In many of my videos I've mentioned that both men and women have masculine and feminine
energy at the same time.
But then, how can we unlock BOTH potentials inside us?
Well, here you will find out how this polarity works, and how can you unleash the power of
both within you.
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First of all, there is one concept that we have to put aside, that is gender.
We are NOT gonna think about masculine and feminine in terms of gender, but more in terms
of polarity.
You can think of a magnet, that has two poles, and it would be a nice representation of any
human being.
But I always prefer a symbol that I've mentioned a couple times, and it's the Yin and Yang.
And the beauty of the Yin and Yang is that it can represent both one person, with both
polarities in a constant, dynamic flow, and it can also represent a couple.
If there is any word that can help us in this journey, it is "complement".
This is regardless of how is your preference about what makes a man masculine, and what
makes a woman feminine.
Because that external manifestation, in many ways, would be a direct result of how these
two polarities function inside the person.
Now, in order to understand how masculine and feminine energies work together, we have
to go beyond our magnet model.
It would be much easier if we think of the evolution of a city.
Imagine a city that starts like a small settlement.
Just a tribe of twenty to thirty families that decide to settle on a valley, just beside
a river.
Now, let's fast forward three hundred years, and let's imagine that you've got a full city
with millions living and thriving in the same expanded spot that the original tribe settled.
You can guess that in order to reach that developed state, there had to be at least
two forces cooperating to make it sustainable.
Let's call these two forces Expansion and Development.
Our small tribe started small, but as time went by it needed more resources to thrive.
So, its members either expanded their geographical domain, or made better use of the resources
that were within reach.
Ideally, you would need a balance between both strategies, or energies.
This is when we make a connection to our masculine and feminine polarities.
Expansion is the best representation we can have of the masculine polarity, and development
is the best one that we have for the feminine one.
In fact, it would be easy to imagine the men of the tribe focused on exploring and expanding
the boundaries, while the women make sure to focus on development of the families and
the best use of resources.
Let's go one step further and let's introduce conflict.
If the exploring men stumbled upon a wild beast, there was no negotiation to be made.
They had to use force.
Meanwhile, if the women found conflict back at the settlement, between the members of
the tribe, they would make sure to solve them with negotiation.
I know this sounds rather simplistic, but bear with me on this.
This is the best way to picture how we arrived at the first masculine and feminine traits
that are hardwired into men and women.
Men are explorers, adventurers, and we tend to solve problems with force.
Women, on the other hand, focus on nurturing relationships, and tend to solve problems
with negotiation.
Now, let's think of the masculine and feminine polarity again, and remember that inside us,
we have access to both energies.
And there is a great example of how one gender can exploit their 'opposite' polarity.
Maybe you saw the movie The Wolf Of Wall Street, where Jordan Belfort was a very aggressive
con man, whose priority was making money.
That being so driven to make money, to grow financially, sounds a lot like our original
tribe, the men that were focused on expansion, and getting more and more territory.
But what's funny is that Belfort got all that money in a way that has to do more with negotiation,
sales and persuasion, than brute force.
And you already know that negotiation and persuasion are feminine energies.
Like the guys at Mad Men, who were all about advertising, focused exclusively on persuasion
through emotions.
So they built that emotional relationship between brands and their customers.
I mean, they were as manly as they could get, but they excelled at channeling the feminine
skill of persuasion.
That's why I told you why it's important to separate the external manifestation of that
unique mix, from our internal balance between the Yin and Yang, between the masculine and
the feminine within us.
Now, your mix between the two energies, my mix and... everyone else's is different.
It could even change as we grow and mature.
But that's our first key to unlock both energies, and it's first and foremost, identifying how
do we react to conflict.
Remember our thriving city, that had two energies.
Expansion and Development.
Let's take that analogy one step further, and we will get two more concepts:
Power and Relationships.
And these two terms differ a lot, just because the achievement of power, power over the elements,
power over the circumstances, is a solitary endeavour.
While relationships, obviously, refer to our gregarious nature.
Of having a group, a family, a circle of trust.
Again, power refers to the masculine and relationships refers to the feminine.
And now it is even harder to imagine any person who doesn't have a mix of both.
But then, we have to face the harsh reality.
Focusing on power will hurt your relationships, and focusing on relationships will hurt your
power.
I don't make the rules.
There is no way around this.
You can opt for a middle ground, maybe you have a very tight circle of family and friends,
and your aspiration for power, for financial growth and achievement is not that ambitious.
That's up to you.
But most probably, you will feel some sort of calling that will not be that middle ground.
And that's when things can get a bit complicated.
Imagine a woman who is not afraid to jeopardize the stability of her relationships, by going
into conflicts head on.
No negotiations.
For example, one of her friends does something that really hurts her, and she decides to
react.
And this woman is not going to negotiate, or nurture, or speak softly.
Nope, she just goes and says what she feels, and she is aware that her friend could easily
walk away from her.
In this case she's prioritizing her power over her circumstances, OVER the relationship
with this person.
She's embracing her masculine polarity when dealing with this conflict, and she's doubling
down on it.
Ironically, this will help her nurture better relationships, because she will have no problem
to openly tell off hypocrites.
So yes, maybe her circle of friends, her circle of trust will be small, but will be a really
tight bond.
Because at the same time, she will value when people openly speak out to her.
Did you see what just happened?
She used her masculine energy and in the end she's improving her feminine polarity.
Her relationships.
It's the same that happened with the example of Mad Men, or The Wolf of Wall Street.
They used their feminine energy so they could fulfill their desire of finacial growth and
power.
Their masculine polarity.
Now, the answer to the question, how can you unleash this power?
How can you know how to use your masculine and feminine energies for your advantage?
Well, the easiest way is to identify how do you usually react to conflict.
Because conflict is what polishes our character, that's when we learn to use the cards that
we were given at birth.
But the problem is that we live in a society that is going to be judging you at every turn.
And if you're a man, you're expected to face conflict head on, testosterone pumping and
everything.
And if you're a woman, you're expected to be more mindful of relationships, family,
friends, neighbors, coworkers, everyone, even if it means to put your mental health at risk.
And that is insane.
You need to have a serious reflection about how you choose to react to conflict.
Because that is all you need to identify your own mix between masculine and feminine polarities.
Maybe you're a man that doesn't like direct conflict and can find other ways to have things
go your way.
Or you're a woman who's tired of all the relationship hypocrisy and red tape, and prefer to be straight
to the point, in a no-nonsense approach.
The only person that has that answer is yourself.
And either way, society is going to judge you no matter what, so you might as well do
things your own way.
You might think that it's a good idea to develop the skills that you don't have.
And that's correct to some point.
Both men and women should be able to use both masculine and feminine energies depending
on the situation.
But first we need to recognize our own, unique mix, and put it to the test.
Because just recognizing our own flow will do wonders with how we deal with our circumstances,
and that will be a big step towards self-knowledge.
If you want to refine your observation skills, all you have to do is download my 100+ body
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My name is Jesús Enrique Rosas and it will always be a pleasure, my body language buddies!
Much Love, and Bliss.