotic,
because the feminine energy is more based on emotion.
So it kind of changes based on the emotion.
It feels, now if the masculine begins to move,
let's say every time, which is what I used to do,
the feminine would maybe feel a certain way.
I would then tune.
So let's say this is the feminine orbiting.
This is the way my shadow work coach explains it.
Masculine energy is supposed to be like a rock.
Feminine energy is orbiting the masculine.
All right.
And what happens is if the feminine pulls away
a little bit, maybe feel in a certain way pulls away.
And then the masculine comes up like this.
It's then changing the orbit
and then it causes the feminine to go into this crazy orbit
because the feminine wants to feel safe.
And the way it feels safe
is through consistency and integrity.
And then it can move away a little bit.
And the masculine doesn't go chase.
The masculine stays so that it's okay.
So then it allows it to come closer.
Now neediness, codependency is when the masculine
is constantly changing to chase the feminine
and what you wanna do.
And one of the most powerful things to do when we're talking
about tension is to have something that you stand for,
to be focused on your purpose,
to be focused on your own level of integrity,
to showing your own vulnerability,
because then you don't waiver as much.
You're not dependent as much.
You're not codependent
on what someone else is thinking or doing.
Now one of the biggest problems is that nice guys
and people pleasers,
they have an identity that says I am a nice guy.
I am a people pleaser.
I must please other people.
This normally by the way, comes from childhood.
Because as a child, you had to please your parent,
your love, the love for you is conditional.
And you had to constantly prove yourself,
to prove you're good enough, to prove that you are enough.
And in order that,
you would attract people that maybe didn't approve of you
or didn't give you that love unconditionally,
so that you could fight for it to show that you are worthy,
because you're trying to close the loop from childhood.
Really what this is by the way is as a kid
you decided it's not safe for being me to just be me.
I'm not worthy the way I am.
So I'm gonna abandon my myself to make other people happy.
So then you moved your own center of gravity
and you started trying to make everyone else happy.
The challenge is that then you're not solid in who you are.
You're not living to your own integrity
and you're chasing validation and approval.
And the challenge with that is that then tension,
you're avoiding tension.
Tension is you being the real you,
tension is you expressing
and not holding back your true perspectives.
Tension is when you set boundaries
with somebody else when there's something
that you don't wanna do
but somebody else wants you to do it.
It may require tension to express
that you don't wanna do it.
But when you understand your true sense of value
and your true sense of worthiness,
you won't do shit you don't want to do,
because you will value yourself more
than the older version of you.
You will value yourself more than to abandon yourself.
And it is attractive
for you to be in your own center of gravity.
It is attractive for you to love yourself.
It is attractive for you to set boundaries,
because it literally is showing the world
that you value you.
And when you aren't abandoning yourself,
I promise you, other people won't wanna abandon you.
It's not a guarantee, but it is much more likely
that when you're not abandoning yourself,
they won't abandon you
and you won't be dependent on them, abandoning you.
And that makes it even more powerful.
You can't really...
Someone else can't really abandon you by the way,
unless you agree and you abandon your yourself.
You can't really like rejection isn't really rejection,
unless you internalize it.
There's power that comes with going
and leading in detention.
And one of the biggest challenges I see
with spiritual people is they avoid tension.
They avoid tension.
They don't want other people to disapprove of them.
They don't want wrestle the feathers too much
but that leads them, not creating their dream life.
That leads to them not asking the guy or girl out,
because I wanna avoid tension.
I wanna avoid being rejected or being abandoned,
but success in dating, success in following your purpose,
it will require you to lean into tension.
When you become comfortable going into tension,
you will feel way more confident.
There was a part of me,
recently I had to send a voice note to somebody
that I was kind of avoiding,
something I had to express.
And the old version
of me would've waited a long time
to do that because I didn't wanna wrestle the feathers.
I didn't want them to feel disapproved.
I didn't want them to feel bad.
But then I said, you know what?
Screw it.
Now I'm in a pattern to where there's something
I don't wanna do.
I just do it.
I said a voice note immediately.
And it was in my mind, I was like,
"Oh, this person's gonna feel this way."
They were super, they were super happy
that I actually said that.
And people will respect you more.
You talking about attraction and sexual attraction.
People do not respect people that abandon themselves.
People do not respect people that aren't being real.
That aren't being vulnerable.
You being real, you being vulnerable
you think is gonna cause you rejection.
It's gonna cause people not to like you
or it's gonna cause people's disapproval.
When you approve of yourself,
that's when you don't need other people's approval.
That's when you're not seeking it.
When you don't seek it, you get it.
It's fricking crazy.
When you don't seek someone else's validation or approval,
you will naturally get approval
and validation because you don't need it.
You're not needing that energy.
You're giving it to yourself.
You're more so being present to the moment.
Present moment energy is attractive, when you're having fun.
That is attractive.
When you want to try to manipulate the environment
to give you what you want.
You want people to think of you as attractive and sexy.
You want people to respect you.
You want all these things.
That's outcome focused.
I'm going to be this way to get that response
instead be you, live according to your own integrity,
validate yourself by understanding that validation
does not come from outside sources.
You validate yourself by being yourself,
by making the choice to be vulnerable,
by setting boundaries with other people,
by saying yes to what the hell you wanna do,
by saying no to what you don't wanna do.
And by not abandoning yourself any longer,
these are always that completely create sexual attraction
and the gender that you are preferring.
But in order to attract a feminine person
or a masculine person,
you have to be in the opposite energy to create polarity.
So feminine energy,
that means more so be nurturing, be in your flow.
You don't have to have a regimented schedule.
You can focus more on being in your body,
on feeling, on being in your emotions.
And as you do that you are more likely
to attract masculine energy.
You need to be carefree.
The masculine needs to be directional on their purpose.
Clear, needs to express what they really want.
If you have someone you're attracted to say,
listen, I'm attracted to you.
You don't have to say it like that.
Say, "Hey girl, what's your sign?"
Whatever the hell you say,
but what you wanna do is you wanna be clear.
I remember when I'd started doing this,
I'm telling you it changed everything.
And I've seen this in my communities, in my groups,
in my 21 day challenges.
When people start living according to this principle,
it changes everything.
Lean into tension, get into the unknown
and watch how much magic begins to transform into your life.
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