- If you wanna be magnetic,
I have a secret for you.
That's that, you already are magnetic.
It's just that you might be magnetizing
inauthenticity to you.
You might be magnetizing what you don't want
rather than what you do want.
So, when it comes to having magnetic energy
that is very attractive, that literally draws people,
draws things to you,
it's about just understanding that you already are.
It's just about getting in alignment
with who you really are meant to be.
And in this video I'm gonna show you
the three things you must give up
to have magnetic AF energy.
It's not really about what you pile on
but it's what you let go of
that allows this energy to come towards you.
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Welcome back to another video.
My name is Aaron
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now, in this video, I'm gonna be sharing with you
the three things you must let go of,
in order to have energy that is so magnetic
that you attract things to you.
Now, before we do that though,
I just wanna specify, think about a magnet.
A magnet can do something like magnetized,
but it can also if you flip the polarity, it can repel.
And that's not always a bad thing,
I imagine that you will repelling people
that were trying to drain your energy.
Imagine you're repelling narcissists,
do you want to attract narcissists?
Do you want to attract certain types of people
into your life?
The answer is that no,
it's a good thing when you are really being yourself
that some people are polarized away from you.
And one of the ways you do this
is by really getting in alignment
with who you're meant to be and letting go
of all the inauthenticity that may be there
because if we are being authentic
or if we're being not authentic,
we're going to attract other people who are not authentic.
So this is something to really think about.
I realized that in my own life
one thing I've really been shedding
and I have shed this last year
was some inauthentic parts of my personality.
One of them was that back in the day,
like when I was growing up,
the masculine role model I had growing up
was actually my dad
who was and is a like stereotypical nice guy.
Someone's really nice, doesn't go intention.
It's funny I'm here in Sedona right now.
I just got a place here.
I took my dad.
Let me show you guys.
I'm not saying this to brag.
I don't know if you guys could see
that little thing right there, that little ATV.
I brought my dad in that ATV.
And as we were going around the trails here,
anyone we passed that like, let us go,
like, let us go around.
Thank you so much.
It was just so funny.
I'm like, dude,
this is the pattern that I used to have too,
I felt obligated to like, be super nice to everybody
but realize this, being nice isn't bad,
but it's when it's coming from a place
like I want to please other people.
It's maybe not always authentic.
So the nice guy in the people pleaser
is trying to be nice other people
in exchange for validation and support.
But here's the funny thing,
if you have that pattern going on or that program going on,
you'll find that you'll then many times attract narcissists
or people that will take advantage of that
because that's their inauthentic part of it.
So growing up, my dad what attracted my ex step mom,
who is a narcissist,
who is crazy, controlling, manipulative,
was in my life from seven to 16 years old.
And that also, they say that,
parent pleasing is where people pleasing comes from.
So from having to be good enough
was what caused that in the first place
and then that is the one-on-one reflection.
So you actually wanna repel
just as much as you wanna attract
but the way that I've repelled narcissism in my life
is by actually having very strong boundaries
and having and being in my own frame,
being in a strong frame.
Narcissists want everything coming towards their frame,
whereas people pleasers in impasse don't have a frame.
So I'm gonna share with you a trick
and the biggest transformation
that has ever happened in my life
was by applying a little practice that I'll share with you,
I've shared it in a couple of other YouTube videos.
But in general, the main thing that I wanted to share
is that, if you want to really have very magnetic energy
one of the things you need to let go of is needy energy
being needy and being codependent
which is where the people pleaser comes from
which is where the nice guy comes from.
And the way that you do this is you let go of attachment.
Now think about it.
When you were a kid
that's when normally the neediness started,
you needed one of your parents
who may or may not have been there.
And then as you needed them what happens
is then you go into life and then you figure out
that you need someone else in your life to be happy.
You need their validation, you need their support.
And that attachment is what causes you to be needy.
Think about it.
Have you ever liked to someone
and then maybe you started becoming very needy
and you started really wanting their approval
or wanting them to text you back and then you messed it up?
Have you ever had it to
where maybe you were attracted to someone
and then they were needy
and then you were just weren't attracted anymore?
Because the neediness is attachment
and attachment is not attractive.
You think about the stereotypical cool guy,
you see the thing back in like,
I don't know it as in the nineties,
you see like the cool guy with a leather jacket.
He's just chilling, doesn't care about thinking the world
and all the girls in school are attracted to him
because he does not attached.
He's not attached to the outcome.
His cup is already full.
So, the key to this is understanding
that the first thing he must give up is attachment
to either the mother wound or the father wound.
The attachment to either of these things
is keeping that in your life
by you are searching for it in other people.
I realized that back about eight months ago
before I went through a huge transformation
from the simple exercise I'm gonna share with you,
I would make my relationships very important.
I would have it to where the girl that I'm dating,
I would give her a lot
and it was almost coming from this people pleaser mentality
and I wasn't centered in my own frame.
I would, then a lot of times allow the feminine
to then set the frame and I would kind of tune
and kind of like try to change to that.
And that was because growing up the ex step-mom situation
that was such a strong frame, that's how that felt familiar.
But then what I did,
is I started healing that inauthenticity and as I let go,
and I really had to let go and forgive the mother
like the way I related to mother energy and feminine energy,
as I forgave that's when the energy came back to me
and that's when now I've been more in my own energy
than ever before.
So, letting go of neediness is key to being attractive.
And the way you let go of neediness,
is you let go of attachment.
The attachment to the mother, the attachment to the father,
and what you do is you realize that
you are already holding complete just for being you.
And as you start to go in your own body,
which we'll talk about in a minute,
that makes all the difference world.
So, for this as well, the second thing I wanna talk about
is understanding the frame.
The frame, I wrote it down in my iPad.
The frame control.
So, I found that I would attract,
a lot of this is the inner child work.
When you heal your inner child,
your energy begins to change.
I realized that because of the whole ex step-mom situation,
with her having a strong frame, I had a lack of frame
which this means is I wasn't leading in my own life.
I wasn't doing what I wanted to do
and I had very hard time setting boundaries.
Now, what I've realized though,
is now that I am more in my body than ever before
because what happens is a lot of times empathic people,
they go through trauma when they're growing up
or something happens
and they move out of their bottom three shockers
into their top ones.
They become super intuitive
and they can pick up on everybody else,
but they don't know what they're feeling.
They just know what everyone else is feeling
and they're trying to modify to that.
So, what I've had to learn to do
is I've had to learn how to have boundaries
and how to go more inside of my own body.
And as I've been doing this
my energy has completely transformed to the point to where
some people reached out to me
watch my older videos on YouTube.
People that know me personally
and they've said, "wow,
you're like a different person than you were a year ago."
And a lot of that was me going more inside of my own body
and not spiritual bypassing as much.
I think that that happens a lot in spirituality
is people go through a spiritual awakening,
they become all about 5D consciousness
but then they neglect their own body.
They neglect their own understanding
what they really want or desire.
And when you go more inside of your body
and you start realizing
that a lot of people are projecting their shit on you,
that's when you can start to draw the boundaries
and be like, okay, this isn't okay.
If you allow people to take advantage of you
and you allow things, and you say you're gonna do things
that you don't really wanna do, it's inauthentic,
and it's allowing people to have more power
than they should have.
So one of the most, especially for the masculine in life,
if you're a guy listening to this,
you being in your own frame and you leading in that way
allows the feminine to feel safe.
Now, of men and women
have both masculine and feminine energies inside of them.
So it's either taking down the feminine shield,
taking on the masculine shield,
but this is key for polarity.
Because think about it in sexual attraction.
Sexual attraction comes from polarity.
So as I become more inside of my own body
as I become more leading in my life,
have things that are okay, things that are not okay,
that then allows a frame
for the feminine to come in and then relax.
That was completely different because back in the day
I was changing myself to like give value
or help or try to fix the feminine.
I'd attract a woman that I needed
to felt like I needed to fix.
So, as I've been working on these energies,
it's changed everything because now my cup is full.
Now another part of this
is I had to let go of the feminine wall that I had up.
I was realizing that I didn't normally attract a woman
that had a masculine wall up
where they were afraid of the masculine.
So they had masculine energy activated inside them.
The reason they are afraid of the masculine
is because maybe something happened with one of their dad
or an ex-boyfriend or something like that
so they had a wall up.
Me I had the ex stepmom situation,
so I had a feminine wall up
because I was afraid
that I don't want someone to control me.
I don't want somebody to come in
and do what my ex step-mom did to my dad.
That was a wall,
so what I had to do is I had to forgive that,
I had to forgive it
and realize that that was a unique situation, but forgive
and realize that she was doing the best she can
with where she was
and as I forgave that energy released up
and as that energy released up,
now I am able to get more intimate.
I'm able to feel closer.
So it's a huge dynamic change
but really the name of the game with this whole thing,
of three things you got to give up,
it's really about giving up inauthenticity
but becoming aware of that inauthenticity.
If you study, it's funny,
now that I've gone through this transformation,
is energy transformation.
The third one I'm gonna be sharing with you
is I think gonna change everything for you.
And it's, I've shared it a couple of times
but it's just so powerful.
But, I used to read,
and I used to look into like, watch videos,
like people that were like either pickup artists
or like what got results.
Because I was so confused
because I was feeling that resistance inside of myself.
And what I did is I would study this stuff
and it all while some of it seemed very manipulative,
some of it seemed like didn't resonate,
there was some truth in like
the confidence that people would get
by like going out into the unknown
and like doing things outside of their comfort zone
it would change their sense of identity
and that used to fascinate me.
So I'd read different books.
And the thing that I learned though is that,
now that I've gone through this transformation,
there is no technique, there is no like pick up line.
There is none of that.
It is simply about being
and when you are being from your body,
being an energy of who you really are, that is attractive.
So it is no pickup line.
It is no this to be magnetic.
It is no, this it's not like don't call him back
or I don't know what, all the techniques are,
it's an energy behind it.
You may not call someone back that you didn't resonate with,
so that may have been authentic for you
and may make you more magnetic.
You see what I mean?
Like, if it's real inauthentic.
So for me now that I'm in my body more,
there's nothing else extra that I'm doing.
I'm doing everything I normally did
but it's coming from a new frame,
it's coming from a new energy.
It's coming from the frame
that all my I'm already worthy whole and complete.
It's coming from the frame with whatever I do,
I just own it.
And I have boundaries and there are things that are okay
and there's things that aren't okay.
And that's one of the biggest things.
Now I've done this exercise many times I go out in public
and I do this thing
that my shadow work integration coach taught me.
And it's very simple.
And it's for five or 10 minutes in the morning,
what I do, is I stare at a candle flame.
I feel the separation between me and the flame.
This is what many of you need to hear to be more magnetic
is to actually feel the separation
between you and other people
because you've probably normally felt the connection.
You feel such a connection
that it then becomes kind of manipulative
because you're changing your energy to them.
But when what you do instead is you feel the separation,
you can then feel safe in your own body
and you feel the beauty of your individuality.
Remember people feel what you feel,
people feel what you feel about you.
So if you are feeling in your own body
and you're feeling content, you're feeling happy
and you're okay with that and you feel good about that,
then other people will feel that.
If you're feeling negative emotion, but you're okay,
you're allowing that negative emotion to come up,
then it will naturally resolve.
But you see the key to this
is people feel what you feel about you.
So how can you get more inside of your own body
and actually feel the separation
between you and other things?
So what I do is I do this simple meditation.
I stare at a candle flame,
I feel the separation between me and the candle flame
and what I do is I on the in breath feeling
inside of my own body, I feel that sense of self.
And then I feel the separation.
Then I bring other people into my life to mind,
maybe family members, maybe friends, maybe relationship,
whoever it is.
And I actually feel the separation
and the beauty of that separation.
And what that does is that brings the energy back to me.
Then when people throughout my day
or my week are like, "hey, Aaron, do you want to do this?"
I go inside of my body because now I'm more in my body
and I say, do I wanna do this?
And the answer may be yes or maybe no.
And if the answer is no,
I don't say yes because that's inauthentic.
I say, you know what, I'm gonna pass.
And then a lot of times they'll respect
that even if they wish I was there.
So it's a funny energy thing
but being in your body is the key.
When I go out in public, I go to whole foods
or I go on a hike and I pass people.
The old me would have like seek the validation.
Would have been like, "Hey, how are you?"
And even though if I didn't feel like saying it.
Now, I just go inside of my own body.
The funny thing is by being in my body,
I have more attractive magnetic energy.
People wanna talk to me.
People are even nicer than they normally were
because I'm not trying to manipulate people
and trying to get people to say hi to me
for my own sake of validation.
So as I've gotten more in my body
and felt safe in my own body,
that has allowed me to become more attractive,
become more magnetic.
If you want me to make a meditation
on this exact meditation practice that has changed my life,
like this video and comment below
let me know because I will consider it.
To some I may do.
So, with that being said,
that's the key to having magnetic energy
also raising your vibration is key.
Here's a video here, the most powerful meditation
for raising your dominant vibration permanently
click that video, listen over 21 days,
watch how it changes your life.
I'll also link it below
and raising your vibe is magnetic,
going after your passion is magnetic,
letting go is magnetic.
These are all magnetic things, but the most magnetic thing,
is when you are being you.
Unapologetically no strings attached.
So hope you guys enjoyed that video
and as was always, peace, much love and namaste.